G.W.
I guess I'm somewhere in the midddle. While I respect Mama A's opinion because obviously that's how they do things in their family, I don't agree with it. But, I personally would have a hard time "just going" like some of the others have suggested knowing I have left my husband behind not feeling positive about my going. There is obviously some major insecurity he's feeling or worry about you guys for some reason. The words he's using seem wierd for this type of situation. To say you are "breaking up the family" is what one spouse would say to another if he/she were maybe cheating and leaving for the other person. That just seems a little dramatic to your scenario which confirms he's masking some kind of insecurity about your leaving without him. Is he close to your side of the family? Has there been drama in the past where he didn't feel accepted by them? There's just got to be some kind of reason behind this...was he as protective with your time before the baby? I guess I'm just saying that you guys have to get to the real reason he doesn't want you to go. Is he just jealous that you would be having a good time and he has to work (if so, that's really immature on his part) or is he worried that you may get into something he can't control. Anyway, tough decision, just going and leaving him behind while he's still unhappy about it will make him seethe all weekend and I'm sure coming home won't be the joyous reunion you would have expected. But, you also can't go through life not doing anything without him so it sounds like you guys need to get to the heart of what's bothering him and what his fears are. If you still haven't resolved it by the time you have to leave, I (and that's just me, ladies!) would probably not go THIS time but I'd be conversing and preparing for the next invitation. Best wishes and have a wonderful weekend whatever you choose to do.