the house before my family comes when most of my family lives like slobs anyhow? I mean not ever does my family try to make their house hospitable when I come over...which in turn makes it so I never want to go over (now I do live 3 hours away so this is not very often...but a few of my family members are coming in a few hours and I feel like I need to get the sheets changed (cause I know I don't like sleeping on sheets someone else has slept on) and well tidy the house up but it's not even worth it cause they are just going to trash my house the next few days anyway.
I do konw why I do this because this is who I am but UGH :( Please don't get me wrong my house is NOT spotless, or clutter free but I hope that people can come into my house and touch my toilet or counters and not feel grose after doing so...if you know what I mean.
Same reason that you treat everyone like a lady or a gentleman...not because they are, but because you are.
I clean like a madwoman anytime someone is expected at my home.
It sounds like you are a good person who is just frustrated with someone else's problems. Let it go and be yourself.
Just for the laugh, when my MIL was leaving I told her to leave the bed because I was going to wash the sheets. She knew my FIL and his 2nd wife were coming in next and she said just leave them, we're all family. My husband laughed and said Mom probably wiped her butt all over them for Linda.
Yes, I washed them.
I'd say you clean up because you take pride in your home and it makes you feel better. I also clean before people come over. I think it's more welcoming and I want the house to appear as though I was expecting company and wanted it to be nice for them. When I'm expected at someone's house and they don't bother to have it a little tidy it makes me think they don't care about me or their house.
Because you know if you don't slide back the starting point you will have the health department at your doorstep eventually?
I say treat others as you want to be treated. Maybe they'll get the hint someday, otherwise you know you've done a good job being a hostess. I know I'd rather stay at a home that doesn't feel gross. I always be sure to clean more when people are coming over. You can't help it they're slobs, but maybe one of them will be inspired by you to clean up their act.
I like to tidy up before people come over, too.
If your slovenly guests are staying the night and don't put out a lot of effort for you, you now know what their level of expectation should be, right? I'd strip the beds they might sleep in and leave the sheets/bedding folded on the bed. They can make the bed themselves when they retire. This isn't a big deal in our family and no one takes it as a slight. Then, make everything else to your own standards and let it go.
I am the same way. My husband has his best friend coming in from out of state tomorrow and even though he is not staying with us, today I am cleaning like a crazy person (after I am off the computer, lol!) just incase he stops by. I can't have anyone see my house a mess. I am kind of a clean freak though, but I do have my lazy days where I don't even do the dishes at night
You do it because it's who YOU and and you're more relaxed if you know the house is picked up. So, do what you need to do so you can relax and don't worry about the rest.
I wonder that all the time too, my kids are great at cleaning up after themselves but we do it several times a day. When you find the answer message me will ya?
I have relatives that are the same way and the way I see it is that they may not care how we see their house but I definitely care how they see my house. I think it does leave an impression on them when they come over and see a clean house and realize that I can keep it clean even with 2 kids and a full time job. I like the feeling of a clean house and I don't think that it is inappropriate to ask them to pick their stuff up or throw their trash away. It is a sign of respect.
I used to go on a mad tear to deep clean before people came over, then I realized I was being silly. No one but me can tell the difference between 'normal clean' and 'scrubbed the grout with a toothbrush'. If I had people sleeping here, then yes, bedding absolutely needs to be clean. I've been the guest given a bed with dirty sheets before. I can overlook a lot of messes, but that's just icky.
I have to wonder why people that 'trash your home' are coming to stay with you. I wouldn't put up with rude or disrespectful behavior from others in my own home, even if they were family.
If they are coming uninvited with the assumption that you're going to let them stay in your home, I suggest you make a hotel reservation and give them the info when they arrive. If you invited them and offered up your home...lay down the house rules. If they don't like it, they can leave.
