Please and Thank You - Cuba,MO

Yes I say please and thank you and excuse me.....and sometimes (under my breath when someone ignores me) I say OR YOU...and chuckle to myself.

I prefer the high road, the view is better!

Blessings...

Well I use please and thank you. I also love telling people they are doing a great job. The teacher conducting traffic in the school parking lot,maintenance person at my gym. I like to smile at people. I enjoy holding the door for others.

Always! I can't stand it when you open a door for somebody and they just walk through without saying thank you. Makes me want to scream, "You're welcome!" but I wouldn't, lol.
My 3 year old says, "yes please" if asked if she wants this or that. I will NOT raise rude kids!

Since I work with small children, and one of my big things is the manners, I automatically say these things all the time.

What always gets an extra smile from me is when I do reply "Thank you" Or "Thank you very much" when someone does something (like hold the door, etc), it so often will get a double take and second look and big grin from many people, especially older gentlemen (older than me..and I am early 40's =). I love that!

I had a young boy...maybe 8 years old, holding the door at the store a few weeks ago. He sorta got stuck doing it with a flood of people coming out. I was at a checkout right next to the door and heard his Mom say "Hold the door, be a gentleman!" I don't think anyone said anyting to him, and I saw at least 4 adults (and a few kids) go thru his door. By this time I was checked out and he was just about to go, saw me coming and continued to hold the door. I said "Thank you very much!". He came jogging past me to catch up with his Mom and I heard him say "Mom, that lady said thank you VERY much!! Cool"

It made my day!

What drives me more crazy than no please or thank you is when a person is talking on their cell phone. I work in customer service now and fast food years ago and I will not wait on a person talking on their cell phone. I have had bosses yell at me but I will not wait on someone talking on a cell phone. If you have to take the call then let the person behind you go or step out of line. If you are on the phone don't get in line. It is extremely rude and disrespectful and I think it is worse than not saying please or thank you.
Unless you are at McDonalds of course because I think they train their employees to be rude by not acknowledging the customers at all.

I ABSOLUTELY say please, thank you, yes ma'am, no sir, excuse me, bless you, etc... LEAD BY EXAMPLE. You make a great point, one I've noticed as well. I'm currently teaching my fiance how to say these things ;)

Oh my I agree.
I was taught to be polite, no excuses.
Most people these days seem like they were never taught manners.
I've had people shove by me instead of saying "excuse me"
I ALWAYS say 'please" "thank you" and so forth

I've started making people have manners, or face the fact that they don't. Yes if I hold the door for someone and they ignore me, i WILL say "you're welcome!"

I was in line at the grocery store the other night. Well aparently I was in the way of the lil mini fridge in the check out isle. This GROWN man walks up, tries to get in the fridge. I didn't move. He says "Um I needs a drank"
So I say "UM I need you to have manners and say excuse me"
He looked me up and down, went "psh" and walked to another fridge.

I stopped being nice to people who aren't nice to me. But then again I am a loud mouth that sticks up for my beliefs :)

I always say please or thank you whether it's at home, work or out shopping. It's just the polite thing to do. I even say "thank you" when I call to make a Dr appointment.

I always say (and I mean always) please and thank you when I ask my support staff to do something for me. I will reread any email request and go back and insert these polite words in the event I accidentally left them out. I don't usually say anything to someone who doesn't say "thank you" unless it was a blatant rude gesture. I just accept that not everyone is as courteous, unfortunately. My mother raised me to be and I am grateful.

I always say "please" and "thank you" also "excuse me" and "bless you". In addition I wave at drivers to thank them when they let me out or over (I don't do anything negative when they don't either). I am trying to instill this habit in both of my children also.

i try to say please/thank you often, espically when im at a restaurant or store. Just because its someone's job to help you, doesnt mean you cant be grateful. And it makes me bonkers when you hold the door open for someone and they dont even acknowledge you, makes me want to kick them in the behind ( i never have and probably wont but i do invision it!)
My husband is extremly polite- after 6 years together he still holds open the car door for me :) Hopefully his manners rub off on the kiddos!

Always. I thank the cashier and grocery baggers at the grocery store.
Restaurant servers for EVERY interaction. If I am at a table and they pour water for someone and that person does not say thank you or notice, I will say thank you for them. The drive through, fast food places.. Always showing them respect and gratefulness.

If I am asked "May I Help you, I answer". "Yes, thank you" or "Yes, Please"..

When I supervise or manage others, i am like you I always model the behavior. It sets a tone.

I am genuine when I do this. It could be because most of my employment has been in the service retail industry. I take great joy in helping customer find the perfect item they are looking for or need. I find great joy in helping them.
I have mentioned before all of this is normal for us. When our daughter was being interviewed at a college, she came outside and thanked me. She said the gentleman told her "she had the best manners he had seen in years,".

Yes. I am on top of my son with using his manners and I do the same.. It's not a thought process in my mind, it comes naturally to say "please, thank you or your welcome"... More people do need manners, I totally agree..

I do it ALL the time. I think I always have for the most part, but once I had a child starting to talk I recall telling my husband that we need to make sure we say it when needed because the best way to teach is by example.

Do my kids always say it when they should? HECK NO, but they say it a lot, so hopefully we are on the right track!

Yes. Always. And our kids have been brought up to say them too. Of course, every once in a while, I have to remind them that when I said "Put your clothes away please" the fact that I said "please" didn't make it a 'request'. LOL

I'm also one of those who pauses my dinner conversation to say "thank you" to the server who just refilled my drink. Our kids have learned to do the same. :)

Always always always... I don't get snippy with someone if they don't "thank" me for doing something with them, but I make a point of using my manners and insist that my son (and husband) do the same.

It's sad to me that people don't expect a "thank you", but they certainly appreciate receiving it! We were at the county fair last summer and my (then) 2 yr old thanked the farmer for letting him pet the baby goat. The farmer actually commented on the fact that this was the first time a child had thanked him in at least 5 years. Very sad, but so important!

Yes, I do say please and thank you. I probably come off as overly polite, if there is such a thing, especially to waitstaff at a restaurant. I don't say "you're welcome" to someone who doesn't thank me after I hold the door for them; there are a lot of live wires out there and I don't want to piss off the one who has a gun or something.

This is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves!

My husband is always hounding my daughter to use please and thank you, then he turns around and demands her to put away her toys, or eat or whatever. She becomes very defiant and after a few months I put two and two together and figure out why she was that way with daddy and NOT mommy (usually). Well I make a practice of ALWAYS saying please pick up your toys, please put on your socks & shoes so we can leave. While he NEVER uses please and thank you when asking her to do something. Yes we are parents but that does not mean we can be rude to our children, plus to me that only makes it more confusing that adults/parents are rarely heard using polite words.

At work I always try to be polite. I am the event supervisor and when I talk to the staff when I ask for something to be done I always so please. Now if I have to ask twice, I work with college students, sometimes the please gets dropped. I always say thanking you, even if it is there job to plate food or open the doors I try to keep it polite and show that I appreciate what they did/do.

At home or out and about I always try to remember to be polite. It is amazing how few adults say please, thank you, your welcome when running daily errands. The smile that the cashier gives when I say thank you, have a nice day is so warming, you can tell that she hardly ever hears that back when she says have a good day.

I agree that saying your welcome if someone ignores you might be a little passive agressive. I do not say your welcome if no thanks is given.

Always. If I'm trying to get one of my kids to stop/do something, I make sure to say please and thank you. Even if it's something they SHOULD do or know not to do.

And yes, I still say 'You're Welcome' to a rude person without them saying thanks.

When working retail I was taught to say Thank you Mrs. Miller, or whtever. We had to look at the card and use the name. If they didn't' use a card we had to say Sir or MA'am. So I do notice when other store's clerks say thank you.
I try to be polite when speaking to people. You get a lot father with honey than with vinegar.

I do not say you're welcome if they ignore me. That is passve agressive. I just let it go.

YES I'm that person who's Very polite and Smiles at everyone etc. - Drives me nuts when I dont hear the person in front of me line say anything back to the cashier or who ever who just said " hi how are you today" :-( RUDE
thats just One Example.........

I just spent the week with my 78 y/o English step father and my kids. It was a terrible week, my 9 year old couldn't say thank you or please enough to not make him mad. Things have changed because he says it very time he asks or is given something. My kids aren't rude, but it seems like it after that week. The 3 year old was better with the thank you's, than her sister.

When I was a the top boss of 75 people, I was big with please and thank you at first. Then I figured out some people took the "Will you please" as a suggestion, instead of a demand from me. I had to figure out, who I had to give direct statements, in order to get things done. The was a grocery store, not an office, so the employees where all different ages and educations.

I say please and thank you. I do not say "your welcome" if someone doesn't say thank you. I think of it as a random act of kindness. I think that sometimes the things we do that we don't get thanked for are the most important!

i try to say please. the exception to this is if i am telling my daughter to do something. if i say please when directing her, she looks at it as an option not to. i htink its in the way that i say it, cause of how i talk, but i don't know. so i will say, grace take this to your room, instead of grace, would you please take this to your room. but with adults i try to remember to say please and thank you. usually i always say you're welcome... even to those that don't say thank you. and if they walk through the door i'm holding open an don't acknowledge it in any way, i'll say you're welcome but raise my voice a little to make sure they hear me. people just don't appreciate things anymore.

I once worked for a man who was truly gracious. He did not just say please and thank you. Sometimes, even those words are not said with a gracious spirit. Even when handing me my paycheck, the man would thank me for my service and devotion. It was never just a simple thank you. Sometimes, he would even come over to my desk, look me in the eye, and say, "Just remember - I never heard of a man on his death-bed saying that he wished he had spent more time at his office. Always remember that your family comes first."

I think we not only forget to say these words, I think we often forget how to honor and respect the spirit of ourselves and others. There are so many gracious phrases I rarely hear anymore. Instead of saying please, how much more meaningful is it to say, "Would you be so kind as to...?" Or, instead of a simple 'thank you', why not touch someone's heart with, "I truly appreciate the attention you gave this." There are so many ways to say please and thank you that let's the person know you are expressing genuine courtesy, respect, honor, admiration, appreciation, and gratitude.

But, to put this simply, THANK YOU for bringing this up! Language is powerful. It is the one way we touch everyone. It has the power to draw us together and harmonize our attention or the power to cause wars. Using the language of virtue encourages virtue in us all.

I use please and thank yo with my family, my boss and coworkers.

What REALLY ticks me off is when I'm checking out in a STORE and the cashier does NOT say thank you...and I do! Grrrrrrrrr....

I always say please and thank you and you're welcome, including to my own hubby as well as the people I work with. I figure I am a role model to my daughter, and more she sees me doing something, the more likely she'll be to do it herself.