I think I may have PPD...I just feel ashamed that this could happen to me....again. How do I even go about telling my doctor that I might have it? I had it with my last baby too but my Dr (different one than now) just brushed me off...I wound up severly depressed but luckily found help eventually through another dr.
My husband thinks I'm faking it and I don't really have it so I don't want to talk to him about it :(
Ok so I called my doctor this morning and he should be sending in a prescription for me to my pharmacy. I think I finally found a great doctor lol I called early enough to actually catch him as he was coming from the hospital from making his rounds and he told me I should never be afraid to tell him anything. My husband and I sat down and really talked about it last night and he admitted to me that he was scared of it happening again and didn't mean to ignore me. That hurt more than anything because we are best friends and have been since high school. I guess even the best men don't know how to go about handling things like this sometimes.
I want to thank everyone that urged me to seek some sort of help. I do appreciate it so much!!!
See a doctor immediatly!
Do not be ashamed!
I don't know what kind of parties you mean either. "Toys" or people?
T. - dont be ashamed of something that I dont beleve any woman has control over. Some of us get it, some of us dont. If any Dr is worth their salt then they know when to listen to their patients and their concerns. Call them and see what that have to say - better safe than sorry.
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Okay... I'm trying to contain myself... tell your husband to spend the next 10 months COMPLETELY out of control of his body and mind... then spend GOD knows how long pushing something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of ... well... I don't know... BUT SOMETHING MUCH SMALLER. Then tell him to BLEED like a stuck PIG for at least a month, while walking around with cantaloupes protruding from his chest (leaking and hurting like HELL, OH and does he understand what an episotomy is?? If not, offer to show him... hormones fluctuating, sweating and peeing like an animal... geeze.. need I say more! Oh yes...I do need to say more... And while he is coping with all of this... tell him that he still needs to SMILE, look presentable, take care of a house, kids and A SELFISH MAN! Then ask him why he is in a BAD MOOD or why he has visions of snapping said SELFISH MAN'S HEAD OFF!! Whew... sorry... didn't mean to freak out on you.
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF... LET ME REPEAT... YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF! (Reason number 101 I HATE Tom Cruise).
When I was pregnant with my second daughter.. I went for one of my final visits and told the doctor to go ahead and write the rx for the antidepressants and put it in my chart because I was NOT leaving the hospital without IT!
Call your doctor! Get the help that you need and deserve! The only shame is NOT getting help when you KNOW you need it. Not only for you... but for your children and even for your husband. If he says anything about it... just tell him that HIS LIFE MAY DEPEND ON IT!
Okay... I feel better... I hope you do too... REAL SOON!
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OH... and are you talking about "FUN" parties or "Slumber Parties"?? If so.. where are you located???
T.,
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Dear T.,
First of all you have no reason to feel ashamed. Some women have ,it some don't. I fought with my PPD for over a year , on my own. Seek yourself a support group through a church or maybe even planned parenthood.
I am sorry to hear that your husband thinks that you are faking it .Men just dont tick the way women do .
My husbands way of dealing with my PPD back then was to act like it was not happening to me .So you are not alone. Whatever you do ,seek help for yourself ASAP !!!!
Take care
Hi T. I couldnt agree more with the other ladies. They are wise and right. I had problems with ppd and I WOULD have killed my husband had it not been for anti depressants. I dont know what the hell it is with guys. My husband dosnt get the whole depression thing either. It runs in my family and even if it doesnt run in yours it is in your blood right now(from pregnancy). You need help and more doctors than not would slap you for not getting help until it is to late. I know it is embarresing saying something that makes you feel like you cant hang as a mother but your body is in constint overtime repairing and lack of sleep and other kids to take care of is a FULL time job and so demanding. You are not failing as a mother for needing help with your emotions. You are instead wanting to be a better mother for wanting to enjoy your kids not stress over them. You are doing the right thing first knowing you need to call your doctor now just do it and maybe even suggest not doing anything and tell your hsuband he can feel the wrath of your destruction if he feels you dont have anything wrong. You know your body he dosnt. I will be praying for you. I dont know what kinda parties your talking about either.
Call your doctor today. If you are feeling this way, there is something that is not back to working the way it is supposed to work, and you do not need to feel this overwhelming exhaustion and depression. Progesterone levels drop after delivery, that is the hormone that makes women feel just incredibly great during pregnancy. I don't produce enough to keep a pregnancy going without supplementation by shots. When the first child was born I was incredibly depressed. Hard to manage everything. When the second was due, my doctor and I had a plan about what would be done, taper off supplements/medication to get the body back to working the way it needed to. Knowing we had prepared for this made the whole process much easier. Call your doctor today.
If you had it before, then your husband should know by now to be supportive, not critical!!! That alone could help you so much! You should just tell your doctor to get a handle on it as soon as possible. It is nothing to be ashamed of, you should be proud you recognize the problem! I have not had it, but I believe it exists. My ex used to say that pregnant women make up all the painful symptoms to get out of doing stuff, that is part of the reason he is my EX, hehe! My current husband is VERY supportive, which is why we are married.
I was diagnosed with PPD. I felt so out of control and guilty. So after a couple of weeks of trying to deal with it and really worrying my poor husband, I called my doctor. She called in a Rx over the phone. Now I feel great.
It is a godsend that you have a doctor that understands.
R.
Please don't take offense to this, but your husband sounds like a total jerk. PPD is quite real and happens to many new (and not so new) mothers. I had it and thankfully I am (still) on meds to control it. Is there a way you can go back to the original doc who diagnosed and treated you? If not, bring it up with your current doc today! If the doc doesn't believe you or brushes you off, he wasn't that great of a doc anyway since this is a very real disease/disorder. You have my sympathy and good luck!
I think you should talk to your doctor, maybe this one will take it a bit more seriuse. And I'm sorry to say but your husband should be a little more supportive!!
Oh, by the way, what kind of parties are you talking about, I'd like some info :)
I hope I can contain myself about your husband's attitude with not believing you have PPD. I have had it and it is quite real. Your current doctor you found help with the last time will be sympathetic to you this time so please tell him/her. This is not something you have done so what is the shame all about?
Without your husband's support, I don't know how he expects you to get better. It may be his way of coping and thinking maybe it will go away, but he is only making it worse. NOT talking about it is not helping either, but I understand why you are hesitant. Be calm and just tell him how you are feeling.
I hope your doctor figures out how to help you. Your body has gone through alot with the pregnancy and labor as you know and the hormones take a while to reset.
I found a wonderful doctor, Elizabeth Vliet, who has several books out about hormones and other women's issues. She has a site call www.herplace.com if you want to check it out. I see her yearly and she has helped me so much.
Best wishes.
Just wanted to encourage you...
I'm glad your dr. was supportive. I had severe PPD with my 2 1/2 year old and have been on medication since. The one time I tried to get off of it, it wasn't pretty! Hang in there, and stay on your medication, if it's working for you. I had my second baby 4 months ago, and I know I would've had PPD again if not for Prozac. I still struggle, even on the medicine. You're not alone!
Hi T.
First, don't at all be ashamed! It it quite real! I wish you the very best and a speedy recovery!
I missed you last month scrapbooking! It just may help too to get out and do something JUST for YOU!!! I would also still love to know more about the play group! If its something that you have put on hold for now I totally understand; just please contact me when the time it right for you!
Massage party??? Sounds fun!! What kind of parties do you have???!!!?!?!?! Tell me more!!!! :)
First of all you have nothing to be ashamed of ... don't igonore your feelings if you are suffering and you have had PPD more than likely you do have it again, I have 3 boys and 1 girl, and had it with the last 3 children I had a wonderful doctor who helped me soo much. Granted I was afraid to take any type of medication for the effects of it and the stigma that came with it ... but I finally agreed and believe me I tried coming off of it and I always felt the depression come back ... I have winged myself off of it now and I am soooo grateful that I got the help that I needed. Talk to your Doctor explain in detail what you are feeling and get the help you need. If you dont have your husbands support in this than confide it to your mother or a close friend ... Good Luck ...I'm sure you will do fine
Okay, I see you live in Louisiana. Do me and yourself a favor. Get on the internet, do a google on these words: Houston Texas Andrea Yates
Then when you are done reading, get in your car and park yourself on your dr's doorstep tomorrow morning. Your husband can pick beans out of his A** all day but you are responsible for the well being of yourself and your children. Brooke Shields has a book out (sorry, can't remember the name of it) because she experienced PPD with each of her pregnancies. If someone with her money and resources has it what makes your husband think you are special enough not to get it? PPD is a hormone related issue. There is nothing you did other than participate in a miracle of giving life which by the way you couldn't have done without the bonehead of a husband. So theoretically we can blame Mr. Bonehead for this!!!! If you seriously consider harming yourself or your children pick up the phone and even if you have to call someone you don't know DO IT!!! A friend of mine works at a church and a lady called her by mistake and when she answered the phone the caller started talking about how she couldn't take it anymore and she was going make the baby stop crying and my friend talked to her, ended up talking for over 2 hours and got someone else from the church to come work for her and she took her to Dr. Saved her life. Please get in your car and make the trip to the Dr before it becomes a bigger problem. Also please realize that with each consecutive pregnancy PPD generally gets worse. It can take as long as you were pregnant and sometimes a little longer for your hormone levels to return to pre-pregnancy levels if there are NO complications (such as PPD). With the PPD, it could take longer. There is help available.
Please keep in touch. Reaching out and asking for help is the first step in solving the problem.
I will be praying for you.
C.
I am very happy for you and proud of you for taking control of your situation. Make sure you find people, friend, councelor, anyone to talk to also. Don't just rely on medication to make it better. Take care of yourself and remember to pamper yourself once in while
Good Luck
T.,
As one who suffered from PPD with both children, my Dr. told me that having it once is more likely to have it subsequest times, Just becuase you need help readjusting your body does not mean you are a poor mother or wife. The meds I took were relatively mild and I only took them for a year.
Hugs and take care of you.
I understand how you feel. When i had my first kid i was really happy and had no problems, but when i found out i was pregnant for the second time,i wasn't to thrilled. i think because i kept telling myself i didnt want a second child that made me not want her. towards the end of my 3rd trimester i started liking the idea of another baby, but it was an off and on feeling. then i had her and for about 6 months i didnt care to much for her. i didnt admire her or have any strong feelings for her. now i adore her. i think she is so beautiful and sweet and couldnt imagine not likeing her. but now i am pregnant again. and i really really didnt want a third child. i mean really dont want it. and i am afraid i am not going to be affectionate towards it. i am hoping for a boy and if i have a girl i feel i will feel the way i did with my daughter. i am trying to convince myself that i do want a third child, so that when i have it, i wont be so cold hearted. the only thing i can tell you is to try and be positive. i know when i told my husband, i felt like he didnt belive me either. kinda like i am just being mean and didn't belive that it was something that i couldn't help. by the way i went back to work when my second child was 3 months old. so i think that helped me get away and not feel to trapped i guess. good luck and try to ignore those feelings.
T., I have been there so I know how you feel. Get all the hel[p you can! Talk to people aboiut it that you feel will help you. Get a good Phychiatrist and a good counselor!! I feel God has inspired good medical advances, like medicines and cognitive skills to help us. Prozac was good for me! It is Chemicals and hormones that are out of whack and you need help. Would you laugh at someone who has a cast on their broken leg to help them mend? No1 so getting help for you physical caused deppression is like getting a cast. A good book is the book "Feeling Well". You will get through it! Do not forget to pray often!!!
