D.W.
N.,
One reason you can't get over it is b/c you (like most of us) spent 9 months reading all the books about creating a birth plan, creating the perfect nursey, blah blah blah. Pregnancy is a money making industry and we were constently being told what to do and expect.
I don't think you 'get over' it as your friends suggest. I think you choose to not focus on it and focus on the positive. I think that is the one thing that has gotten me through becoming a wife, mother, working mom. As women we can be so detailed oriented that we create sceniros (sp) of how things are going to be. I thought I would be married in my 20's and have a great husband, great career, well mannered kids and a clean house. The reality is I didn't get married till I was 37. My husband is great but great in a different way than I pictured. I have 2 kids (by C-cections) but I also got a stepson living with us who is challenging to no end. I thought I would use formula and bottlefeed, but ended up trying & LOVING breastfeeding and did that for a year each kid. Let's not even talk about my house! My co-workers without kids, don't get why i'm so forgetfull or why I stop working at 5:00pm instead of 7:00. Nothing usually goes as planned, so don't be so hard on yourself.
Please see your doctor about PP and make sure everything is fine there. Be sure to get as much sleep as you can (wink, wink), don't be afraid to ask for help and try to focus on what went right. Since you are an artist, try expressing your feelings through art, or write a short story about your frustrations. You are going to feel a lot of emotions as you grow fully into motherhood, and that's ok. You didn't do anything wrong by having the c-sections. You did everything right by following the doctors advice for getting your kids safely into the world.
~D.~