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This may seem like a strange question but why not.
You have two families brought together by divorce and remarriage. One family has older sibs that went to private Catholic high schools, like their parents, like their grandparents. The other family has always done public education all the way through.
Does it matter in this new family if the younger sibs of the private school kids go to private high school while the public younger sibs go public?
Does it change if the family is only blended on the weekends?
I wanted to get a few responses without the background. I didn't want an opinion of me distorting the answers.
We are looking at high schools for Andy, the one with Autism Spectrum. He can either go public and be a bully magnet or go to the same small all boys high school his big brother went. I can assure you my older son was almost as quirky as Andy is. He will have friends at the private school because most of the kids are kinda quirky too.
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I would want to choose the best education system for my child according to what my pocket book could afford.
In my blended family, my son attends a public county high school while my step son goes to a private high school, and my nephew who lives with us goes to the local high school but is considering taking his GED just to get out of there. He doesn't like his school's policies.
No drama no problem it just is what it is. We, the parents, don't make a big deal out of things, so neither do the children.
oooohhhh...things that make you go hmmmm...
If the family can afford private - I would send them all to private - but that's me...
I don't think it should make a difference though - especially if the kids are in middle school and they have built relationships and friendships with these kids...
Ask the kids what they want..
I was sent to private high school in part because my older sister's experiences in public high school were very bad. She fell in with the wrong crowd and ended up transfering to three different high schools. She never graduated. We are very different people (then and now) and I cannot say for sure that her experiences would have been different had she been sent to a private school, but I do think she would have had a better experience. This is a hard call because each child in a family is so different. What might be best for one might not be best for the other. In our town, we have a small Catholic high school with solid academics and a very safe, supportive environment. However, I know several families that send their children to the public high school primarily for sports as the public programs are more elite and their children are very focused on athletics.....
No, I don't think it matters. Everything does not need to be equal for kids. In fact, that's impossible. What is appropriate for each individual child is what should be done.
I think you should find the right school for each child and not worry about whether it is private or public (unless other factors such as cost are involved). You know what is best, and you know the schools in your area. While growing up my family wasn't blended, but we had 3 older siblings and 2 younger ones. I was the youngest. The older 3 always went to public school from K through high school. The one just older than me by 3 years went to public school until 4th grade when I started 1st grade at a private Catholic school which we both attended through high school. It was not strange at all for us. My older siblings do like to tease my sister and I about our private education from time-to-time, but nobody really cares. They are not jealous and loved their public school experiences.
I wouldn't think so, as long as both sets of parents are able to attend their respective childrens' events. Schedules may be tricky, but you do what you can do!
In non-blended families, many chose to do what makes sense for the individual child. Again, scheduling is tough, but each learner is different!
No, it shouldn't make a difference. The blended family and public/private school issue aside, wouldn't you put each of your children in the school best suited for them? Just because one school is good for one child doesn't mean it's the best choice for your other ones.
My only issue with the blended family thing is that I would think that going to the same school would help the kids become better friends. But, you know, maybe not. Do what you all think is best for your family.
I have four kids. At one time I had one in a public HS, two in two different Christian schools and one at a private nonCHristian preK.
Now I have three at home, two I homeschool, one is in the public HS. My Homeschoolers are going to public school next year, unless we have problems. Then I will either put them in one of the Christian schools or continue to homeschool. And I will make the decision regarding them individually, so one may stay in public one may not.
Even in the same family I have had kids in different school settings. Our rule: Every one supports everyone else's activities.
So for a while we were going to four different schools' activities.
