W.M.
What if her dad comes back in the picture in a year, two years, etc? Then you will have told her that her dad did not want her??? What if you mess her up for life by telling her a man didn't want her? My father did not seem to want me and it sent me through YEARS of issues with men. So much that I dated the WRONG men just to please them and hope that me bowing down to them would make them love me. Girls have a tendency to do things they shouldn't just to please a man when they are insecure. Luckily I made it out of that and have married a good man. What you should tell her is that her daddy is sick, sometimes people have issues and don't think correctly. Tell her that her daddy is trying to get well and figure himself out but in the meantime you love her enough for both her mommy AND daddy! Tell her that she is perfect and that her daddy will realize how much he misses her someday and will return. If he does not, she will be old enough to understand the truth at that time. As far as moving in with a 'recent' boyfriend, you sound like you are insecure and maybe act like you need this guy.....you don't NEED a man, be strong for you and your daughter and make sure she is #1! This man should NEVER be upset that she talks about her dad! Is he controlling?? How do you know she is even safe with you living with this man? There are too many child abusers and crazies out there. Sorry if this sounds harsh, I do mean it to be, I just want you to think of ALL sides and make sure no matter what, that your daughter is #1 in your life. Make sure SHE feels it too.