Pregnancy

Here's what I would have LOVED while I was pregnant:

*Help with the housework, either you do it or hire a housekeeper.

*Pampering products: herbal teas, lotions, bubble bath.

*Pregnancy books. The 2 I really liked are off the beaten path, so to speak: "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth", and "From the Hips".

*See if she wants to do a cast of her belly.

Do they have a good camera for recording all their moments? I would buy her a good one and say it is to take a picture each month of her growing belly, and of course all the million baby pictures they will take:) You could pair it with a photo album or scrap book. She'll have ultra sound pictures too she will need a place to keep those safe.

New dads to be are harder. It really does not become "real" to them til they see the new baby. He'd probably think it was cool if someone gave him a pack of cigars in pink and blue, or got him an obnoxious t-shirt with a dad changing a baby boy's diaper and peeing up at him. That sort of stuff guys can relate to and laugh at. As much as my husband likes to research and read about things he never once picked up any of the dad to be books he got as gifts. Now the coffee cup that says #1 dad is always in the sink:)

Get her maternity clothes! My mom did that for me and it was so nice that I didn't have to spend my own money on clothes that you'll be cursing at the end and be glad to put away. So... I think that would be a great start. My suggestions... Old Navy maternity or Gap maternity. Way better than motherhood maternity in my opinion.

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Pay for them to have pregnancy pictures (belly shots)

Offer to help with housework while she's tired and exhausted

Offer to help set up the nursery

This may not be the sexiest idea, but I just loved reading about pregnancy. If she doesn't have any books, "What to Expect When You're Expecting" is always nice and informative. But I loved "Your Pregnancy Week By Week" since it counted by week, the way my dr did, and because it had lots of illustrations of what baby looked like now. And "A Child Is Born" is an amazing book of in-utero photos that can really make the experience feel so much more real. Maybe a book or two along with a pregnancy journal (or a promise to help her keep one, since my best intentions never worked out) would be a nice way of saying congratulations and also helping her to enjoy the pregnancy.

Congratulations!

What about a Girls' Day Out to have lunch and shop for maternity clothes? This would be a wonderful opportunity to look at nursery furniture and bedding as well. I remember my mom doing this for me 31 years ago, and my daughter and I repeated the ritual 6 years ago when she was pg with her first child. It's an exciting time for both of you!

I saw a book the other day for expecting dads, but I can't recall the name of it. You could probably Google it and find one that is appropriate.

Congratulations!

The best gift I received from a friend when I was early in pregnancy was a box of Pregnancy tea. They sell quite a few brands at coop or natural food stores. She put a ribbon around the box and threw it in a gift bag. It was practical, thoughtful, useful and if anything had happened to the baby it would have been easy enough to get rid of and wasn't necessarily sentimental. My guess is that if your daughter was trying so long to get pregnant, she might be extra concerned about miscarriage etc in the first trimester. I'd hold off on clothes and toys.
Congratulations!