Seeking Help!! - Pawtucket,RI

It has been proven children have a problem having bowel movements because they feel they are loosing a part of their body. When they go in the diaper it is different because it still stays close to their body but once they go in the toilet it actually feels as though they have lost something they need. This may sound gross but I was able to help my son with this problem by having him in the bathroom with me and showing him my bowel movement and explaining to him it was okay to do this and that everyone does. He is three and I have not had any problems since. It did take a few times and I would always comfort him when he himself was going to the bathroom. I would rub his back and ease him through it with a calm voice. I hope this helps you and good luck.

My son just conquered this, he will be 3 in October but was terrified of pooping on the potty. Unfortunately in the beginning I had to keep on top him because he would go in his under wear. Does he have any kind of pattern or time of day? My son would get so upset that he wouldn't even want to discuss a reward for going #2. He still makes a big deal out of it but won't go in his pants. Maybe you could try making him a treasure chest and get a bunch of dollar store toys and each time he goes he can pick something new. We were gonna try that next, but now a reward is working.
Good luck, I know your frustration ((((HUGS))))

A., SAHM to Mikey (3 on 10/26) & Emily 7 months

Well this is a way, it is a bit inconvenient though to start with. Put him on the "potty" for an hour at a time, then take him off for an hour, then put him back on.. Like I said it is a bit inconvenient, but this usually works. Also, when he was little did anyone yell at him for pooping in his diaper, because that could be why he won't go on the potty either. I actually taught my oldest by letting him go into the bathroom with his uncle when his uncle went to the bathroom, so maybe if your husband lets your son go in with him a few times he might get the hang of it too.. Good luck.. V.

Is it possible that your son has some underlying issues? Does he get constipated? Some times if the poop gets too hard, kids won't go because of the fear of pain. Is is going in his pants at the same time every day? I'd talk to your pediatrician who might suggest a possible visit to a gastrointestinal pediatric doctor. My 4 y/o had similar issues and after ging to this type of specialist, we now have hm going on a regular routine, with the help of extra fiber and stool softeners.

Good luck!
M.

My son was just about 4 when he finally stop doing number 2 in his paints. My only advise is that I stoped focusing on it and he just started telling me he had to go. It sounds strang but it worked I was never forcefull with potty training, but when I stop talking about number2 he just started doing. That probley did not help, but maybe it did. Hope so.

S.