Piggy Back- Do You Know Your Husband's Passwords? JFF

No, I can't imagine why I would ever need to know any of his passwords.
We share an itunes account and an ipad, so I know the passwords for those, but that's it.

No I don't have any of his passwords and he doesn't have mine either. If either of us ever choose to cheat knowing a password isn't going to change that. I don't feel the need to monitor my husband plus he has many accounts I am not legally allowed to have access to that have to do with his work.

Yes. I know most of them. Mostly because I set them up, or he's asked me to log in for him when traveling. And I save them in my password manager. So when he forgets them, he calls me! LOL But, for the most part, I don't use them. And, he doesn't know ANY of mine. He's never asked or needed a reason to know them, and he would never remember them anyways.

We share most of our online stuff. We have one email address (although now we have smartphones we had to set up new gmail accounts - but everything still comes to our shared email). My husband doesn't have a FB account - says it's stupid - but is requently on my FB... hahaha.

We got married when we were both in our 30s and had been around the block a time or two already - but we decided very early on to share everything. We have one checking account, one savings account, etc. The only things we have that are separate are our retirement plans through our employers. No secrets, open books - it makes life so much easier!

Some yes, some not, the work ones I don't have and I really don't want either.

Really I do have them all because I have the password to where he stores them all. I have never used them beyond when he has asked me to look something up and print it.

How? We have never really hid them from each other. Why, why not?
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It is not a matter of trust or lack of trust. It is a matter of can you look this up for me. I think it would be an odd thing to purposely hide from someone you trust and respect.

Nope.

Why not? Because I have no need or reason to know them. I trust my husband, period.

We both leave our social networking sites/email accounts open on our electronic devices so I suppose we could snoop on each other if we wanted anyway.

No, somethings are ment to be private. We have an open relationship and I have never felt the need or urge to read his emails.

Nope, no need to know them because I trust him. I think it's weird that so many NEED to know their husbands or wives passwords.

Yes! Not that I have snooped or anything. Our passwords are in one place, he has access to mine, I have access to his. The only ones I do not know, are his work ones.

I know theme where he doesn't. I set up the accounts, loaded them on his phone (he rarely uses the computers) and if for some reason he needs them he hands me his phone and I enter them all. He can't remember them ,even though for some things we have the exact same passwords.

Even having all of that information, I have never gone into any of his accounts and looked.

I know all of my husband's passwords, and he knows mine. But I've never used them. We have been married 10 years and I think we talked about passwords during the beginning of our marriage. Neither of us had any problem with the other knowing all of our passwords. He uses the same or similar password for everything, as do I, so it's easy to remember.

Yes, and he knows mine. When we we got engaged we gave each other everything. It was a "if something ever happened to me, you'll need this" type of thing. With that said, we are totally transparent. I have looked in his accounts a total of two times. (That was for something he asked me to find for him.) We have them for practical purposes, not to snoop. I trust him, and feel no need to look or have them...aside from practical purposes. I also never feel the need to look, because I trust him. I don't even think about it.

Nope, I don't know nor do I feel a need to know. He doesn't know mine either.
I could probably guess it if I wanted to (and vice versa) - but I don't see a need to snoop on him.

For me I think it that with age (approaching 40) and after 10 years of marriage I am just not insecure or jealous about my relationship. I was when I was younger... but not anymore. Kind of a relief!

I do know them all.

I know them because I generally have created them for him. He's not too technical. In fact, he calls me all the time and asks me to write long emails for him since he can't type too well.

Do you know your husbands email, facebook etc passwords?
Yes, in fact I use some of the same passwords for various accounts.

If you do, when did you get it?
When he set up the accounts.

How? Why?
These things use to not be important to me. Then he had an affair. Since then, all of his stuff online and on his phone are available for my perusal at any time. It was one of the conditions I put on how we were going to save our marriage. We found out that keeping things from each other drove us apart and caused more problems than it solved.

It's been 4 years since that affair ended, and although it changed our lives and our marriage completely, it was all for the good. We don't have the need to keep things from each other anymore.

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Being online wasn't the problem or the cause, he actually cheated with one of our employees. They corresponded through a secret email address and texting. I found out because he accidently left his phone behind one morning and I realized he had not left it out like that for a few months and I got suspicious. Reading his texts was how I found out, that's why I have an all access pass to his stuff. Having the access doesn't guarantee he won't cheat again, having them before wouldn't have either. But having the access gives me peace of mind, it's not a control thing but rather something I do to ease my mind. I caught him still contacting her months after, but I also saw she never responded to him. It was for reasons like this I need the access. It's not snooping if he's already lost my trust once before.

My husband doesnt have a facebook. I have his email password because I set up that account for him. He has my email password because we used to share an email.
I believe he does have a business email, but I dont have the password, I am sure he would give it to me if requested, but I dont feel a need to have it.
He does have the password to my facebook. Although he is too cool to have a facebook himself, he does enjoy facebook creeping from time to time. Or playing some stupid games.

I know his main ones because he's told me. "Hon, can you log into my Outlook and look up x for me?" I don't use them to snoop, and half the time his accounts are up on the computer anyway. He probably knows my usual passwords. The ones I don't know the PW to, I have not had a need to get into.

It comes down to trust. If you can't trust someone, it doesn't matter if you have the passwords or not.

Yes. We know each others' passwords for everything. Most of our stuff is joint and the passwords are saved on the computer. We've had complete transparency since day one! It works for us!

I do know them. Bank codes, facebook, and email.

But I honestly don't remember them. Lol

He gave them to me in passing and it has been a while. I know the email and facebook he gave me (and I gave him) because we were having a chat similar to the last posters, about how each of us had exes or other males/females on our pages and the other started to ask questions. We both agreed within seconds, let's just give each other our passwords! Neither of us have anything to hide and he can log in to my stuff anytime he wishes. I doubt he wishes. lol

I leave my facebook and email and things open at home all the time.

Yes, we have a spreadsheet with all of our passwords - it's backed up to the external harddrive/timecasule so we can access from any computer on our network - (it's also password protected!!!!).

We exchanged passwords when we merged all our finances. As I was adding in passwords we just listed ALL accounts (even non-financial ones like facebook and email) on the spreadsheet.

Would I ever use them without his permission? No. If I wanted to see something I would ask if I could login/look around or I would discuss it with him. I have had a couple bad experiences in my life that lead me to have trust issues - but I wouldn't just violate his privacy. In return he rarely signs out of anything, so his facebook is always *open* as is his email..... he's just always signed in.

Yes- to all. I set up all my husband's online accounts for everything, with the same password for everything. If not, I know the answers to his security questions to have whatever it is reset. It's not for snooping, though. I handle all the finances and sometimes I need to get access to something he's got going to his own email or an account in his name.

Yes, and I think he knows mine. We just gave them to each other. Why not? And I don't go through his stuff. He'll leave his facebook open all the time. I'll read what's on the screen, but I don't scroll through. I don't know who all his friends are, and I know he's not doing anything inappropriate. Maybe I'm naive, but I trust him and he hasn't proven me wrong.

Yes. If something, God forbid happens to your spouse, it's better to be able to find any info you need or might need. Since we don't hide anything from each other we have no need for secret passwords, and if he asks me to look up something for him, I can.

I know passwords to accounts we share (financials, etc) but I don't "need" his private passwords for myself. Gees, we both have a life and we don't waste time snooping on each other.

He does not know my passwords either.

We are 2 adults in a solid relationship... which is different from a parent/child relationship.

We are secure within our 26 yr relationship that we don't play games like that and don't feel as though we have to.

Everyone is different... to each his own!

all of our passwords are written down on a sheet in the desk.
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Sort of - I know my wife's cell-phone password, but I don't have one. We don't know each other's FB password, and don't care to. We don't have any reason to be on each other's FB or e-mail.

yes, we share our passwords with each other. I don't remember when he told me them. I guess when we met? We got engaged a month after we met, so I really don't remember when he told me all his passwords

I know all his email, face book and financial stuff. Now I don't know how to unlock his phone, he tried to show me but I just can't get used to the touch screen, now that I have an IPad I could probably manage it. I didn't see the original question, but I never go check up on him, never has been any issue.

No, but he keeps them all on a spreadsheet in the filing cabinet if I needed them. Oh... I do know his FB password. Why? Because he set up both of our accounts at the same time. His password is the same as mine, just backwards. He also set up my smartphone for me, so he has all of my passwords as well.

I know some not others. I have access to his password but would have to ask his password to get into the document where he keeps them. ( I just asked him what that is , he told me. ) His email is always open, he never closes it. If I asked he'd tell me. He hides nothing. I'm the only one who hides things, and I only hide what I'm up to on here. ha ha he's always looking over my shoulder to see what I"m doing on Mamapedia.

Yes... but I don't know it without having to look. He knows mine too - but I think it's the same - he'd have to look. We have a sheet with all the signons, passwords for all things from bank accounts, utilities, credit cards, to social networks & emails in the safe. I don't feel the need to check up on him.

He does not have a facebook but if he did yes I would have it. I have all his passwords besides his work passwords. There is no reason for him to ever have anything I can't access.

I've set up almost all of my husband's accounts (online pay, email, etc.) so I have the passwords to everything. He doesn't have any of my passwords.

i know his iphone password. other than that he doesnt have anything. There is one for the apple tv that I don't know but that is because I can't remember it.

I know his most common passwords but I don't really use them or go out of my way to find out what one is.

He knows mine but seriously, if I am driving and need something out of my purse he will hand me my purse. He won't go in to my purse to even get my wallet out when it's in plain sight.

Yes, I now my husband's passwords. A few years back he was very ill and I asked him for them and he gave them to me. I don't use them as I have my own.

The passwords are on a card and put up.

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My husband doesn't have email or FB. He uses mine. It's easier for him that way if we get an important email I always see it before he does. It doesn't bother me at all either. And he really doesn't care for FB anyway he says it is a time waster.

Yes, I do. We share a home email acct and he doesn't have fb. He knows my fb password b/c he gets on my acct occasionally to check out his daughter's page, chat with friends or play games.

Happy Monday to you too!

Yes I know his passwords, not because of any big deal or anything but a) his fb account, I helped him set up way back and I used one of his favorite passwords for it. b) his email account password, he gave to me to open it for him a while back. Plus we have 2 computers in the house, and we both have gmails, so depending on who was last on what computer one or the others of our emails will be open.

I know his bank account code, but it makes no difference, we have joint checking, savings etc. He has a 401k through his job that's "his" but that's about it.

We are not secretive with our stuff.

Yes I know his. But ONLY because he is not very computer literate, so I set up his email account. (that's the only thing he has a password for)
I "think" he knows mine. I am that horrible person that pretty much uses one or two passwords for ALL of my things that need passwords.
Maybe I should write them down for him so that if, god forbid, I should die or something he knows how to access all of our bank, bills, and other things that are password protected.
He knows I am on facebook (he is not), he knows who my friends are (about 75% are my family on facebook), and he can look at anything he wants. Although he never has. Same for me.
But, I have never wanted to check up on him. I snoop in his wallet....that's where the money is! lol
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