Seeking Advice... - Chicago,IL

I'm sorry M., but I think asking for a certain type of gift in tacky, no matter how you word it on the invite. No "gifts" should be requested on the invite to begin with. I know you just don't want more junk your kids don't need, but a person has the right to choose their own "gift" for someone else. I think the only thing you could do that would be appropriate is when someone asks you what the kids need/want, say "They are really into books right, that would great!" And then leave it at that. The person can then decide to get a book or not. Under no circumstances do I think you should ask people to give cash or gift cards, that will come off rude in my opinion. After the party, go through the gifts and ther ones they don't need donate to charity or return for a store credit if you want.

Anne, There is no tactful way to ask for any specific gift. What you can do if anyone asks is say something like Right now they are really into books and reading. And leave it at that. good luck
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M.,

There's no polite way to request specific gifts. Like other posters mentioned, IF people ask you for ideas you can mention that they are into books. Or, you can say, "You know, if you're having a hard time deciding, Joey and Johnny LOVE to go "shopping" at Toys R Us. They love looking and looking for the perfect toy. So, if you would rather get them a gift card, I know they would love it." Again, this is only if people ask you specifically.

Just pray for gift receipts. :)

Yes you can request this, but it a bit on the tacky side. A hostess shouldn't dictate what gifts should be brought to a party - the choice of which gift to give is up to the giver. Now, if someone calls and asks (I do this all the time for a kid birthday because I totally understand what you mean about being inundated with toys!) then by all means let them know what the boys are hoping to receive.