Planning

I'm sorry. I'm just wondering WHY any 18 year old would think that having a baby with her fiance is a good idea O. month after graduation.

What about college, tech school, a career, a puppy?

Some moms might be praying for you, but I'll bet we'll all be PAYING for you.

why is an 18 year old engaged and having sex? WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WANT A BABY BEFORE GETTING MARRIED?!!!!! AGAIN?!!! SERIOUSLY?!!

You really need to be able to handle a marriage, job, household...BEFORE you have a baby.

You aren't married and having babies?! OH MY WORD!!! Girl - finish your education. Ensure that you are SELF-SUFFICIENT BEFORE YOU HAVE ANY MORE CHILDREN!!! if you are using or accepting WIC, Foodstamps or Welfare - you should lose all of your "entitlements" should you chose to bring another child into this world.

I know many are going to accuse me of being harsh - but SERIOUSLY!? 18 and you already have one child?! Get your education, buy a home, get a life before you bring a child into it!!

I BEG YOU TO PLEASE get a career and get married first. Having a baby is very expensive and emotionally taxing. I know it seems wonderful to have a baby and it IS, but it is also VERY challenging. You sound like a very mature and articulate girl. In order to make a mature decision to raise another human being think of all the planning-not just the timing...talk to someone who has a child about how much it costs to raise a baby-even for a year-be realistic and decide if its something that is a wise decision for you right now. What about rent/mortage? Food, water, electricity, clothes, bottles, formula, daycare... Your child deserves to be raised by 2 mature, married, adult parents, with decent jobs/careers and a nice home/apartment. You have so much life to live...waiting a few extra years will not hurt anyone..but deciding to have a baby right now...might not be good for the baby. I'll be praying for you.

you have years ahead of you to have babies! At 18, if you want to get married, go ahead, but take some time (at least 5 or even 10 years) and enjoy your life while you are young. You will still be a young mom at 25 or so, there is no reason to rush! You and your fiance should spend time as a couple before taking such big life changing steps. As a woman, your ideals in life are likely to change or at least alter in the next few years. Slow down... :)

If you are a serious poster, and not someone who's just playing games with the moms on this site for fun, here's the deal.

Talk to your ob/gyn about family planning. You need to understand more about your body. Stay on the pill for 5 years. Enjoy your new married life and being a COUPLE together. It is an entirely different experience than it will be once you have kids.

Go to college, or do whatever it is that you are passionate about to build a career for yourself. And if being a mom is something that you want to do, find a passion that you can build a business on and work towards doing something you can do as a mom as well. To be a business owner is a fantastic thing to role model for a child.

Once you have a child - YOUR LIFE IS NO LONGER YOUR OWN. I don't mean this in a bad way, it's just the truth. You live for someone else. You are still your own person, but your decisions are no longer about only you. This is beyond what being married is like.

I had my son at 39 - if I could do it over, I would have gone for early 30's, but I wasn't married till I was almost 30. I am very glad we were a COUPLE first before we became a family. There is SO much for you to do, learn, see - about yourself, your husband to be, the world. Live a little more, and then you'll have a stronger foundation to build your family on.

DON'T DO IT. you have your whole life ahead of you plenty of years to have babies. As many other women said, go to college, have a career. be your own person first. Why on earth would an 18 year old INTENTIONALLY be planning to get pregnant?????? It's 2011 not 1820. People used to have babies young because they only lived to like 60. Now most women don't have a baby till 30. I'm 33, almost 34 pregnant with #3 after 12 years of marriage. I had #1 at age 27. Come on Jeremy's fiancee - you are more than that!!!

Again? Have you had a baby recently? You should consult your Dr about these question.

sweetie, look, no matter what your church might have taught you, being on the pill doesnt not effect your long term ability to have children, the pill is 99.5 percent effective, that why it is called birth control, not birth prevention.
K. h.

I am almost 34 and trying to concieve my 2nd child. I have been on birth control pills since I had my daughter 8 years ago. My doctor said there is no length of time you need to be off the pill prior to conceiving. If you stop the pill today and get pregnant within the next month, there are no issues, or complications to worry about. However, I will agree with most other posters on here. You are only 18 and have a long life ahead of you. This is the time for you to be with your fiance, to get to know him, go places together, do things you wouldn't do with kids. Once you have kids, your life will be much different. I was pregnant when i was 17 and had a miscarriage. At the time, it was the most devastating event in my life. I had stopped taking birth control on purpose so I could get pregnant, so when I had the miscarriage at 2 months it was really hard to handle. I wanted to get pregnant right after that so I didn't start taking birth control immediately. Thankfully, soon after that I realized I wanted to live my teenage years as a teenager, not a mother. To this day, I am so thankful I had that miscarriage. If I didn't, I would now have a 17 year old. I am still with the same man and if we did have that baby, I know we could have done it, but I am happy I got to spend time with my husband just the two of us before we had our daughter 8 years ago.

My second son is an antibiotic baby (so I was stupid and thought the whole antibiotics with BC renders the BC useless was a bit of a myth now I know its not and in fact several of my friends are antibiotic babies as well)... He turned out fine. And the first one was conceived 2 weeks after I stopped the pill... He's fine too. But for peace of mind call your GYN or a nurses hotline and they can give you much better info than "my kids turned out fine" Good luck with everything!

So I just checked your profile and saw that you are still in high school... Do you already have a kid? If you do isn't your life really hard already? I could barely handle it when I had my first at 26... You have plenty of time to have more but, if you still think you want to talk to a councilor, therapist or someone at planned parenthood. Please do not think I'm talking down to you but the part of your brain that deals with actions and consequences is not fully developed until your early 20's. Please talk to someone you trust whose over 25 about this in person. You owe it to yourself.

hi,

To answer the question you asked.... typically your ob/gyn will advise you to be off the pill for an entire 30 days (and to have had one full cycle without the bill - so 2 periods) before you try and conceive.
You will want to use another form of birth control during this time.

You should go get checked out by your OB/GYN and you can discuss with her/him how to best concieve - especially because you just miscarried a couple months ago due to 'high stress' and have just patched things up with your b'friend.

You will also want to start taking a pre-natal vitamin and watching everything that you eat so that your diet is balanced. Whatever was causing you the stress before, make sure it is handled and you have developed a better way to cope - because having a baby when you are engaged and so young will be an incredible amount of stress - so you will want to make sure you have developed techniques for handling stress in a more productive way.

It's also a good idea to make sure you have a savings account started so that you can begin to save for all the things you will need to buy for the baby.

Good luck.