M.K.
Hi there, A....
My first advice is this: go onto www.womentowomen.com and look under "understand your body"...it will help you understand what is going on in your body with your hormones. On this page, they have a wonderful list of symptoms on the left side of the page that you can click on and one that specifically talks about PMS...I highly recommend that you read this.
2) Check out: www.herbalremediesinfo.com/pms.html Once on this page, click on the green tab that says: (PMS/Premenstrual Syndrome/Female Irritability Symptoms, Information & Causes) that is at the top of the white page. It will tell you about many different herbs that help with different symptoms. I really like this company and have used many of their tonics with great success. Their site has a lot of great information.
3) www.swansonvitamins.com (look under health articles and click on the 'women's health' tab
Due to the fact that our hormone levels all differ from one another there really isn't an 'all for one' cure...you really have to tune into your personal symptoms---such as listing your top five in order of the distress that they cause you and then specifically read up on what vitamins/minerals/herbs are good for your particular symptoms and see if you can't find a complex that would work best for you---just make sure that whatever vits/mins/herbs you find are listed at the beginning of the ingredient list for that particular complex. What I DO know from not only personal experience, but also from years of research is that if you have really bad headaches and cramping from your PMS---taking the daily recommended dosage of Magnesium Oxide each day of the month works WONDERS for this. It is a natural muscle relaxant. And, if you have trouble with bloating, the best thing to do is drink lots of water (yep :)) during your cycle and stay away from salt as much as possible.
If you are just looking to try an herbal remedy to see if you can get relief, then I can tell you that I have heard great things about a product called "Femalite" from Native Remedies.
However, I must add this: If after reading up on the material you believe that you may be headed for the early stages of perimenopause (if you aren't already there or past) then my highest recommendation is that you get your hormones checked through a saliva check...you can do this through Martin Avenue Pharmacy in Naperville and it will show you your exact hormone levels and where you are deficient or in excess. The pharmacist is wonderful at helping you to balance your hormone levels naturally---I worked with him about 3 years ago. If you have any more questions you can contact me personally.
Best wishes to you and I sure hope you (and your hubby) find relief! :)