A close friend wants to throw me a baby shower for my second child. My first is 2 years old. I thought that you just through baby showers for the first baby. Do you get a baby shower for all the babies??
Mine are 16 months apart. I thought it was odd to have a second shower as well but since it was a boy, and my first was a girl my family and friends did it anyways. It was a lot of fun and I got a lot fo things I needed.
If you are having another girl then do you need very many things? Since it sounds like your friend just wants to do something special I do have one suggestion. Instead of having everyone bring gifts have your friend put together a quilt that the guests can then help "tie". That way you can celebrate the birth of your child with your friends not worry about getting gifts that you probably already have.
As far as I see it, anytime a baby is coming is a wonderful time for a party! Even if you explain that you may not need much, it is a great time for pictures, hugs and good wishes! Not to forget some yummy cake!
My mother, who is old school, claims it's in poor taste to have more than one shower, however, I think it's just fine. I agree with another mom; how would one child feel if they saw pictures of a shower for their sibling, but nothing for them? You should definitely celebrate the coming of another little one, however a shower doesn't necessarily mean you require more gifts! Have a potluck or a bbq! Good luck!
Greetings S. C,
This question comes up a lot in my circle of friends. My answer to your question is that IMHO it is totally fine. Each baby is independent of the other(s) so why not have another shower? It's totally acceptable for someone to have a birthday party every year and receive gifts so what's the biggie about having an occasional baby shower? A diaper shower is also another idea. I think it would be neat for attendees that RSVP to receive a "number" of what size diapers to bring so you don't get a ton of diapers the same size.
ETA: Just got note in the mail from my friend...towards the bottom of the note it says that she will keep me posted when she decides on the date for the baby shower for her second on the way. Her first child is only 1yo.
Each baby deserves a celebration, don't you think. What would the second child say when you have all these memories and pictures of your other childs shower and none for them? :)
If they are the same sex and you feel you already have enough "baby" stuff, have a meal shower. Each person brings a freezable meal for when you have the baby. What would be better than having a week or so of food ready to cook. Call it "A Dish Shower" and include any food allergies on the invite. If the next baby is a boy then you need just as much stuff as you did for your daughter. I say celebrate this baby just as fabulously as you did your first!
K. (Mom of 2 who had 2 wonderful showers)
I say no to that. you should have everything still since your other child is so young. People will give you gifts anyway when the baby is born. why ask for them.
If she wants to throw you a shower, go for it. I didnt have a babyshower for my second daughter only because they are a year and a half apart and same sex. So you could say I just do the hand me downs to my youngest on clothes.
If someone offered and I was going to have a baby of the opposite sex, I would go for it.
Its up to you. If you feel uncomfortable then dont do it.
Good luck on your decision.
Hey,
I had a baby shower for each baby, and I found it helps, b/c you have everything you need there. My first two children were ony 14 months apart, so we reused a lot of things. But having a baby shower doesnt just have to be a bout the gifts, its about spending time with friends and family before the baby is here, and even if you have a shower after the baby is here. My 2 nd shower was mainly full of clothes, and the first full of the necessities, car seat, cribs, etcs. So have fun with it, play games, eat, and relax.
M.
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Yes - a baby shower for each and every baby! It's a celebration of the baby, so of course each baby deserves one!
If you have all you need, then follow some of the other ideas - frozen meals, a quilt, etc. Or a diaper shower is good, too - you can always use more diapers! But, I found that there were a number of things I didn't get with my first that I really wanted for my second, so I registered again (just because most people want to know what you need)!
If people don't believe in a second shower, then they won't come, but don't let that deter you! And Miss Manners says it's appropriate to have a shower for each baby, by the way :o)
How about a "Welcome Baby" party after the baby is born? If you still have a lot of stuff from your daughter, you may not NEED to have a shower, but having a "welcome Baby" party would give your friends and family to gather and celebrate the birth of your baby and meet him/her at the same time. Many will probably still bring gifts.
