Preschool Potty Accidents

Has there been a change in her life that she might be uncomfortable with? Do the accidents happen at school, and might there be something she doesn't like at school? When I was a nanny, the 3yo boy was fully potty trained before beginning preschool (at a school that required all kids to be potty trained). He un-potty trained himself in order to get out of school--he knew that if he soiled his pants, his mom or I would be called to come pick him up, which is exactly what he wanted! We made clear that intentional "accidents" were not okay, by talking to him and taking away priveledges, but also rewarding when he did well (e.g. a trip to McDonalds after school if he stayed in all day). We also talked to him about school, and what he did and didn't like. I actually went with him for a few days and stayed in the classroom with him until he felt comfortable with the other kids. Once he got comfortable in school, the accidents went away! GL!

I'm wondering if it has something to do with your younger daughter starting to potty train. At almost 4, I'm guessing you expect her to go when she needs to go and that's that. But her younger sister is probably getting rewarded for going, since she's just learning. And you probably go with her just in case she needs help? Perhaps she is jealous of the extra attention that your younger daughter gets?

I'm going through sort of the opposite situation. My oldest is in the midst of potty training. She does great most days, but I notice she does better if we pay more attention to her and what she is doing.

She had been trying before my son was born. Then after he was born, she quit. Then she started back only at school. And finally now she is going to the potty for me too. I was the last she would go potty for and I think it's because I have to pay more attention to my son with breastfeeding at this time. Her teacher told me it's natural and it will go away because she has to adjust as well.

The only thing I can think of is to include your older daughter in your younger daughter's potty training activities somehow. Or do something with her after you finish helping your younger one on the potty.

When I am feeding my son, we will sit down and watch my daughter's TV shows together. And then when he's done, then my daughter and I will go to the potty for her. It's not always easy. But I find that it helps.

Good luck! I hope this helps.

Im not sure that there would be any outward signs of a bladder infection. sounds like that is what she has. I would not restrict water this unless its close to bed, that could make a bladder infection worse. I get bladder infections with no fevar or pain just the urge to go a lot...

HTH
A. J

My son wasn't having day time accidents, but he could not stay dry at night. We were referred to a urologist. He did an u/s. My son was very constipated. He started on Miralax. He stayed dry and has never had a problem again.