*ETA: TELL your Husband, HE CAN GO visit his dear Mommy. YOU are not going, nor your child/children. Because, you all have commitments. And your son's lessons, is a commitment to him. AND your children goes to school. And that is a RESPONSIBILITY to your children. As a parent. And your Husband, has to learn to deal with that.
Is he a Dad and Husband first??? Or his Mommy's little boy?
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I would be irked too.
So... your Husband is being a Mama's Boy.
Time to quit, that.
TELL him.
Instead of telling MIL "I'm not sure we can make it...." I would have told her right then, that "we cannot, make it."
Then, your Husband is expecting you to change your son's lessons, for his Mommy. To accommodate his, Mommy.
I would be irked with that.
Then, your Husband is hardly home and is out of town a lot. So he does NOT... handle the kids or the home, like you do.
And you all just moved.
And what about getting the home all settled in and organized?
What does Husband, do about that?
Seems like nothing.
I would be irked, too.
Then, his Mommy Dearest... expects everyone to do what she wants, even if she has her own plans and trip. So she's selfish.
I would be irked, too.
To me, YOU all should NOT have to, rethink your plans.
You have your plans.
You do not have to... go running to MIL's house every time she bellows.
BUT... your Husband, cannot stand up to her.
And instead... he CHOOSES to make you/his kids... crazy, by expecting you all to cave in, to his Mommy.
No, you are not wrong for your feelings.
MIL is high maintenance, and your Hubby is wimpy, to stand up to her.
And you do, everything.
Hubby does not.
And doesn't even try... to back you up.
I would be irked, too.
Time for you to sit him down... and TELL HIM... no more.
That is crazy.
AND... make a LIST, a "TO DO LIST" for your Hubby, for the things HE NEEDS TO DO DAILY IN THE HOUSE AND WITH THE KIDS.
He is not a hotel, guest.
He is a Dad. A Husband. And his family, should be looked out for.
Or, is he just going to continue to be a Mama's Boy?
AND, what about YOUR family???
Can you all or do you all... see them? Or just your Husband's side of the family?
Make your Husband, responsible.
Your Husband AND his Mommy... are being RIDICULOUS!
Show him, these responses.
You all did EIGHT TRIPS ALREADY for crying out loud, since the Holidays.
For some people, they don't even take that many trips in a lifetime!
Your Husband... has to be a Man.
And stick up for his WIFE. And his family, and stand up to his Mommy.
Your Husband is married, to you. Not his Mommy.
And he has kids.
Does he not know, that?
And about what keeping up a home and a Wife and kids, means?
Oh yah, but he is hardly home and is out of town, regularly.
How convenient, for him.
I would be, pissed.
The problem is: you all will FOREVER be doing these trips or not. Because, your Husband cannot tell his Mommy, no. And expects YOU to deal with it.
Cowardly.
And even if you all don't have plans and just want to stay home or can't afford all these trips... then what?
MIL will control all of your family's "free" time, or not.