Possible 3Rd Child

Hi L.!!! Sometimes the unexpected occurs, life is always that way. I don't know what the circumstances are between you and your significant other, but seeing as though you have been with him for seven years, and you all have just purchased a house, it sounds like the bond is pretty strong and you guys are stable. Definitely be upfront with him and let him know your concern, and that you aren't sure. No matter what happens, trust and believe that you and your family are already blessed and taken care of. It is up to YOU and no one else what choices you make. I don't know how spiritual you are either, but if you believe in the power of prayer, stay steadfast and positive and all will work out for the best.

Well, congrats! You're pregnant. The positive result on the test is pretty definitive, even if you had your ring in. The hormones in the ring will not cause a false-positive pregnancy test, so it's accurate. I'm sorry to hear about your childcare issues (I know what that's like). See your OB GYN asap, and stop using the rings in the meanwhile (the hormones are contraindicated during pregnancy).

J.
(I'm an RN in labor and delivery.)

I know exactly how you are feeling, a little over 14 yeaars ago the same thing happened to me but it was with the pill. Don't make the same misstake that I made by having people over for moral support when you go to tell him. I did that and my friends husband had a big mouth and told him before I did and that caused all kinds of problems. I don't know how your other half feels about having another child, but if he wanted another just not this soon he should be fine. It might take a little bit though. But on the other hand, if he is anything like my husband was and dead set on not having anymore childern you're fighting a loosing battle like I was. That was the pregnacy from hell. He wouldn't help do anything and when my son was born as soon as I was in recovery he left and went home. He didn't even help name my son. For the first year of my son's life, if he held him 5 times it was alot. Well, in my case we separated almost 3 years ago, I tried everthing to hold it together but it just didn't work. My son doesn't even talk to him. I really hope for you that your man is nothing like mine was, because I wouldn't wish that on anyone. If you need to talk I'm a really good listener. Good luck.

I would stop using the birth control until i saw a doctor because it isn't safe if you are pregnant. I hope everything works out for the best.

I'm not sure what advice you're looking for. :) I'm sure you know birth control of any kind isn't 100%. That test is probably right. If you have to do daycare, it's not all bad. You just have to shop around. I did home daycare for my boys and I felt they were safe and well cared for. They are in school full time now and they miss their daycare provider - they talk about her quite a bit. I know I can't calm your nerves right now, but just try to take one day at a time. If you are pregnant, rejoice! Have faith and God will take care of you.

It's very rare to get a positive result that's wrong. So, it's a pretty safe bet that you're pregnant. So, the timing may not be according to your plan, but that shock will pass. Tell your husband and expect him to be shocked. You'll go through the emotional roller coaster and list all the negatives, but then remember all the positives. In a few years, you'll look back and you won't even be able to imagine life without your new family member. Look at the entire picture and see all the good that will come to you. Hey! If we all had kids only when the timing was perfect, the human race would have died out years ago! Congratulations!

I dont know much about the ring but if you still have it in you might want to take it out until you find out for sure. I dont know if that can hurt the baby (if you are) or not. I would take another test and call your OB. Good luck and I hope you get the results that you want