Seeking Advice on Potty Training My 2 Y/o Girl FOLLOW Up

I have 3 kids and I would have to admit that potting training is the thing that frustrates me the most. That is now a thing of the past. I was told about a book that made this process so much easier. It's called "Toilet Training In Less Than A Day" by Nathan H. Azrin and Richard M. Foxx. Now I will admit that it took me more than just a day, but my 2 yr old caught on very quickly and was soon potty trained. He is now 3 and I still have to remind him to go potty, but since using this book's technique my frustration is gone. I have recommended this book to several of my friends and they have had great success to. Hope this helps and good luck.

I have found that with my daughter she would go to the potty the same time i would almost every time and then after a while of doing so she starting wanting to go on the big potty instead of little girl potty.

sounds to me like she is just balking at the pressure. you have very high expectations thinking you can MAKE her potty-train on YOUR schedule...and in 2 weeks at that! i started potty-training my 1st daughter at about age 2 and it took 2 years of trying every method we could think of to finally get her potty-trained at 4 years old! it all just depends on each individual child and their personality. and if you put so much pressure on her ("you HAVE to do this NOW because i NEED you to!!!") she will just shut down (the hiding to pee and poop is the sign that she has already started shutting down emotionally). potty-training needs to be done very patiently, very gently, and you have to make it fun for the child or she will refuse to cooperate
you should ask your daughter's pediatrician for tips and/or look on some parenting websites (http://www.babycenter.com/ is one of my favorites)

My little girl turns 2 next week and I was trying to have the same determination to accomplish potty training by then. We had been making her wear panties during the day most of the summer expect we had to go somewhere. She had routine accidents. Then finally about a month ago, I started really displining her and she did not like that at all. So, according to your method of displine, you might try that. I used a paddle and she did not want to see that coming! She really caught on rather quick once she got that idea. Now it's great most of the time. I feel comfortable taking her to the store, church, etc. I still try to limit her intake before bedtime and when I know that we'll be away from home. She was liking to wear panties also and that helped.

i understand what you are going through. unfortunately our daughter did the same thing. we finally just backed off and a few weeks before her third birthday she decided she was ready and that was that! she went through the nights with only 2 accidents ever!

your daughter just may not be ready right now for this. and we found with ours if you push they will not do it! i know you took the pto for this, but now may not be the time.

i suggest keep encouraging her for the potty and let her know that going in her pants is yucky and little kids do it. but big girls use the potty, like momma...

good luck

Wow! I have three daughters and one son. The girls were very easy compared to my son. I remembered what worked for me was to have them sit on the potty until something happened and then make such a big deal about it until they were ready to go again. We would reward with the flushing of the toilet, and a cheer of (Yeah, you potty, you potty, big girl, Yeah). Make sure she goes 5 minutes after drinking and eating; and always go at least two times before bed. I hope that helps.

L.

I would try to get her on a routine. Take her to the potty after she wakes up in the morning and naps, after all meals, before you bathe her and before she goes to bed for the night. You may want to also limit her drinking during the day(maybe 2-3oz of liquid every so many hours) so that you can wait 15-20 minutes after she drinks the liquid and place her on the potty. The more routine the potty breaks become then she should get the hang of it. Also, use a reward chart and her favorite candy as a reward - make a big deal when she uses the potty. I hope this helps.

I would also have her sit at regular times (upon waking up, after meals and before going to bed). The other thing you might try is to not put any panties on her at all. That may give her a little more urgency. It wasn't totally magic, but my daughter who wouldn't bat an eye about going into panties got a little nervous when there was nothing there to catch the pee/poop. The commando method worked with 3 of my brother's kids and lots of my friends, too. Good luck!

What I did when I was potty training my son was when he told me he did not have to go, I made him stand at the potty and then for a couple of seconds I ran the bathroom sink faucet and the sound of the water made him go. This worked for my son and I hope that it will work for your daughter as well.
Best of luck!
J.

My daughter isn't two yet and has fallen in love with sitting on the potty. I have been looking on line for advice and I might i suggest you look for an article about a women out of Chicago that trians kids in a day.

Basically she foucses 5 hours with them. She fills them up with drinks so they have to pee alot and works though it with them. It's an intersting article and people are swearing by her. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25057503/

My daughter got so into the potty because we started putting the poop from her diaper in there and saying bye bye. A little thing my sister did when she trained her daughter.

Good luck and Thank you for your service!!

B.,

She's not ready yet. Just humor her and let her sit there, but know she is just getting used to the potty. Be patient:)

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C.

As much as we want it to happen on our time, it is her body and needs to happen on her time. So, be patient, be encouraging and don't make her feel as though she is failing because there is nothing worse (as we all know) than feeling like we are dissappointing our parent(s). Encourage, get excited and be joyful... don't push it. My son is 3 and 3 months and still has not gone #2 on the potty. She just might need some time. It is one of the "mysteries" of some children. Good luck.

Sorry, but I think I would hold off and wait until she shows more signs. It doesn't sound to me like she's that ready.

However, since you took leave in order to do this, I would say that lots of people have had luck with those "potty training in a day/week" books.

I waited until my son showed all the signs, and once he did it wasn't a headache for us (him included!). She sounds very normal to me, but maybe not quite ready. Not ALL children are ready to potty train at 2.

I'm a professional nanny and early education specialist and have been in the field for over 20 years.
Unfortunately, there are only so many things you can do to encourage toilet learning, the rest depends on the readiness and willingness of your child. That being said, with your deadline, I'd suggest the fastest way of training....letting your little one go around naked for the next two weeks....they learn much more quickly this way, though it takes a little more cleaning up and vigilence on your part. Also keep a very detailed journal of her toileting patterns so you'll be able to anticipate when she'll likely need to go and get her on the potty BEFORE its too late. When you do use diapers (in public) use the cheap kind that she will feel the wetness with and change her AS SOON as she's wet to help lower her tolerance for a wetness. I have also had luck with using stickers or small "prizes" (not food) for rewarding pottying in the toilet (remember, she has absolutely no incentive to pee in the toilet except to please you and at age 2, pleasing others is NOT the main focus.

Good luck to you and feel free to write if I can be of any support.
L.

Try a "reward system" We trained our 2yr old using a jar and some small rocks. We drew a line on the jar and each time he sucessfully pee'd he got a rock, for poo we gave 2 rocks. When he got to the line he got a reward (go to the jumping place, movie etc). It worked for us. Before he would just go to the corner and say "leave lone".

My daughter is 3yrs old and just this summer she finally got over the potty training. I think that I prolonged it by putting on the training pants. Just stick to regular panties and start by explaining that urine and feces is body trash that needs to go in the toilet. Then, fill up a plastic box with her small toys and give it to her while she sits there and get use to the idea. Make a big deal about it by celebrating with a big thumbs up or a hurray!

My mother gave her some ruffled panties and she bought the story that Cinderella wears princess panties like her and did not like to get them wet. People would give me weird looks because I would tell her, "Don't wet the princess panties."

Read her body language. Watch her little knees buckle or her kind of grabbing her middle part. Messes will happen, but be patient and stick to it. Carry extra clothes in the car and put a towel under her car seat. Soon you will be looking for her and she will be sitting on the toilet all by herself. Good luck. NV

I recently trained our 27 month old. I stayed at home for 3 days and let her just wear a shirt and panties. We had a lot of accidents the first day. After that things have just kept getting better. We had a little potty that went to every room with us. There were several times she sat on it while she watched something on TV. I made sure to treat her very special and she got a treat (M&M) every time she used the potty. After about three days she had the tee-tee down. It has taken a little longer for the poo-poo. I found a toy she likes to play with and keep it in the bathroom. I watched her and figured out her signs for needing to poop. We sit on the potty and play with those toys. The toys were the only way I could get her to sit long enough to poop. It worked for her. It was hard at first for her to figure out how to sit for a little while until tee-tee and poop came out, but she is doing very well now. I hope this is helpful, but know that every child is different. What worked for us might not work for you. Oh, also the wording I used was very important. When I told her to "let" the poop or tee-tee out she did much better. I think she may have felt more in control with that wording. Who knows, but that was what I had to say for her to finally understand.

B., I am sorry you took time off from work. Potty training is just that training. Kids set their own pace and just because Mommy is ready, she may not be. If you force the issue you may end up with more problems. Just relax,it will happen,when is up to her. C

Keep doing what you are doing, but don't expect anything. Praise her for sitting on the potty. That is a big deal. You can't really force potty training.

This may or may not apply to your daughter. My son learned to pee-pee in the potty at 2 but only standing up. He didn't start to poo-poo on the potty until much later. He would sit and try, but ulitimately he couldn't do it sitting down. He would end up hiding in a corner like your daughter. I finally determined he could not control his muscles when sitting down. With practice (and a lot of bribing) he has figured it out. It tooks months. I bribed him with a really good toy the first time he did it. He must have sat there for 20 minutes trying. Hope you get it figured out but don't feel rushed. Two is still really young!

Hi. I used suckers. Those dum dum one.s I put them in the wholes of teh shower curtain so she coudl see them. This worked. The first day I think she sat there thw whleday so she woudl get a sucker when she went. I gave her a succker for the first week eveytime she went in the potty. By then end she woudl just go.

You need to make a game of it, sit her on the potty every half hour or so until she goes potty once so she knows what to expect. Give her a book to read, run water while she is on it and while she sits on the potty talk about the reward she gets if she goes, such as treat, movie, or will read her a book. Once she does it correctly a few times and you respond with pure joy and encouragement. With my grand daughter we use to water the flowers and if she went I would put a small fake flower in it after the flush. She would smile and giggle with joy and every time she went would say lets go water the flowers. The part is getting her to go first few continual times so she understands. There were times we would sit for over 20 minutes. We played word games also during these long times. I want to thank you for your service as my son was killed in Iraq and it is his daughter who lives with us. Potty training can be difficulat but the more fun you make it the easier it is for all. With Casey we use to put cereal inthe potty and he would try and hit it with his urine. Good luck

I had the EXACT problem when I started training my 2yr old. I would bring up potty whenever I got the chance and I think it pushed her into rebellion, till I just let it go and started to subtly point out to her of how everyone else goes but her, all her friends, her dad n me and now after 4 months she goes on her own and does the job finish to end independently !!! Another thing that helped tremendously was this potty training dvd I got for her called POTTY POWER by thinkroo....I would recommend it to anyone who has a girl cause it has a short story about a princess who won't go potty !!!
Hope this helps....

I found that by going into the bathroom at the same time, giving the little one a book to "read" while I was using the bathroom helped.You can either read,or talk comparison potty time to her. Sometimes this helps. You might also try announcing when you have to go potty, and race her to the bathroom, etc. It becomes a grownup activity which all kids strive for.

GOD BLESS you for your service to our country. We are a military family (retired) after my husband put in 27 yrs. We have 4 children: one born at Ft Knox, KY., two in Germany, and the last at Ft Sill, OK. many moons ago.