Pottytraining - Compton,CA

If you are really ready to potty train, skip the pull-ups! Both of my kids were on the early end of potty training, we did not do the pull ups. What worked well for them (boy and a girl at about 20months) was investing in the "rubber pants". One step Ahead carries them. They are padded undies with a vinal cover to keep the peep in. You do have to wash them carefully (vinegar and Trader Joe's detergent worked well for us), but way cheaper than boxes of pull ups.

We also just did the 30 minute regimen. Every 30 minutes we sit on the potty for a few minutes. There is a small prize (one mini m&m) for sitting through the songs and reward for actually eliminating. It took a few messy weeks and we went through a lot of Resolve, but it did work.

If she is ready, keep it up!

Hi,
Maybe wait until she is 2 or 2 and a half. Maybe she isn't quite ready yet!
When she is ready - just go to "big girl underwear" and forget the pull-ups all together!

Good luck!
A.

Keep her in diapers until SHE is ready. When it's child led, potty training doesn't take very long at all. If it's parent led, it takes FOREVER and frustrates you both! Trust me, I've been through it three times.

What's the rush? Why not let your daughter proceed at her own pace? The psychological impact of her experience with this developmental phase will imprint her for life and shape her view of her abilities to navigate her own goals and pressure from others to comply with their goals.

Let it be her task to learn, not yours to teach. Allow her to feel comfortable sitting on the potty when she wants to without imposing arbitrary shoulds on the process.
If you don't mind a biblical reference, consider that the verse says "Train up a child in the way HE [or SHE] should go"--not the way you or Joe Blow should go, but the child's right path. Our job is to pay attention and support the child in meeting their own developmental challenges.

I have over 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist. I've also observed first hand how my son took an intermittent interest in sitting on the potty from 19 months and finished his supported self-training by 2 3/4 years without rewards/discipline in a way that he can take full ownership of his competence. The long term rewards that come from that are priceless. Consider the future you wish for your child and let your decisions be guided from that.

You can do it.....I did my daughter at the same age but we have has a setback this week with lots of acidents because we went on vacation. Go naked for 3 days.....no pullups....it helps if you have tile floor....take her to the potty every 45 min or 15 min after drinking. Sing songs and distracter her as long as possible so she goes. You can even try treats like 1 mini m & m. Put her fav baby doll or animal on the potty first and make a pee pee sound and praise the toy a lot.... then say your turn.....if she doesn't go....dont put pull ups on her after but watch her. As soon as she starts to go put her bach on quick and if you get one drop in the toilet praise her and if you want give a treat. After 3 days put underwear on her except for nap and bed time. That way you know when she starts to go. Then you can take her every hour to the potty. You will still have accidents but i havent changed a poopy diaper in 5 months and she is 23 mo old. And she pees in the potty about 4 times a day. When its hot like this and she drinks all day you will have lots of accidents because they pee like every 10 min.

Why are you pushing your 19 month old to potty train - no wonder? Most kids train at 3 years old, or there abouts. Unless it is HER idea - give the kid a break. If you push, it will take even longer. She's not being stubborn, she is being 19 months old.

Hi N., you are starting early so that's good, weather girls are easier or not I'm not sure, to me they are all easy, it really is more about the person and training the child than it is about the child. Pulls ups are a no no, because they are pull on diapers, they may say training pants but they are not, you need to get regular training pants, If she is peeing on herself when you let her up, keep her on there longer, once she goes reward her, i used M&M's in a clear see through jar with a ribbon, e m&m's for pee four for poop. Potty training doesn't have to be a battle, I had my 3 children trained early, my first son was 20 months old and trained my second son was 19 months, and my daughter was 22 months, the only reason she was later because early into training we got orders to go to japan so with all the details of an overseas move I decided to wait till we got there. N. you are going to get alot of responses telling you she's to young, please don't listen, she's not to young, I potty trained all my daycare kids as well, and started then between 19 and 20 months and I had them all trained before they turned 2. Remember reward and discipline, make it fun. J. L.

From a pediatric nurse perspective, 19 months is a little too young to expect a child to be potty trained. I have seen it, but rarely does it happen and last. They just aren't developmentally able to hold and go on demand. They usually aren't mature enough either. If you do get her potty trained, she may recess back to wetting her pants/bed a few months down the road. I would suggest stopping all together and restarting when she turns 2.

19 months???? To young. She is not ready. If she is actually sitting on the potty that that is wonderful, but I think you might be expecting to much.
The only thing you can do to speed things along is to watch her diaper. If it stays free of pee for at least 30-45 minutes, then have her sit on the potty.
I do have an on line potty training book. If you would like it, then shoot me an email at ____@____.com and I'll send it to you, or for any other mom out there.
My daughter is 28 month old and is going pee-pee in the potty 1-2 times a day. She has only gone poop in it 5 different times. (we have been seriously potty training for 3 months now)I am amazed at the pooping part, because I never expected her to do that for a long time. I try not to reward her other then my words, going to the bathroom is part of life, and I don't want her thinking that she gets rewarded for it all the time. (I did this in the beginning, I gave her a M&M to motivate) I no longer do that. I just give her a big hug and kiss and say what a big girl she is.
I'm really not rushing the situations. If my daughter starts to get upset when I ask to sit on the potty, I just say "oh, you don't have to go pee-pee? That's ok, we will try later." You don't want it to be a bad experience. Anyway, maybe 19 months is just a little to young to expect her to get it right away.
Good luck and be patient.
M.

She's pretty young. I wouldn't push it. Lay off for a month or two, then try again. Even if she is smart and communicative, maybe her body is just not physiologically ready.

And if you are really serious, I would skip the Pull-ups, just go straight to underwear so she can feel the discomfort of pee running down her legs. A pull-up is just like a diaper to them. They need to become aware of when they are peeing, then they decide they want to hold it in so they can avoid the icky feeling of wetting themselves. It's all about learning to control the urge.

Don't listen to me though, I have had little success with my 2 year old so far! It is like 1 step forward, 3 steps back all the time.

My first thought is, "She's only 19 months". Unless she has shown you an interest in going to the bathroom and is waking up dry from naps and the nights, she may not have enough bladder control or awareness for successful potty training. My first daughter was 26 months when she started potty training. My second daughter wasn't completely trained until 3.5-4 years old. My son is 29 months and although he shows an interest in using the potty, I would not feel confident training him at his point. Perhaps, just going pee and not poop.

In the meantime, I would suggest not using pull ups until they are able to serve their purpose. Why spend $15 for 40 when regular diapers would suffice at $15 for around 80 at Wal-Mart or Target. (I love Wal-mart diapers and Target wipes). Don't let potty training drive you senseless. Let her show you the initiative so you're not having power struggles over what should be a memorable event for the both of you! And when she is ready, start the training by letting her pick out some "very special big girl panties". My girls wanted to keep "Cinderella, Hello Kitty, Tinkerbell" (or whichever their favorite character was at the moment) clean!!!

the best way i found to potty train was to just let them go naked for a couple of days. we would spend time out in the yard and any time they peed anywhere I would clap. this helped them understand that urge meant pee was going to come out.

Many children at this age don't have the muscle control yet to "hold it" if you see she does because she will go all at once then i would continue. My boys potty trained at 2 or before but they both had a great desire. It only took me 2-3 weeks of accidents and i never trained at night they just naturally stopped wetting at night about 6 months later.

She is very young and if this is starting to stress her out you might want to back off a bit for a couple of days. every child learns differently. My oldest started pulling out his eyelashes when i would set the timer to visit the potty every 1hr or so. with him it was better to just ask and he would say yes or no. he needed to be in control to be comfortable, and red mini m&m's as a reward.
My younger son wouldn't wear a diaper anymore at 20 months i was very pregnant and didn't want to lift him on and off the potty all day so i told him he could wear big boy undies but if they got wet we would put back on the diaper. he had no language so he would stand by the bathroom door when he had to go. we had no accidents the first week. we only had maybe 5 after that in total. he needed no rewards.
find what motivates her and this will be a better learning experience rather than a power struggle.I have a friend who used princess dolls for her girls- she would let them pick one from the store then she would put it up high so it would remind them when they were dry for a week they got to play with it. this worked for her 3 girls, not right away of course. it is an idea anyway.

oh and no more pull-ups if you are serious only use these when you are going somewhere and it would be embarrassing if they wet. i think it is babies r us that have the super thick cotton potty training pants. they never learn if they don't feel wet. some don't care either way but at least it is a clue for you immediately.
good luck!

Two words I invented: POTTY PARADE!!! I had several musical instruments (bells, noisemakers, tambourines, shakers,etc.) that we kept in the bathroom that were there to have a "potty parade" when my daughter used the potty successfully... EVERY time she went, everyone in the house had to grab an instrument and we went on a potty parade around the house a couple of times banging on our instruments, making noise and chanting "we're on a potty parade for Kate, etc...." She LOVED it and she was excited to use the potty... It was also a fun break in the day to go on a potty parade... Good luck :)

I never used pull ups for my daughter. Ok let me rephrase that, I tried them but it seemed to me like it was too close to the diaper so we did the old fashioned method, thick panties and plastic pants. 19 months is still a bit young but if you hang in there it won't be a wasted effort. Yes she'll have accidents in the her panties but eventually she'll figure out that she doesn't like the wet and she progress. I have a 19 month also and I'm not even trying this early with her. She sees big sister and only has interest in playing in the toilet water. I put on the toilet once in a while but I'm not worried. If you aren't afraid to, stop trying to train for a month or so and then try again and she how she does. Good luck and nobody knows your child better than you. I hope you can find a solution with all of the responses and don't give up.

She's TOO YOUNG and NOT READY!!! I have 2 daughters and YES...they are SOOO EASY to potty train. The key is...let them decide when they are ready...not you! Seriously, if you want it to be an easy experience you will let her lead you and you follow her...not you demand that she goes. It's the only thing that SHE has control over...so until she is ready to "give up" that control...it will be a losing battle for you. My girls both told me at 26 months old..."when I turn 3 and have my party, I will wear big girl panties." And I kid you not...the DAY they turned 3 I went in and said "good morning birthday girl" my oldest immediately ripped off her diaper, but on panties and never wore a diaper again. My 2nd daughter...was pee trained at 2 1/2 and wearing panties all day, but didn't poop train until the day she turned 3. She held her poops until naptime (when she knew she would get a diaper.)

anyway, best of luck to you. it IS easy...if you relax and let her be.

Good luck!

It's still early, so don't put too much pressure on her...it may make her resist the PT. But i would keep putting her on the pot and letting her try. So long as she isn't scared or ashamed of the toilet or going potty, she'll come around in her own time. Have you considered getting some cloth diapers? One time investment instead of continuous purchases. They are also more aware of the wetness so it can be a teaching tool.

Too early to start. Think about it again after she turns 2, and you'll have much better luck. If she's not ready then, wait a few more months. Some kids aren't potty trained until after 3!

My child went straight from diapers to underwear. Yes, he made a mess for almost a week, but then he was trained. I bought a bunch of underwear at a low cost at the 99 cent store in case I had to throw some out. It worked. Pull ups are like diapers and a crutch for the little ones. He had to figure it out without them. He was 24 months old. Good luck.

Is she ready to potty train? Has she said she wants to pee in the potty? She may not be ready.

My daughter wore diapers until she was ready to potty train at three. I took an online quiz (there are a bunch of them) that showed her degree of readiness. I decided I wasn't going to have a power struggle with my strong-willed child. Because I waited until she was ready, it took only two weeks.

I once read that potty training is one of the hardest developmental tasks for a child. While it's common for a child to train at 19 months, maybe your daughter is not ready yet. I remember being so nervous about potty training my first child, and to my surprise it wasn't so bad because she was 2.5 years old. My younger daughter was potty trained at 2.3 years old. You may want to wait a little longer and try again when she's a least 2 years old. You don't want to make this a negative experience for her. Go to the baby center website. You might be able to find some helpful tips if you choose to continue the potty training process. Don't worry it all works out. She'll be out of those pull ups soon.

I have found that pull ups are a waste of money...they are convenient but tend to be too much like the diaper they were in yesterday to tell the difference. I used cloth diaper or training pants with plastic pants/rubber pants and they feel wet (because they are) and usually have better luck. But like everyone else said maybe she is not ready, if she is then the training pants(thick underwear she can wear for a long time) is worth the money(no different than buying regular underwear) and it might work, if she is not ready than you will be doing laundry frequently ;)

for the first week only catch the morning pee. She doesn't get to eat or get up untill she goes. Stick the potty in front of the tv. she will forget that she is trying to pee and release it. Talk to her every day about how her tummy feels full/ empty and that she needs to listen to how her tummy feels. every day she will get faster at peeing. then the next week put on big girl panties. Don't use pull-ups they feel like diapers. They should only be worn on long trips like grandma lives 1 hour away. Put you should plan on staying home for a good month. accidents will happen. you will need to reminder her to use the bathroom and listen to her tummy. Remember she is still very young to grasp this concept. But it can be done. Good Luck. J.

Get the book Potty Training in Less than a Day by Fox/Azarin. It tells you if your child is really ready and if they are it is an easy and fun way to potty train your little one. It worked on my brother 34 years ago and my son 3 years ago. My daughter is next!

This is really early to be expecting her to get it. The best advice I got about potty training is that it can take a year to train them when you're ready and a month when they're ready.

19 months is pretty early to expect potty training perfection. I would try two things; first back off a bit and wait another month. A lot can happen developmentally in even that short of a time. Secondly, (this one worked for my daughter) take her to the store and let her pick out her "big girl panties". For my daughter it was "Little Mermaid".....I told her that she could wear her big girl panties as soon as she could use the potty because peepee belonged there and not on Ariel. She thought that was funny and also really wanted "big girl" panties! Good luck.

You said she is 19mos old, right? Unless she is showing ALL signs of readiness, I'd give it a little more time. I know of children that have been pottied train at this age, but it was ALL on their own, one of them completely went back to diapers at 2.5 (my guess is she just wasn't ready). A book I found very helpful when I found myself frustrated was The No Cry Potty Training Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. I recommend checking it out from your library and reading it - it's a quick/easy read.

My daughter was potty trained just before turning 4, my son 3. No, not all girls are easy to train or trained early. I believe the sooner you start before they are ready, the longer it will take and the more accidents you will have.

By all means, if she is ready - go for it. I only wanted to suggest the above book if you aren't sure or want some great tips to help you along the way.

*Oh and a huge congrats to JULIE for TRAINING her kids so young!! She MUST know what she is doing! (Sarcasm) Listen - rewards during potty training?? Fine. But discipline?? At this age (or any age for this matter) No way! OLD SCHOOL!! I totally disagree.

Best wishes,
M.

She's not ready. When she is ready it will be a breeze.

I agree with Julie. Give up the pull-ups. They are just like diapers. What I would do is pick a date and go for the potty training. Let her run around the house either in underwear or nothing. Fill her with liquids and take her to the potty every 20 - 25 minutes. Have a timer set and then when it goes off, make a big noise that it is potty time (a fun noise like clapping your hands, yelling yahoo, etc.). Get her excited about it. Put her on the potty and because you have filled her with liquids, she will get the urge more often and go more often which creates the learning. I gave 1 jelly bean for pee pee and 2 jelly beans for poopie. If you do that for about 2 days, you should see great results. Then you just back off on the liquids once you think she understands the urge to pee. Just like Julie said, make it fun, be committed to it (don't start training and then stop) and she isn't too young. I think most people wait too long because they wait for the child to be ready but do we sleep train when the child is ready? Do we teach them to read when they are ready? (I can go on). It is a skill they learn and yes, she may not be able to pull her pants up and down as well as a 2 or 3 year old, but she'll get that too! Good luck! You can do it :).

She's 19 months. She's still quite young, girl or not. Maybe she likes the reaction she gets from you for sitting on the potty so she does it. However, doesn't quite understand what she is supposed to do there. Give her some more time... she's still so young.

Hi N., Put the diaper back on and forget it for a few weeks or acouple of months. She's just not motivated now and who knows what you will say to make it important. why have the power struggle. good luck deb

Maybe your daughter just isn't ready! She is still very young to expect her to be able to be completely potty trained. Maybe you should just go back to regular diapers for a while, then try again when she is older and seems to be more interested.