Yep you read right over thanking! On Halloween I made cupcakes for some of my surrounding neighbors. We have a new family that just moved in a month or so ago. They have five kids and we got to talking to them. So I included them when I was making the cupcake count. So, later that day when we saw them while we were out Trick or Treating. The husband said, "Oh my god that was the best pastry I had ever had! They were so good...Thanks and so on." I told him I was glad that he liked them and we went on our way.
A few days later my daughter and I go out to get the mail and I hear a car horn. It's our neighbor. He rolls down the window and (from three houses down) starts yelling about how good the cupcakes were. I smiled and waved and thought, Ok....
So a few days after that while we were out walking both him and his wife start in about the cupcakes again! Don't get me wrong, I am glad they liked them and were grateful for them, but this is getting really embarrassing. It's probably just me...honestly I don't take compliments well, I don't know why. Usually I deflect them by making some self depreciating joke, I am working on not doing that anymore, and boy are these people putting me to the test! I don't know is this a bit over the top or am I just being weird again?
That's some good thoughts. Maybe it is just a conversation starter.... I'll try and move the conversation forward. I think part of the problem is I am so bad at accepting compliments I just don't know what to say next! I am SO weird. :)
Well, think about it. They don't really have anything else to talk to you about, right. (Think: Makin' Copies! from SNL)
They're just trying to be nice.
Ever know the kind of people that know about O. fact about you & that's all they ever talk about or mention?
They are just appreciative....just smile and say you are welcome. They are new and want to be friendly and build a relationship. Nothing weird here!
They want you to make them some more cupcakes woman!! LOL!!
I think they are just trying to start conversation with you...being the new people in the neighborhood may be difficult and they sound like they may want to establish a relationship with you. They may be coming on a bit strong though...take their compliment, you obviously are good at what you do! :)
Can I try your cupcakes? Pleeeeeze?!
:)
They might be going a little over the top with their gratitude, but that doesn't mean that you have to be embarrassed by their compliments. If you see them again and they bring it up, you can offer them the recipe (assuming it's not some dearly held family recipe) and let them know that there is no need to thank you further.
I don't take compliments well, but I am a whiz in the kitchen. It took me years to be able to hear all the raving about the dishes I made. Humility is a great trait to have. Now how about making me some cupcakes lol?
Uh well maybe they are a bit senile (sp)?? Maybe they are using this as icebreaker conversation because they want to get to know you a little better? Maybe that REALLY did make their day! Kindness is just such a rare thing these days!
Take your compliments with grace. If you are uncomfortable you could deflect that mood with something else by changing the subject or talking recipes with the wife.
On another note, I think I want that recipe.......Just how good were they? Hehe.
I agree with Amanda, they are probably just trying to show that they are friendly and appreciative. Probably more so because they have 5 children, and those cupcakes may have been their treat for a few days or so. They might not get treats often.
Maybe next time when or if they do it again, just say that you appreciate it, and no thanks needed, it was your pleasure.
And maybe too later if you feel up to it, you can make them some more treats just to be nice. I am sure they would appreciate it ;)
Some people are not used to kindness, especially with neighbors! I would be shocked if mine did this for us. Shoot, I've lived in my neighborhood for 5 1/2 years and have seen my next door neighbor a total of one time!!!! I'm not kidding. I never see the lady. I have seen her husband a couple of times!
Now, on the other side, great. She came over and kept me company right after I had my back surgery and my husband had to leave for the day. She was my "babysitter"!!! Just chalk it up to someone not used to kindness and know that you brought joy to them!
I bet they're just trying to demonstrate that they're friendly neighbors - they want to start a precendent of being friendly and possibly develop a friendship with another family. Remember, they're new to the neighborhood.
Molly made me chuckle. :)
Maybe the wife is a horrible cook/baker.
This is the kinda weirdness that I get from my IL's. And my MIL is the worst cook/baker I have ever met. :)
They are just trying to find a way to connect with you. Next time they mention the cupcakes, thank them and then introduce another topic of conversation. Find another way to connect with them (kids, school, job, lawn care, etc) and they will eventually get the idea that you are interested in getting to know them too- and not just about their affinity for baked goods.
I am the same way and am a bad compliment taker. Maybe they are not used to the generosity--no one has ever done this for us in our neighborhoods. Grain of salt and go from there. I know I get uncomfortable very easy.
Oh, gosh, be happy for the thanks. I'm still thinking about the poor dear who gave a 2 week notice at the day care center she worked at for 8 years, and the first day of her notice, her boss walked out and said she had hired someone else and didn't need her, and never once said thank you for her 8 years of service being paid minimum wage. No one at the center said or did anything for her.
Your neighbors really like you. Please let them!
Dawn
Maybe they just want to make sure you include them the next time around when you're giving away homemade goodies! I bake a lot, mostly to give away, and find that people thank me A LOT. I think homemade treats are so rare that people just really appreciate them. I'll see someone 6 months after I gave them Christmas cookies or baked them bread, and they'll still be commenting! Just revel in it.
LOL I definitely chuckled too reading Molly's comment but tell me why that was the first thought in my head as well!
h when we 1st moved in our neighbors brought us homemade treats and we probably did the same
1. because we came from the city and it was so cute and unnusual to us
2. b/c we were the new kids on the block
They're in a brand new neighborhood where they don't know anyone yet-- and yours might have been the only friendly gesture they've received since they moved in. Think of them as lonely over eager puppies! (And Molly's right they probably want to be on the GOOD side of the neighborhood baker!)
It's not you...They sound strange to me...A nice thank you one time is enough..As far as rolling down the window, etc., is way too much..Just wave and keep driving is normal, nothing more...Good luck!
They probably hope you'll make another batch and include them again. More cupcakes!!! :) They could be trying to make a friendship with you and are not so sure how to start the conversation so this is a safe route. Ask them if they want the recipe or put the ball in their park and tell them it's their turn next. Make a game out of it or make joke and tell them if they want more cupcakes to just say so.....no need over complimenting. :)
They aren't hurting anyone, just appreciating the kindness. Appreciate yourself. You did good.
