Potty Training Advice - Oklahoma City,OK

I talked with a preschool teacher who said that letting the kids ring a bell-any type of bell you can stand- when they did their business was a success for the kids she taught. They weren't allowed to give out candy and she didn't like scrubbing stickers off everything! Maybe that will work for you.

Good luck.
J.

First I have to say- I love the name Trinity! I was going to name my youngest who is 13 months old Trinity but he is a he.

What worked for my almost 3 yr old son was to bring him into the bathroom and we dumped the poops into the potty and flushed them down. We waved goodbye to them. One day he just sat there and did it. It was like it all of a sudden clicked. He was 75% potty trained but for some reason the last two days he has pooped his pullup at naptime! (I still have him wear a pullup to bed for night and nap. He usually wakes up dry in the morning but pees at naptime. Good luck!

what worked with my children was to actually dump the poo into the toilet while they are watching. tell them that it goes in the toilet and not in their panties or underwear. mine caught on farely quickly. i hope it works.

I know you already have lots of good advise on the 'mechanics' of this situation with advise to 'do this and that' and I am assuming you have already checked with your ped to make sure there is no physical reason she may be having difficulty. I am wondering if you might also benefit from looking at some possible psychological dynamics.

Does she know she cannot go to the pre-school if she is not completely potty trained? Does she have some reservations or fears about going to the new school or a general resistance to trying new things? I am not saying she is consciously being manipulative, it is just that she may have an interest in things staying the same - especially if it is difficult for her to adjust to new situations along with it not being so easy for her to have the type of control over her own body you want her to have (or might she be seeing it as your control over her bodily functions?). So it seems to me that it may take some gentle reassurance about the changes that are taking place (pre-school, and growing up in general) and let her know (with words and actions) that she will still have all the same love and comfort that she needs from you, even if she is not a baby any more and even if she is going to school. Growing up may not always be easy so she might need special reassurance and attention that is not centered on the potty issue. It is important for her to know that even though she is not a baby any more she can still get all of the love and attention she needs. She might also need some encouragement that going poo-poo in the potty gives her more control over herself. I like the idea of telling her that because she is a big girl, now, she can clean herself up if she doesn't make it to the potty like everyone else who doesn't wear diapers any more. You might also tell her you know this might not be easy for her but you have confidence in her learning to do this. Let her know how happy you are for her being able to take care of her own poo-poo and then help her to maintain a reasonably healthy level of cleanliness (without judgment), no matter where she poops. Help her through the clean-up as much as possible by telling her how to do it with a cheerful tone and helping her only as necessary.

Hope this helps.

I understand your problem. However, maybe she is rebelling b/c she knows how much you want her to go poo poo in the potty. Try a little reverse psychology.

i went through the same frustration a few months ago and someone told me this. when my son pooped his pants, i let him help 'clean' himself up. i intentionally let a little tiny bit of poo get on his hand and he did not like that at all! i told him, if he poops his pants then he has to help clean his bottom. it worked for us, he hasn't pooped his pants since. best of luck!

I have three daughters and two of them had an aversion to poo pooing on the potty. What worked for both of them was Fleet Glycerine Suppositories. I would put one in around the time that they would normally poop. The suppositories make them have the urge to push. (I think often the children mix up what to do ie squeeze and stop rather than push) This is something to try for a few times to allow your child to have success. I did not do it many times and they never became dependant upon them. I usually put one in then had them walk to the potty, sit down and they would go. I never told them to "push". Sometimes, they would even take a book and read it so they wouldn't focus so much on pooping and just let it happen. Good luck!

I know this is silly...........but my daughter was the same way until about 2 months ago. She would hold it until her belly was killing her and it made the entire process that much more painful. SO-I came up with the story that her tummy hurt because the poo wanted to go swimming in the potty water (pool)and they were hitting her tummy to get out and swim and when she let them go swim, there would be no more hitting her tummy. I then made a big deal when she did it in the potty....we would/do tell the poo bye-bye and have fun swimming. It is actually, in some form, amusing to us both now and she likes to tell this to strangers in the check out line....ha! Good luck!

If she is at all regular, put her on the pot about the time she regularly goes, and sit with her in the bathroom, reading or something to distract her, to try and keep her from holding it in out of defiance. If she doesn't go after a long time on the pot, keep an eagle eye on her, so that you can grab her and sit her on the pot at the first signal you see that she is getting ready to go. Some kids go into a secluded spot when they feel they are ready to go. Don't depend on her to tell you. What you want to do is get her so used to doing it on the pot (even if it is your efforts that get her there) that she will finally take over, and do it herself. Don't expect this to be a speedy process. If she does as some do, and goes days without a bowel movement rather that use the potty, feed her things that cause loose stools, such as lots of grapes.

A.

Hello, I understand your struggle with potty training for poo poo. I am mother of two and went to same problem. I have one son and one dauther , both are school age now. The best advice I can give you is to back off some. When my daughther was 3 she had this period of regression and it seem like the more, I push her the worst it got. Just relax,and let her take her time, I know you said she will start pre school in August, Trust me not all the children will be totally potty trained. Just send x clothes or pull up. Usually when the toddler go to preschool and see other children beign independent this encourages them to do the same. After entering , pre-school within 2 months my daughter finally became fully potty trained. Toddler just struggle with poo- poo part.
Trust me on this , just relax and she will get, also do not let any one tell you she should be potty trained by now. Every child is different. Some just like to take their time.

Hope this helps

B. , full time mother, married, mother of two. Nursing Instructor.

ok just tackled this with my little 3 yr old boy, the pooping in the potty was an issues and I had tried everything and every suggestion I could come across. I had tried rewards with the peepeeing and it didn't work but my little one was introduced to hershey bars by my mom and he loves them .

so on a whim I bought a pack of those mini bars (98 cents a pack at walmart) and showed him that they were put up and when he pooped on the potty instead of his pullup he would get one.

he started that day and i would give him a piece of one for trying and when he did it he got a whole one.

after one week he had mastered it and he doesn't bring up the chocolate anymore for doing it. NOW just got to get him to master the wiping!

hope it works for you.

Hi,
I had the opposite mine could poo poo but not make it to pee in time....I tried a potty party when they finally could make it to the potty to do both they had a potty party they always choose to have it at CHUCK E. Cheeses it worked for me 3 times...Good Luck H.

She will poo poo in the potty when her body, mentally, physically and emotionally, becomes ready. I have been through this and I have seen this with my friends and their children. You can attempt to train... and then let it go! I am telling you from experience. It came together for us just before my son started 4 year old pre-k... and you know what? That is ok! Do Not compare yourself and your child to anyone else. You know what really got us through it... praying about it. I know it is necessary for her to accomplish this so she can attend school... so talk to her about that! Let her know how great pre-school is and that you want to help her be a big girl and do this. Also, my husband and I did "potty sits" every day. Our little boy would get a little gassy just before he would have to poop, so when he smelled that gas, when did a potty sit. We would time it (not with our son knowing)... by reading his favorite book, playing a card game, whatever... and by him trying and sitting there... he would get a reward (M & Ms, a new inexpensive toy, whatever works)... but most of all... Most of all, this will happen. Don't break yourself over this... as my mother says, "This too shall pass" (no pun intended).
God will see you through this!

When I worked at a daycare, I had a boy the same way. I had to watch for his poop pose and run him to the bathroom. I actually had to make him sit in the bathroom till he pooped. Once done he had no problem going again.

my soon to be 3 year old is the same and this is what i do.
if i see him grab his but we RUN to the bathroom and i sit on the tub and some times i give him a book (i guess till it get in the potty) but so far that has made him want to sit on the potty and he ends up going. then last night he did not want that so i told him if he pooped in the potty i would give him a quater and he could put in his banks (which i keep out of his reach) but last night it worked. we stayed dry and poop free in the pants ALL DAY!!!!! So try the quater thing or even a dime.

My daughter needs advice on pee pee training.Her daughter is 2 1/2 and not interested at all about being trained. She has broken out on her bottom where pee pee has run down her leg.. just does not care. She has tried everything she knows to do. Her boys were no trouble to train. please respond if any suggestions.

Dear A. F.

Have patience your daughter will get it, I know exactly what you mean I am in a similar situation! But if your daughter does poo poo in the potty really make a big deal out of it clapping hands, shouting, jumping up and down that may get your daughter to understand poo poo in the potty. I also suggest on the weekends be diligent and consistent in your training and maybe in the month of July you can go cold turkey meaning no pull-ups strickly underwear especially since your daughter need to be potty train by August. Good Luck