Potty Subject

Hi L., I had the same issue with my son, he would pee in the potty but wouldn't poo poo... I tried leaving a diaper off but he would just poo on the carpet if I didn't get him diaper... anyway I bought a potty chair and would sit him on it, I ended up having to leave the potty chair in the living room as that was the only time he would use it.. but what really help was my sister in law.... every time he went over there he had no issues using the potty, so I was over there quite often... do you have a friend or relative who has kids and/or potty training as well? Don't know if that helps at all.. good luck..

My oldest child had similar issues at that age. At 2 1/2 she very quickly got the peeing all figured out, but poop was another matter entirely. It took another six months, and during that time she did the holding in until it wasn't healthy and we finally had to give her an enema. From all of that we learned we were putting way too much pressure on her and causing more harm than good in the process. So we finally backed off for a couple of months. Then, as we neared her 3rd birthday, we would casually reference her birthday a couple of times a week and say that 3 year olds go poopy on the potty not in their pants. Very casual . . . no pressure, no dwelling on it. Then, when she turned 3 we hung a big chart on the wall and she would get a sticker for each day she pooped on the potty. After X amount of days she earned a small reward (something from a dollar store, etc.). At the end of the process, when we were confident she had it down, she earned a big reward (I think it was a tricycle or wagon or something like that). This less stressful approach worked great . . . it only took about 3 weeks from her birthday and she was completely potty-trained!

As an aside, I have a 28 month old who also freaked out the first time she pooped on the potty. Potty training her will be interesting . . . she's one of those kids who likes privacy when pooping in her diaper, but then she is in total denial that she did anything in her diaper.

Have you tried the good old fashioned trusty candy as a reward? Hershey kisses are just big enough to seem like a big treat and they don't ppo that often, so you wouldn't have to give him too much. If you haven't tried it, give it a whirl. Next time he asks for the diaper say, would you like a diaper or a Hershey Kiss? He will undoubtedly say the Hershey Kiss, tell him if he poops in the potty he can have the Hershey Kiss. That is so sad that he misinterpreted your enthusiasm and thought he did something wrong! How sad! The thing is men just don't ever get excited unless their sons do something for them to be proud of and then it is so unusual that it confuses the child.

Your son is not quite ready. He is close, YEA! This is something he can do when he decides, and give him permission to take charge. I would tell him at his "success" he must be proud of himself. Some children don't walk until they think they won't fall, some children won't potty train until they know they won't fail. Let him keep his big boy pants on and he will probably decide on his own that he wants to go to the potty. Have no anxiety, this will be a memory quite soon, make it pleasant and not a bargain.

I know my youngest did something similar. But he would not demand and diaper he would just do it in his underwear. My mom kept telling me that's one thing in his life that he could have some control over. Just try to be more patent that I was! It would frustrate me to no end.

Good luck and God bless!

try making your son run around naked for a day or two. when he gets the urge to go, then he'll go to the toliet. he will not want to soil himself nor the floor. a friend of mine did this with her son and it worked...

when he has the urge for excreting, you might have your son sit on the potty and play his favorit music in the bathroom...

good luck.

Dear L.,
My son is now 21! But I remember those days!If I remember correctly, I just had to hold my horses. I think we put a potty chair in the family room and he would sit there seeing if anything would happen. not for hours!
I think we also did the M&Ms reward approach. He didn't completely potty train until he was closer to 3 - or maybe a little beyond 3? Can't remember now, but I do remember coming to a decision that I just wouldn't fret over it; I would let him conquer it at his own pace. I think that's when the potty chair came out of the bathroom and into the family room.

Good luck. Don't fret too much. Put it into perspective! I'd rather clean up baby poo than clean up after a teenager who has vomited after drinking too much alcohol.

Think about this: no college student poos in his pants - they all learn eventually! It's your attitude/perspective that will drive you crazy. If you tell yourself you can't stand it, then it will drive you crazy. If you tell yourself, "Hey, I can deal with this" then you will be able to handle it!

By the way, choosing to adjust your attitude or change your perspective about things works in lots of situations! It can help when Prince Charming seems more like Dud Deadly later on in the marriage! I know this because I had to learn how to change my viewpoint and it changed my marriage and saved it!

Well! I certainly have gone on. Sorry about that.

Good luck!

A.

Bibery! I think I spent close to $100 on poo poo prizes. I had the little cars from Cars lines up on the mantel. I gave him Lighting McQueen and the track/case to hold more cars. He could see, but not touch all the additional cars. It was over a week before he got one, and he cried the days he went in a diaper and didn't get a new car, but within three weeks we were consistant! Good Luck!

2 1/2 is pretty young for a boy to be potty trained... so give yourself and your son a big hand!! You are doing better than most. There is a book called everyone poops that is entertaining as well as informative. Perhaps... and this is just my suggestion so take it for what it is worth... when you or your husband go poop... invite him to come sit on his potty with you guys and have a special moment together... read the book and talk about how everyone does poop and show him the picture where the boy is pooping on his potty and the daddy is pooping on his potty and the baby is pooping in his diaper. You might even mention "see babies poop in diapers, but you're a big boy... so you can poop in the potty like mommy and daddy... that is so exciting". It may take a while, but by making potty time with you a special time he will eventually get it...

It sounds like your husband might be the one that needs to teach him since he frightened him. He might even have to go through that hold episode again only with HIM being the one sitting on the toilet pooping and clapping and jumping up and down when he finishes, just to let the child know that it's okay...that it is a good thing. (I know it sounds gross, but it is a part of life and it want hurt to try)!

You are doing great at 2 1/2. He should be so proud of having #1 all taken care of.

My son started working on #2 at about the same age and didn't get it all figured out for another year. I sincerely wish I could take back all of the frustration I displayed to him and give him back control over the process. I suspect he would have potty trained faster if we hadn't been having a battle of the wills.

If I had to do it over again, I would let him be in control. I would give him the diaper just to poop. Soon, he will want to take the next step and he will probably do it when no one is paying any attention and when it can be his own accomplishment. I know how sick you are of diapers. I have been there. Good Luck!!

All that being said, I think you can set a big reward for him for when he chooses to make the switch. Like. "you do it when you are ready, but when you do, daddy is going to take you to pick out your own Tonka truck." Then he has an incentive, but it is his timeline.

I was just talking with a friend the other day about this. Her daughter trained at 3 but was holding her poop until 4. She finally slipped some liguid pediatric stool softener in her drink so she had to go. She said it worked great!

My daughter was the exact same way. She refused to poop in the potty and it was very frustrating. There are 2 things that worked for us. 1 was if she pooped in her pants, i made her clean it up. I made her empty her poop into the toilet and if it dropped on the floor I made her get some toilet paper and pick it up herself. She was quite disgusted by this. The other thing we did was tell her that if she started going poo poo in the potty she could have a poo poo party. She got really excited about and started talking about all the things she wanted to do at her poo poo party. She has not pooped in her pants since. Pooping in the potty is very hard for them. Also make sure he has a stool or something to put his flat feet on to give him something to push up against to get the poop to come out.
Hope this helps.

Good job!! No pun intended.

Lots of patience. My son did a similar thing, although at a little older age. We forced ourselves to not talk about it or make a big deal about it for a month or so. When he would ask for the diaper we could give it to him, then have him help us empty it in the toilet. Lots of praise, etc. Then one day I told him that whenever he was ready to sit on the potty and go poopy we were going to go to the store and buy him a new movie. Insert whatever is a big incentive for your little guy. That's all we said, just once, pretty casually. He switched within the week and we never looked back!

Good luck!

He is young. Imo first the learn to pee in the potty, then poop, then night train. They are almost three different thinng. My son who is 4 1/2 now potty trained at 2 1/2. We tried 3 times and the 3rd time he got it. It was a little longer for poop, but not too much. I did have to buy a potty chair instead of the seat that goes over the potty. That made a big difference. I also always brought him with me to the bathroom. For a while he was asking for a diaper to poop. Then he wanted me go come with him and sit next to him. He liked to hold my hair like a security blanket, so maybe your son has a lovey to take. I know it sounds gross, but they are washable and if it makes him confortable. He will not need it once he is confortable. A book is better if it works. My son also had constipation issues. Make sure he is not constipated as it is even more scary for them.
Before you know it he will be going all by himself. The important thing is for you not to stress and to keep up the encouragment.
My daughter (18 months younger) actually trained at two since she was always in the bathroom with me and my son.
Now they can go by themselves and I actually get a little privacy when I go now.

after raising several children and grandchildren i have done this a lot....first thing is get rid of every diaper you have and let him see you do it...that way you as a parent can't fall back on the diapers...remember who the adult is.Eventually he will go...his body is going to work with or without him...another thing is...when his daddy needs to potty he takes him in there with him to show him it is ok to potty in the potty.

Hi
I had the same problem with my older son who is now 6. when he was 2 and half yrs he used ask for a diaper , hide in a closet but just not poop in the toilet. One day my husband refused to put a diaper on him. and said I don't care if he poops in his underwear/ clothes or even on the floor. as clothes can be thrown and bought new and floor can always be cleaned and disinfected with all soughts of cleaners and other things but not putting any diaper. tghat is the end. It took him almost an hr , when he just could not control finally he wentg to the toilet and did it. and that was the end of diapers. As parents we need to be very patient when trying this.

Hi! You are doing a good job with the training. I just wanted to share with you that my nephew was very similar. He was #1 trained at 2 1/2. However, he asked for a diaper for #2 for the next year. When my nephew was 3 1/2, my sister in law decided it was time for #2 on the toilet. She stayed home with him for a day- and the next day and they sat in the bathroom. She bought this huge transformer that my nephew wanted. She set it on the counter, and she told him he could have it when he pooped on the potty. There were tears, but he did it. Then, she told him he had to keep pooping on the potty to keep it. It worked. He is diaper free.

My daughter did the same thing! One day she told me she needed a diaper, so I knew she had to poo. So I got her naked (because she fiddles with her clothes and won't go potty) and I put her on the big potty so she couldn't get off by herself. I told her she had to poo on the big potty before she could go play, and I walked out. It took a while, and I had to listen to her crying for good 5 minutes, but she eventually pooped and now we don't have a problem with it anymore. I hope you don't think it sounds mean to let her sit there and cry, but sometimes you have to be kinda tough. If you give in too often, they notice the pattern and they'll never give in! Good luck!

Nope. Hate to be negative but I have been struggling with this same issue for a year and a month now. Mine FINALLY went poopin the potty two weeks ago and then I had read "once they do it once they will do it again" nope. Not mine. It is AWFUL and awfully disgusting too. I'm pretty much at my wit's end with it and don't know what else to do!

I was a late bloomer with the potty training. My mom used to give me incentive with Hot Wheels cars on the back of the toilet. If I went poopy in the potty, I got a toy.

We had a hard time with poo-poo as well with our boy. We went and bought brand new hotweels from Wal Mart. When he went on the potty, he got a brand new car. It was sitting in the bathroom in the package waiting for him to go. It worked, once he saw what he got.

do you have any friends with kids around the same age? if you do, let him see the other big boy going potty and he will likely imitate the other kids. My son goes to a mommy's day out program on Tues and Thurs and I gotta tell you, when they have potty time, All the kids want to act like each other and go potty and get their stickers! This is my child's second year at the school, so he's been potty trained for almost 2 years now. (he's 3).
Good luck.

I agree with the other mommas who said your son isn't ready, I had girls so I used bribery with cute new "big girl" panties with thier fav disney princess or cartoon character. Another trick that worked once they started to get used to the idea of going #2 in the potty was a special potty book. We kept it in the bathroom and I would sit and read the book while they sat on the potty, most times by the end of the book they were done, too. It took a lot of patience and boy I got tired of that book, but it worked for us. Good luck, he'll be learning to drive before you know it!!

I saw that you finally achieved success but thought I would share my tip.
My son also would not poop in his potty. I ended up buying a second training toilet and told him this one was for pooping. It worked. He just didn't want to poop in the original potty for some unknown reason. Since they are cheap, it wasn't a big deal to go buy another potty.
Hope that helps some of the others who posted that they too were having problems.

I would just be open and honest with your son and bring up the incident from the past where he got scared when you husband cheered. Make sure he knows that he did not do anything wrong and that Daddy was just very excited for him that he had pooped in the potty. Ask him if he is scared to do it and how he feels about it. Also, tell him that when he is ready you want him to tell you so you can help him learn to do it on his own. Then, bring it up every so often and just casually and in a caring way talk about it so it's not so scary to him. I find that treating children like "grown ups" and helping them work through their emotions works. At least, that is what works with our daughter. Good luck!