Do ya'll have any sort of pre-planned escape plans when you are at a party (formal or informal) and you want to leave? Some sort of secret code or signal? Does it always work? Do any of your friends know?
My husband touches me on the back to let me know when he's ready to leave but if I'm not ready to leave I'll ask him for another drink. Or if its me, I hand him my empty drink glass and he either comes back with my coat (he's ready to leave too) or another drink (he's not).
It usually works for us. None of our friends know about it...we don't want to offend them if they are hosting a party of their own.
Blurting out "let's go" isn't an option for most of the parties and functions we go to. I'm not talking about a tailgate like "beer in the coolers" party either, at least for some of them.
I love the little looks and signals my husband and I give each other. Like I said, it works for us and we get invited to alot of parties, so we haven't offended anyone yet!
And whoever said they don't care if they offend the hosts...how sad to be so passive!
No...not really.
We wait for a private moment & O. of us says "ya ready?" Then determine from there if we're on the same page about leaving.
Not too fancy or covert, I guess, huh? ;)
How funny, A.!!
That's about how my husband and I work it. Silent "cues" so we don't offend the hosts!!
I don't smoke, but there are times that I might ask him if he's ready to go out for a smoke too. That's another cue we have.
We just always did like OneAndDone - quietly ask the other if s/he is ready to go. No need for cloak and dagger maneuvers.
I usually just say to my husband " Let's go, time to leave". He does the same. We never had a code.
We don't have anything so formal, but DH knows that I have a limit to social interaction and if he thinks I'm getting to low ebb, he'll say something and I'll let him know if we should go soon or within the hour. It's not like he shouts across the room or anything.
I try to set a time with my hubby before we go out. So when that time comes, we start our goodbyes (which usually take about a 1/2 hour).
Otherwise, my hubby and I tend to be on the same page. We know when it's time to leave. And we simply say that we need to start to get going.
My husband never wants to leave, so I have to be rather blunt as in "Let's get going in 5 minutes". He will sometimes ignore me, or sometimes say not yet. If I'm really ready to go, or if we're supposed to get home so my parents can be relived of babysitting, I'll just go and get our coats and start saying goodbye to the hosts.
Of course! When one of us is ready to go, we catch the others eye and give a quick "5" sign. That means let's pack it up in 5 minutes. If the other person isn't ready to go, we just shake our head. It works for us and I'm pretty sure no one knows that we do this. If they do, though, that's fine. I'm sure they have something similar when they are at our house!
OK so apparently I'm the only one that will just leave when I'm ready...by myself?
If DH wants to leave, he can. But mostly, he's the social one that's happy to stay out. I see no reason to make him leave. If he wants to, he'll go with me.
If not, I go alone.
And I'll usually just tell the truth...I'm tired and ready for bed! LOL. If my hosts are offended by that, it's unlikely that I want to be invited to any of their future parties anyway.
my parents rub a finger across their nose and tug their ear. Something about "lets go" in spanish "ir nos" (ear nose). If I have my phone I will text my husband and we can figure it out from there. ;0)
I love it.
Would also love it if my husband actually took me to a party. Over the years he has become so anti-social.
Great cues, though and surely the sign of great communication as a couple.
Nope. But we are usually the last ones to leave the party. That's when I have to tell my husband, while dragging his hand, that it is time to go.
