I met number 2 on my birthday, February 16th, saw him at a Memorial Day weekend singles activity at a Stake Singles church thing, went on our first day in June, he proposed in July and we got married in September. I know we were supposed to be together because when we knelt in prayer about it God kind of knocked me in the head with a two by four. I have never had a conformation during prayer that was so strong, ever!
We were happy for a long time, we are now raising a couple of my grandkids and it's very hard. He had open heart surgery a few years ago and a very good friend of mine told me he would have a personality change. He changed drastically. He isn't the same person anymore. I know we change as we go through trials and endure the things life throws at us but when someone is a different person it makes it even harder. If he was the person he is now I might not have even gone out with him a second time.
My friend was a med student and worked with people who had been badly burned. She helps them with makeup and other things like prosthetics. She said it's pretty common knowledge that the oxygen deprivation during this type of surgery causes brain damage. Not very noticeable or testable but family members always say there is a change in their loved ones.
I really miss the man I married and wish I could get along with the one I have now.
********
A divorced friend of mine went to a Ward conference with me to a Branch in a nearby town. He met a lady there, it was Sunday, they got married on Thursday and divorced a month later. Sometimes I think a quick little fling is better than pulling your kids and theirs in to a life changing situation....