Problems in Paradice. . .

Make sure you tell him how you feel and that also with your hormones now going out of wack that it is really upsetting you. Since it has only been 4 months since you gave birth. I know it was around 3-4 months after my B&G twins that my emotions got out of wack, trying to get back to normal. It's also like a post partum thing too. So if he thinks your going crazy tell him it could be due to the hormones trying to regulate themselves again. But that is just how you feel right now.
Also since this is a lil sister. Did he have to take care of her a lot as a child? When you grow up having to watch over someone, it's hard to think of them as an adult.

The comparison of yourself to the sister may be what brought this to the forefront, but avoid focusing on the comparison. Focus on communicating what you need from him without involving examples that include his sister(s) (if this is possible).

You might start the conversation by talking about the great ways the twins have changed your lives then talk about the stresses they bring. This opens a door for you to ask him if, due to your new situation, there is anything different he needs from you. Then you can turn the focus to what you need from him in terms of emotional support as an individual (not just a mom).

Best Wishes and Good Luck
M.

Oh you poor thing.... Be honest with your husband and let him know that you need some attention. There is nothing wrong with saying what you want. He can't read your mind. Go out on a date and let hm know how wonderful it is to have his attention to yourself! Maybe you just nees some space in your home for your FAMILY. Come on, you have TWINS!!! How hard that would be! Of course you feel "left out" or ignored. Just tell him how you are feeling. Just don't say, "you make me feel"..... insted say, "I am feeling"
Hope this helps

I know when I have company over I try to spend a lot of time with them and talk with them, and sometimes I ignore my husband, normally company stays only a couple hours, or maybe a weekend and that is it, however with her living with you guys it is like permanent company. I would not discount that he is not interested in you, that is a problem and needs to be addressed. whether you guys go out on a date and spend time with just the two of you, or you set aside maybe an hour after the twins have gone to bed that you can just sit and chat and catch up on what is going on. He needs to be interested in you, and vis versa. I would ask him if he would mind after the kids go to bed sitting on the porch, or living room, or where ever and just talking, tell him that you are feeling a bit disconnected and want to just catch up, dont' bring up his sister and their relationship, make this completely about the two of you. And make arrangements for a sitter at least every two weeks and tell him you guys are going out. The time with just the two of you will strengthen your relationship and will help bring the two of you closer.

Marriage Conseling sounds like a good idea. And if you just tell him how you feel, he may not even know that you feel that way or notice he's doing it. Sometimes men can't see the obvious! Good Luck!