Potty Training - Mesa,AZ

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You are the grown up. It is up to you to dress her accordingly. It is cooler weather here in the central parts so it is easier for us.

Put a onsie style top on her and then put some overalls or some other kind of closed bottom goes over the shoulder style outfit. She must have too many layers/combinations of closures to get through and she will loose interest very soon.

She will get the idea very soon, you are doing a good job.

As Gamma G suggested, onesies (on backwards which makes the snaps higher in back and harder to reach) under overalls (also on backwards) with the straps adjusted snugly so she can't slip out of them, and duct tape her diaper, literally. I started the tape at the back and taped all the way around and ended in the back again, and he gave up after awhile, it wasn't fun anymore, lol!

Tell your daughter no panties until she can go in the potty and not wet her panties, and like you say she isn't there yet. So when you decide to try training again don't give her the panties right off the bat, hold off until she has shown she will consistently (say 3-5 days) go in the potty. Let the panties be her incentive rather than candy or anything else, this is your "power" incentive, and when you find the one that your child truly desires potty training is easier in the respect that your child is more likely to cooperate with the process because they truly WANT that particular incentive.

And children train at various ages because they are ready at different ages, physically and emotionally. My daughter trained (herself) at 18 months, my sons both trained around 2.5, but some children aren't ready until they are 3.5 or 4. It's not a competition, don't make it one and relax : )

Sorry, no advice. Just a story: My oldest daughter was given panties as a birthday present from Grandma for her second birthday. She loved to wear them, but was nowhere near ready for potty training! I was so frustrated, but what could I do? I let her wear them, hoping she would catch on.

Then one day she noticed that Grandma had pretty earrings that she wanted to wear. Grandma said "No because you don't have holes in your ears." Then all my daughter could talk about was getting holes in her ears. (Pierced ears) We used that as a reward for when she could keep her panties dry for 2 weeks. Unfortunately, it took 6 long months of accidents before she finally got it. Some days were better than others, and many times she just forgot.

I always wished we had waited until she was ready. After all, there's no hurry. No one goes to school wearing diapers. My second daughter potty trained herself at 2.5, and we started my son at 2.5 when he showed that he was ready. Potty training has to be one of the worst parenting tasks!!! Good luck.

Don't get discouraged. "Everyone" is not truly everyone. My DD is almost 3.5 and I was in your shoes for a long time. Friend's daughter is just a little younger and not fully trained. My DD is doing great now. She just needed to be physically capable. When she was younger, it was basically that I guessed right vs that she really could do it. Training can take months, so consider this a process. You can offer to put her in panties when you are home and remind her not to pee on (insert character here). Make the potty readily accessible. Give her opportunities to succeed (like suggest she sit before a bath with the water running). If you run out of panties, then say, "No more panties today. We'll try again tomorrow."

So, my advice? Keep trying, and don't sweat it if you're doing a lot of laundry for a while. She won't go to school untrained and 3 is a perfectly normal age, too.

What I would do (and what I did with my son) is have her run around the house with no pants and no panties on. Just tell her "This is so exciting! You're almost ready for big-girl underwear! As soon as you can go in the potty, then you get to wear them." A lot of toddlers really need to see it to believe it -- if they visually see themselves peeing, etc., they'll head for the potty. Once she makes that connection, then you can move her up to underwear.

If she was going sometimes in the potty she was catching on and you just quit before she was trained. You shouldn't go back and need to be consistent. If candy doesn't work, maybe good it doesn't really, then use some other form of reward that she likes. I used M & M's because that child was very motivated by them. I also used stickers, charts, picking a small toy at the end, etc. Find something she herself will be motivated by. Then stick with it. Sounds to me like she is not too far from it if you keep on it with the timer and praising her when she does go. It's not a fun thing to do for the parent.

I have 2 year old twins that constantly take off their diapers. With one twin I put on a onesie and that prevents him from taking it off. The other twin can take off his diaper so we sometimes use duck tape. We make sure we get the skinny kind so that it doesn't get on his skin and is on the diaper only. They like to wear underwear too so we put the underwear on over their diapers and they seem to like this. Good luck!

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It doesn't matter if everyone else's daughter was trained by 2 - every kid is different. I did the same thing you are doing but waiting until my daughter was 3.5 and waking up dry every morning. She was very resistant to training but I finally had to just decide to not let her wear any more diapers, let her get the panties wet, and she would figure out that wet panties are no fun. She got it down in no time - she was pee-trained within 3 days. She may not have totally been emotionally ready, but she was certainly physically ready. I think part of her issue was that she can be somewhat of a perfectionist and she was afraid of messing up and didn't even want to try - once she got it down, she was very proud of herself.

I think you might just have to tell your daughter that panties are only for girls that are able to pee in the potty and keep their panties dry - you've given it a try and you appreciate her doing her best, but you are going to take a break and try again in a few months.