My teenage daughter is currently questioning her sexuality, I asked her if she had developed a crush on any females and she said she thinks she has one on her best friend. She has never had a crush on anyone but male celebrities and fictional characters before. I don't know what I should tell her, or if she is bisexual for that matter.
why tell her anything? she doesn't need you to tell her what to think or how to be.
listen to her and support her.
teen crushes are often not indicative of sexuality either way.
khairete
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I think that a lot of this depends on how old your daughter is. Has she had a romantic relationship before? I think it is great that she is comfortable enough to talk with you. Just let her be who she is and let her know you can and want to keep talking with her.
My son is gay and I have gone through this process. I will tell you that when I first found out, accidentally by reading a school notebook where he had written a note to his crush, that my son told me at first that he thought he was bi. Later on he told me he was definitely gay and that he mentioned being bi because he was worried about how I might take the news. (I am completely fine with my son being gay, by the way.)
I would tell you that you should caution your daughter about mentioning her crush to her best friend. This kind of scenario can go horribly wrong for all involved, so let her know that while being gay is not something to be ashamed of that she needs to be cautious about who she tells and when and why. I hope that makes sense.
I went through a phase for about 2 years where I thought I was bi...passed pretty fast honestly. BUT don't push her feelings aside. Be happy she felt she could confide in you. Best you can say is "you can come to me with anything without me judging you" and just keep communication open.
First off, you didn't state her age. I believe all of us have crushes at some time with a same-sex person. This doesn't mean it's sexual and it doesn't "make" one bisexual or gay. Many times, when we are young, we see/know someone who is attractive, funny, smart, stylish, whatever and admire them and construe that as a "crush". I don't think you should "tell her" anything. Simply be there as a parent, ready to listen. If she has questions, she will either figure it out herself or ask you. Just accept whatever it is that she has to tell you.
I'm thinking she is 13. If so, she's young, she's just starting to be aware of specific characteristics that she likes or doesn't like in other people. Those characteristics can often be gender neutral, but I think it is great to talk to her about what she does like about people. And when there are characteristics that she identifies that are important to her, encourage her to develop those things in herself. Also, it sounds from your prior question like her best friend needs her right now. And "being needed' is a powerful feeling no matter how old we are.
With all due respect (assuming this is a legitimate post), why are you asking your daughter this question? My advice would be ... NOT to. In a parent-child relationship, discussions of sexuality should be limited to making sure both partners treat each other with kindness and with limitless respect. In heterosexual relationships, birth control is also an appropriate topic of discussion.
What you should tell her is: "I love you. I respect you. I support you. I respect your PRIVACY, but you can also come to me with any questions, about anything, anytime."
That's it. Over. The end.
People are just what they are. Gay or straight. I think about what ill say to my daughters if they come to me one day with this issue... I think ill tell them to look into their heart and see who they have "special feelings" for. Everyone may question their sexuality especially if their young and their peers are possibly bisexual and/or gay. Feelings and attraction however are not so interchangeable in physical relationships. So I would focus on that. Who you feel attracted too naturally will say more than reasoning out who you think you should "be with."
I hope you're a troll......for any child's sake, your're a troll.....which means your a teenage girl screwing around on the site!
Well first of all I am heterosexual. I know girls that I was friends when I was a teenager. I am in my 40s. They looked up to and idolized that person. I think now with the sexual so clearly defined. Everything is more acceptable ..which it should be. However having all this expose could expose your daughter that we werent savy to at her age. She coud have a wow she is really cool..it doesnt have to be a crush.
It hards being a teenager to begin with. Just tell her you love her uncondtional.
Just let her be and never judge her, just support her as she explores.
