SAHM Needs Friends

I think all of the suggestions below are good ones and I really don't have much to add beyond them, but I did want to say that I feel exactly the same way you do. I have a 14 month old and I am still working three days a week which is great but it does make it hard to tap into a group of friends. All of my work friends are at work during the day and it has been hard to meet SAHM friends and when I do it is hard to nurture the relationship because I have to fit all of the household stuff and childcare stuff into two week days. It seems that when I do get invited to something with my son it is always on a work day so I have to say I can't go a lot and typically SAHM have a large enough circle that if you say no once or twice they take you off of the invite list. I do try setting up my own playdates and inviting other moms to the park, arboretum, etc. but you're right, it feels like I'm hitting on them and it is tough to break into an already established group. The only advice I can offer is to keep trying and to keep reaching out. Join some type of moms club and keep putting yourself out there. At least that is my plan. The worst that can happen is you plan a playdate and it ends up being just you and your kiddo which in the grand scheme of things is not all that bad. Good Luck!

I would definitely reconsider joining a moms group. Dues are usually very minimal, and the benefits are enormous. Many groups, such as MOMS Club and MOPS organize playgroups, mother's night out, field trips around town or around the metroplex, special speakers to talk about relevant topics, etc. It's not only a great way to make friends, it's a great way for your children to meet playmates and for you to learn more (about parenting, local resources, etc.).

Here's a list of support groups in the Lewisville Flower Mound area:
http://familyeguide.com/Support-Groups.html
I'm sure you have similar groups in Plano.

Good luck!

D.,

I would definitely join a mom's group. I love the church one I'm involved in, and the dues pay for the childcare while we have our meeting. Through it I have been introduced to some wonderful women who take care of each other. It's definitely a group that I love being a part of. I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old, and we have so much fun.

I've heard great things about MOPS groups, but have never been a part of one, so I can't tell you much about them.

If you decide that a church group is the way to go, but haven't found one you like, shoot me a note. I know ours is getting ready to start a new group for moms, or you could join an existing one.

Hope you find something that suits your needs!
H.

D.,
It's really hard to meet people, but that will change when you son starts school. Suddenly everyone will be pretty much in the same place and it will become easy to find friends.

In the meantime. Take your daughter to story time at the library and to the park early in the morning, or after it cools off. Visit the pool. That's where the other Mom's will be and you can strike up conversations and may be able to find someone you would like to get to know better.

Ask your church to have an event with parents of young children (don't have to be new). Where I worship they have a "tot" service and pot luck dinner once a month. Maybe you can head up the committee to start something like that.

Try a local Baby Boot Camp or Stroller Fit class. You bring your kiddos with you to workout and meet other moms too. I met a great group of women in Allen that way.

Try meetup.com
These are groups of groups. Any kind of group you can imagine that have the same thing in common with you. Some may charge a fee for the website but most do not. I worked at home for many years and it was hard to meet people.
Try it you'll like it.
Lonie