Personalized Gift Has Name Misspelled

Can you get somebody to fix it somehow? We had a gift like this when my son was born and I had someone make the e in his name into an a. It was just stitching that she pulled out. I felt funny telling the sender they made a mistake.

In my opinion, it would be rude unless it were someone you were close with and comfortable talking to about it. I would just use it as is and send her a thank you card.

Personally, I would tell hubs to get over it! Since she is not close to the family and you can't directly contact her, you would have to do a little leg work to reach her and rectify it, is it worth it? My name is mispelled almost every day, I don't care I know how to spell it, that's all that matters :)

Omigod, of course you don't say anything!! Who the hell cares? It's just a pillow, use it.

What a strange thing for a guy to care about.

If it came from a "close family friend" I would show her. She would probably be more offended if she found out later that you didn't tell her.
Before I get raked over the coals for being rude I am just saying that if I were the "close family friend" I would want to know. I would try to have it fixed somehow. If you are close to this person won't they be coming to see the baby? She'll see the babies name on something at some point and I am sure it will "click" that the name on the gift was misspelled. Won't she feel awful then? What if she asks where the pillow is? Then you are in a very uncomfortable situation.

Someone (coworker of hubby) stiched my daughter a picture when she was born. It was spelled wrong. It has been proudly hanging in her room for 9 years. It doesnt bother us. The lady made it with love :)

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Funny, I got a gift for my third child that was personalized wrong too. Lucky for me, I was able to scrape off the additional letters and now it's fine. I wouldn't say anything directly to the person, but when you write the thank you note, you could say, "thank you for the lovely blanket you made for our son, {insert child's name here}. It was thoughtful of you to put the time and effort into it."

Since it's hand made, it's unlikely it can be fixed. I wouldn't throw it away but I wouldn't display it either, especially if it bothers you too much.

oh please don't say anything. i have a satin quilt that my husband's grandfather's elderly neighbor (a looong time friend of the family) embroidered for our son, and she barely knows us. it is gorgeous and must have taken a lot of care and time to create. if it was misspelt there's no way i could say anything. it's a wonderful treasure and truly comes from the heart.

I have the Bible that my grandparents gave me at birth. My first name is misspelled. I am sure they couldn't have afforded to have another one gold-leafed. I have no idea if my parents said anything, but I doubt it.

If it were me, I wouldn't say anything. It was thoughtful...and a shame they didn't ask. But that's life. : )

Congratulations on the birth of your son!

My dd is Rosamaria and people always want to spell and call her Rosemarie or Rose Maria. Go figure!

As far as the pillow, I would let it go and use it. I love perfectly imperfect things and this pillow may just one day fall into that category for your ds.

I wouldn't say anything other than Thank You.
I'm sure the daughter in law put lots of time and effort into it and to tell her she spelled the name wrong would do nothing but make her feel bad.
Your baby doesn't know the difference.
If he still has the pillow when he's older, he will come to understand the correct spelling of his name.
I think your husband should get over it. It's highly possible that will be one of your son's favorite and most treasured things so dad might want to get used to it being around for a while.
I understand that new parents can feel very protective and want everything to be perfect for their new baby, but the world ain't perfect.

I would consider all the time she spent thinking of you and your baby as she made it and just let it go.

Best wishes.

I don't think it's that big a deal... it's not like your son knows how to read! by the time he can, he will be old enough to be told that it was just spelled wrong, and he probably won't care then either. (Heck, it might be worn out by then. lol.)

Erica brings up a good point: depending on how the pillow is made, it may not be a big deal to fix it. Someone else said that if they were the close family friend, she would want to know. I agree (but maybe that's because my name was always misspelled growing up... the 'h' version of meghan wasn't so common 30 years ago. Also, on this note, while I was always grateful for whatever gift/gesture, anything with my name misspelled never felt like *mine* and was just an item with a name close to mine on it, if that makes sense).

Anyhow, IF it seems like it may be an easy fix, I'd probably tell the friend how much you like it, but then mention that maybe the spelling of your little guy's name must have gotten lost somewhere in the line (you to friend to daughter-in-law) and would there be any way she (DIL) could fix it so that you could use the pillow in the nursery. If you don't know if it's an easy thing to change, you may just ask your family friend if she thinks it would be, then mention that it's misspelled. And if it you know it's not fixable, it seems like mentioning it really depends on the relationship you have with her and if the opportunity arises. But it may be better to nip it in the bud if she may be likely to give your son other personalized things through the years (my brother and SIL) still misspell my nephew's name (first and last)... which is really frustrating for my sister and my nephew.

Last thoughts: I guess I just think that I would want to know the right way to spell my friend's baby's name. AND I would be wary to put out something with my kid's name misspelled so that other folks don't get the wrong spelling in their heads.

I really hope you are able to work this out with your friend. It sounds like a very thoughtful and neat gift and one I'm sure she'd want your son to treasure. Good luck!

My great-grandparents started the tradition of buying everyone savings bonds at birth. Mine has my name misspelled. My grandparents have continued the tradition--ALL 3 of my girls' are misspelled. It's not THAT big of a deal.

Question is: How is the pillow crafted? Is it knit, quilted, crocheted, etc? Feel free to respond in private.

If the gift-giver is a close friend of the family then she is going to realize at some point that his name is misspelled. I would want to know so that I could fix it!

I would mention it the next time you see her and make sure you are enthusiastic about how much you love it, but ask if she would be offended if you had someone fix it.

We received a block with my sons name, birthday, weight, etc. The date was wrong, the birth weight was wrong, but his name was right. We didn't say anything, and put it in with all the other keep sakes for him.

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My daughters have had that happen twice!, an xmas stocking. My oldest her Name is Gwendolynn, they first spelled it, "Gwendolyn" (so only an "N" had to be added), But we were sure to tell them because it was so easy to Fix. Now with my second it was a book that had her name imprinted into it throughout the story. my second daughters name is Lilly, they spelled it "Lily". we did NOT tell them. that will be too hard to change.

It was a gift. be thankful

I'm sure it wont be the last time the name is misspelled. I had a beautiful ceramic piece of art made from a friend for one of my sons and they put his birth-date down wrong on it. I was kinda disappointed but never said anything to her and hung it on the wall for years. When my son was old enough to realize it was the wrong date I explained to him what happened.
She worked hard on it I'm sure. Probably wanted the name spelled correctly but someone probably told her the wrong way and so it isnt even her fault. I would love it with it's flaw as it will be a conversation piece forever.

I wouldn't say anything. It may make the maker of the pillow feel bad and the gift giver feel like you didn't appreciate it. I can see how that is a little annoying. My name is J., JUST J.. I am NOT a Jennifer. Growing up, even my close friends would call me Jennifer. Having people not believe me when I told them it was just J. on my birth certificate was pretty annoying. I even received things from my great grandmother that spelled my name Jenney. Sometimes I'd see Ginny. I don't have a hard name. I never ever said anything to anyone. I wouldn't dare hurt their feelings like that. But...I will admit--I was annoyed. So I can see your point on that one. If it really bothers you, put the pillow in your son's closet and only get it out when they're coming over. ;)

i wouldnt say anything and I would keep it. My daughter Emilie, always had things written Emily, and what could I say without being rude? it happens, as does mispronounciation of the names or even a similar name getting used. I dont think theres much you can do.

As a one L M., I don't worry about it too much when my name is misspelled. C'est la vie! My daugher and son both have their names misspelled also.

Haha this had me laughing. I am a Marjorie, or so I thought. My mom and dad gave me my original birth certificate that spells it with a Marjory and my license in VA has no R. Talk about a nightmare, VA won't fix the typo until I bring them the birth certificate but the name there is spelled wrong a different way.

Anyway I would just use it.
But when he gets to Scouts and school then make sure his name is spelled the way you want it spelled. My son is a one L Philip and gets annoyed with people who spell his name wrong, he's still only 10.

I would just use it as is for get rid of it.

I would suggest that you just live with it. When my nephew was born, I bought him and his big brother matching t shirts, and I misspelled the new baby's name. They had changed the way they were to spell the name, and I did not know, so that is why it was spelled wrong. Anyway, they have him wear it anyway, and were very gracious about it. I think it is very immature of your husband to refuse to use a pillow because of a misspelled name. Its a PILLOW for heaven's sake!!!

It probably won't be the first time if his name is spelled differently than most. My name always gets misspelled, mispronounced, and everytime someone tries to read it they hesitate... it really isn't difficult either.. just read it lol. Tressie is pretty easy to read but I will get called Treesie, Treeshie, Trisha, Tressa, teresa, tracy, anything but my name. Is it that difficult? commonly mispelled as Tressy, Tressia, or Tressa. My daughter's name is Shayleen, always gets mispelled, mispronounced as cheyenne. I purposely picked that spelling so people would not mispronounce it and should be easy to spell but no they want to spell it shaylene, shalene, shaylee, shayla, or cheyenne. my son Kelly had his freshman t-shirt mispelled as Kelley. He still wore the shirt but was a little surprised because he was pretty popular in school and Kelly is the more popular way to spell it anyway.

I would just leave it alone, let your son use it and someday it will be worn out anyway. Most of the time people are going to buy personalized gifts like pencils, pens, or whatever is in a gift shop with names and will more than likely be mispelled especially if it is a common name but spelled differently. If it is an e and needs to be an a, put a few stitches in it to make it look more like an a. You may be able to sew a few stitches to make it look closer to the correct letter. This is something I am sure won't be the first or last time this happens in your child's life.