I have 2 churches to recommend and one comment. I really get the whole money thing, no one wants to be told over and over that they should give to the church. However, that IS in the bible, and we ARE supposed to do it. I hope that you've given these churches a few visits before deciding that all they want is money. I know most churches have at least 1 sermon on giving/tithing per year and if you just so happened to be at that one sermon, that would stink!
Ok, next. I have attended both Church at the Cross and Compass Christian. Church at the Cross is affiliated (I think) with the Southern Baptist Convention. They have a beautiful campus with a lot of land and a lake on it. The people there are very friendly and welcoming. There are a lot of kid/family activities and it is a wonderful place to be. My children have or will go to the preschool, I taught at the preschool, and have gotten to know the children's minister and several of the staff and it's just a really great church. www.churchatthecross.com. It's located on William D Tate between Mustang & Hall Johnson in Grapevine.
The second church I would recommend is Compass Christian. I attend at the Colleyville loaction, but they have a Valley Ranch, Roanoke, and ??? one more location as well. It is a Christian church, not affiliated with any specific denomonation (at least not to my knowledge). Again, they have great kids programs and a great preacher and service. The music is upbeat and the sermons are very to the point without pointing the finger at you. Some examples of programs we have participated in are a Mission trip for the kids - they had various mission programs for kids aged 1-?? My 1st and 3rd graders participated in this over spring break. They first went to an elderly lady's home and pulled weeds, cleaned windows, etc. They then packed boxes for the soliders overseas, and then headed to Mountasia for some fun. I felt it was completely age appropriate and the time was just right for thier attention span. Recently, the church sponsored a week of Feed the Children. If I understand it right, GRACE tries to provide food for school aged children during the summer at various locations to make sure the kids are getting a chance to eat something while not in school. The church took on a week where we provided the food and served it at the Grapevine Middle School location. My kids and I were able to volunteer, help pick up some items from the church, and then serve the children/families that came. It gave me the opportunity to tell them about how we don't know these families situation, but that they might not be able to provide enough food for their families right now, etc., etc. That's just two examples, but again, both churches are great. Compass' website is www.mycompasschurch.com It's located on the corner of Hall Johnson & Pool in Colleyville.
Keep looking for one that fits your family.