Pelvic Floor After 3? - Wheaton,IL

I'm not gonna lie, I had my 3rd at 39, and I'd say my pelvic floor is not what it once was, but it's about the same as after #2, and much better now that my youngest daughter is 18 months than for her first year. I'm hoping that with several years of good abs exercises with kegels and all that I'll be as good as if if I never had kids for my age. I have some female relatives who never exercised much and sat all the time who are incontinent with weak pelvic floors and they never had kids. Pilates and lots of yoga inversions, keeping light and active supposedly all help. My abs come and go in proportion to how well I'm behaving exercise wise. I luckily never had the hemorrhoid situation, so I can't speak to that.

I just had my 4th, with 7 years between #3 and #4. Ofter giving birth to her, I realized that my uterus was falling out!! I was mortified. My midwife said not to worry, that it may work itself back over time. It did...to an extent. I "feel" it. It drives me crazy. I am a runner, so it was an issue for me. I noticed that the days I run, it's worse. Plus, if I do any heavy lifting, standing, etc on top of it, I can really feel the pressure/pain by the end of the day.

I had a consult with a surgeon, who said that the best option for me down the road is the complete reconstruction, basically-because of my activity level. The nip/tuck surgical option would probably require me to have to have it again, within 5 years. HOWEVER, I have a toddler at home and the recovery requires no lifting for 6 weeks! So, I tried the pessary, which did not work for me, either. The thing never stayed put.

Yes, birthing 4 children took it's toll. Since my toddler was a huge surprise,and turned my life upside down, I honestly would have told you at one time, NO, don't have another! Just being honest. But, now that I have her and we are all so in love with her, I don't think of NOT having her because of what it did to my body. I am coming to terms with my prolapse - we are making peace...LOL!!

If you want another, I say go for it. Your body is basically shot, anyway, if you are turning 40 ---- LOL!!!! Just kidding( I am almost 40, too). In the big scheme of things, it's not the worse thing in the world......?? :)

I wish you the best of luck!!.

My pelvic floor just now started getting to me.... I had two natural deliveries and I'm 53. I dont piss myself yet but I can feel pressure down there and kegels dont seem to help it much. I think your pelvic floor just goes with age due to elasticity and other factors. Having a good sex life, lots of orgasms (mechanical or otherwise) helps keep your pelvic floor in tact... but age and gravity will eventually take it's toll whether you've had 0 kids or 10. Are you feeling lucky?

Well, sometimes I wipe my uterus...

Does that tell you anything?

I am currently prego with my 3rd and have been running the whole time (turn 29 weeks tomorrow). I am carrying high like I did with my other 2. Do you do your Kegal exercises? My mother in law had 5 babies and had no problems after...but she was religious with her pelvic floor exercises. I try to do mine regularly...even while running sometimes. I am not sure how it will be after I give birth but for now, all is good :) I plan 1 or 2 more after this. Whatever you decide, best wishes!

Fine -thank you-after six.

I have three children and I am almost 34. I have not noticed a change at all in my pelvic floor. All 3 were born naturally and 2 and 3 were born at home. I have no pressure, no bladder problems, no hemorrhoids, no problems at all. My abs are not that great but I don't really exercise as much as I should.

Lisa

Pelvic floor fine but I had three C-sections...First two not by choice...so the plumbing down below was never affected...that's the good news the bad news is I am in real need of a nip/tuck to my hanging bread basket :)

It is your decision but if you seriously want a third make up your mind and be content :)