Hig Kim:
I received and reviewed your "potty training" concerns. While this can be a very frustrating period of time, I found that if I did not make a big deal out of it, then my son would not be stressed over it. Unfortunately, I was not able to be a stay at home mom when my son was 2 1/2 years old, and he was being potty trained while at day care. However, we reinforced what he was learning at home.
Some things we found to be fun was to take some Cheerios and put them in the potty. Then he would try an tinkle on them, or he would try and make bubbles. You might also try to some fun food colors to see how the yellow changes the colors.
In addition, we had a certificate for "pooping in the potty". We put it up on his door so he could see it and really be excited about it.
We also had an award system. Make a chart that can be put up on his wall and everytime he does a great job, he can write it on his chart. At the end of the week, you come up with some type of a reward system that both you and he is comfortable with. You can even make it on a point system, but if he fails to use the potty when he should, then you deduct points from his total. This will not only get him involved in this, but it can also begin to teach him numbers and simple math skills.
If he had an accident, we did not make a big deal out of it, but helped him to clean up and try again. I found that the more my son was involved in this process, the better he was doing. In addition, I have learned that children perform better when they see things in writing and know what is expected of them.
I believe there is a teachers learning store on San Jose Blvd near the Publix and this is a great place to find simple charts that you can use dry erase markers on. Let your son write on his chart.
At night, we always put a pamper on him and we would track how many nights we stayed dry. When he began to stay dry for several nights in a row, we would let hiim wear his big boys to bed (with protection under him in the event of an accident).
When he wore his big boys to bed, we would get him up before we went to bed and take him to the bathroom. If I got up during the night, for whatever reason, I could check on him, and if he was dry, I would take him to the bathroom again.
We did not allow him to drink water or anything else after 6:00-7:00 pm, but made sure he well hydrated prior to our cut off time.
We made a lot of games out it, and eventually, he was using the potty when expected. In fact, he was not even wetting the bed at night once he began to wear his big boys to bed. My son is 11 years old now, and to this day, we have never had any issues with bed wetting or accidents.
The key is to make a game out of it. My son was not to keen on actual potty chairs, but there was seats that can go onto the big pottys to help out little bottoms.
One more thing, have a stuffed animal that is only associated with using the potty, and tell your darling little boy that his stuffed animal friend uses the potty and let him take it in with him.
I learned that anytime you can make a game out of things, small children love it and they want to please you.
Let me know who things go with this.