I know the world has changed since I raised my daughter 35 years ago. However, the two main changes that have altered our perception of danger to our children are…
1. … how many people there are sharing the planet now. The same huge percentage of all us are still interested in obeying the law and being helpful to our fellow men, women and children. The same incredibly tiny percentage of people have a predilection for molesting or snatching children.
2. … news reporting. The more sensational, outrageous, or heart-wrenching a story, the more coverage it will get. This leaves many of us with the sense that the world is a terribly dangerous place. Studies show that there's a direct correlation between how much commercial TV a person watches and how dangerous that viewer thinks the world is. And some news reporting is especially egregious in this regard – focusing on the exaggerated faults and evil intentions of everybody else but you, the enthralled viewer.
How sad for our children to think they can't possibly be safe outside the sight of mom or dad, to think there is no stranger they can go to if they need help, to be frightened any time a friendly stranger greets them or comments on their sweet smile, their good throwing arm, their fabulous vocabulary. My goodness, ladies, why would we even want to bring children into such a dreadfully threatening world?
Kids are far more likely to be harmed at home than in public. Most of those events will be accidental, and there will ALWAYS be a way for a child to fall, get burned or poisoned even when we think we've taken every possible precaution. But there's also the "projection" factor – while we're busy believing our kids are in danger from threats from other people, we blithely ignore the many risks we ourselves expose them to – momentary inattention or bad behavior when we're driving; feeding them highly-processed foods laden with unnatural fats, sugars, preservatives and colorings; allowing smoking in the house; daily use of household cleaners, fabric softeners, air "fresheners," and chemicals proven to have serious health risks.
So let's try to apply some simple reason here. Is a child young enough to be physically carried off by a kidnapper in front of other people? Then it's totally fine to keep him beside you, even in the ladies' room. Is he likely to trust anybody who promises him candy or offers him a ride? Then ditto. But if he's a reasonably intelligent 6, 7, 8 years, he's learned to process a lot of information, he runs pretty fast, he knows how to call for help, right? Does anybody fear the emotional/social stunting of our children by teaching them to fear everything and everybody? I sure do.