Question About Having More Children

how old are you first of all??
cause I'm 38! I have 2 girls 6 & 7&1/2. (17mths apart)
ok... he is daing a girl with a 1y&1/2 yr old and a 7yr old.
I'm dating a guy with no kids!
He will want at least 1 of his own with me!!!!!
OK... (and he is 40)
so... I guess "our kid" would say good bye to his/her 2sisters EVERY other weekend??? I think that as they get older!!! I'd ask my X adn his wife .... to please consider taking the girls sister/brother .. too! SOMETIMES
and I would also do the same trading for them... in the furture
You are worrying about toooo much tooo soon! have 1 now, then along with PRAYING, take it slow, Gosh girl,. have 1 and then just see how it feels. I DO understand!!!!!
But that child that would be ya'lls would be special! and your current hubby could spen more time with him/her and I just don't think it would be as bad as your thinking it would!!!!!! I really don't. It will matter how the baby is treated!

C.,
I have three children who are 16, 13, and 6. The first two are 2 1/2 years apart and then we have a huge gap. Our youngest was a surprise. My situation is a little different because I am not divorced but my older two have always been able to do things that my younger son can not do. This has always caused some problems with my younger son and I have often wondered if I should have had another child closer to his age. Sometimes I think maybe I should have but most of the time I'm glad that I did not.

As your children get older they will have activities that they are involved in. It is hard to get everyone where they need to be and still sit down to a family meal. I think the more kids you have the harder it is to keep everything balanced.

I cherish the times that I have my youngest son to myself when my older two are off doing something with their friends. I have also learned to have plenty of playmates for him. I don't feel that I have set my youngest child up for a life of failure because he has siblings that get to do things that he doesn't. I think that as long as we love him and give him the attention that he needs he will be fine. I also think that children need to learn how life works and that sometimes we don't get to do or have what we want.
Of course, my oldest two children think their brother is a pain and that he is spoiled because he doesn't have the responsiblities that they have. After being a mom for sixteen years and an educator for almost twenty I will tell you that no matter what you do you will always feel you could have done something better and your children will always find something that you could have done better, especially when they become teenagers.

So after all that what I am saying is that if you and your husband want another child then go for it but don't have a fourth just so third isn't left out.

Hope this helps!

T.

What if you're husband hadn't come along with a child? Then your girl would be an only child, not know any better and still be living a fulfilled life. Personally, I think your reasoning for wanting two more children is very selfish. Will you be able to provide adequately for two more children? What about 4 college educations (not to mention at the same time if these kids are all close in age)? 4 weddings? 4 proms? 4 school activity fees? 4 plane tickets on vacations?
I'm a parent of one child and we decided not to have any more children because we want to provide for our child as much as possible. It's very obvious that in this day and age not enough parents are thinking into the future. It's only about how many children they want because that's what you've dreamed of or you miss having a baby or you want someone for your child to grow up with. And then you'll let your kids fend for themselves when they get older b/c you had too many children to be able to take care of them anymore.

We have twin nephews and a neice. There's 6 years between them. I don't think she feels like a "third wheel" at all. If your baby is a boy, there's automatically a difference in activities and desires anyway. Regardless of age, there's no telling if your kids will be close. With our nephews, they are twins, but one is actually closer with his sister than with his twin! Good luck with your decision.

C.,

I do have twins (who are very close) and a child that is 2 years older and one that is 4 years younger. "The baby" (who is now 8)has it made because he has always had alot of attention from his older siblings. And yes, there are times that he is the only one home but he has his own friends and it never occured to us that he would feel left out, it is just the way it is. He has a great relationship with his older brothers and sister and sometimes is included and sometimes isn't. I realize being a blended family does make a difference but all three kids will have different circumstances. Someone told us that we would never regret having another child and might regret not having one and I believe that to be true. I can't imagine not having our 4th child. Maybe you should just take it one step at a time. I never "planned" to have 4 kids. Good luck!

Ok Your girls will be 5 yrs apart from this new baby...Trust me some of your concerns are way over board relax and be calm I have 4 children and we only wanted 3 the last one was a surpise!!Children are gifts from God..If you are bless to have children do so!!Because the gap is so big! Your worries are less the older girls will love the lil one and the lil one will enjoy to have her/him time to himself with you...You will be fine and I understand he wants one more only hey you never know it might happen again like you said or have twins..Whatever your decision is just know that is it not that serious...YOu will be fine and the kids as well as long as you show love unconditionally among all....