Not Sure What to Do. - Lincoln,NE

If people have heard from him and you know he is alive and capable of speaking, you have a tough choice to make: Is this the way you want things to be in a marriage? It sounds pretty crazy, and something similar happened to a friend of mine: her friend just dropped out of her life, no explanation, nothing. I would hate for that to happen to you, but communication is key in any relationship, even if it is just to say "I need some alone time right now."
You should not be stressing.
Best wishes,
Ingrid

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If you are truly consirned about his well being you need to call family members and make sure they know he is ok. after you know he is not hurt or lost then you will just have to leave on last message on his phone and let him go from there. If he still wants a relationship with you he should call you back. Good Luck

Take some time off work and go see him. Something is not right here. Don't tell him you are coming just show up. As his fiance you have the right to do that. Just be mentally prepared for what you find, I think he's been lying to you.

I have to sort of agree with others. Make your last attempt to get into contact with him. If you feel it's worth, maybe go see him to see if he needs help and to let him know that you care. Men are very different in the way they worry about things and they perceive it as weakness. And he may not see that it's only hurting you! Because at this point you feel helpless! After you've done that and he still hasn't made any attempt, call the engagement off! Let him know the real reason you are doing it though! Not because you don't love him but because you love him so much you don't feel that he needs to have this to worry about too. And when he's ready to let you back into his life then maybe catch up again. we've all had tragedies in our lives before but never have I heard of the 1 where the man cuts out all contact from you. You don't want to sound as though you're clingy or obsessive. Just remember, woman are from venus, men are from mars! Literally! Good luck!

It definitely sounds like he's avoiding contacting you. Even if he's got a lot going on, he should find 15 minutes a day to talk you. Something's not right here - find out sooner rather than later.

just relax.
this is not like him, its not normal behavior for him but these are not normal circumstances either.

he told you he loved you and he would talk to you. we cant imagine the pain hes going through. we cant imagine what hes thinking of dealing with. each person deals with things in their own way. i know when my husband and i had been dating for a year, his grandma died and he was beside himself. he didnt want me to come outside with him, and then he did want me to come outside with him and he really broke down crying. he didnt want me to hold him or comfort him and then he did.

its likely that your finace just doesnt know what to do. he doesnt know how to deal with all the problems with his parents and losing his dad, and he doesnt know how to express it. im going to assume that he knows you well enough to know what you would be doing - and you are kinda showing US that; you are writing calling leaving notes and messages... and maybe he just needs you to not pressure him to talk right now. there are no words you can say when you are losing a parent.

try to back off. see what happens. if you dont hear from him by the end of the week, try getting ahold of him again. if you try to call and you get ahold of him, try not to talk so much, be quite and listen more if you do get ahold of him. dont ask him any questions, let him offer the information. dont say you know how he feels unless you truly do, dont say those cliche things you know? dont push, dont offer to go there, or anything unless he asks.

if you dont get him on the phone, try to send him a message (ONE format only) online or phone. tell him you are worried about him because you havent heard from him, and you just want him to text you and at least say hi. and thats all.

if he doesnt contact you, dont panic. dont overreact, but i honestly dont know what to tell you. i hope that he finally gets ahold of you or something. i wouldnt assume anything bad, but i would pray my heart out to try to find something out. maybe call other family or his parents house if applicable. does he and his ex have kids ? try talking to them? i dont know. try talking to any friends he may have who might know. dont be crazy about it, simply ask if they have heard from him, and end it at that, no matter if the answer is yes or no. just that. hopefully a person woudl offer more information if they had heard from him.
anyway.
good luck. i hope i hear how this turns out..

From my experience, he's not going to ask for your "help" and for you to come to him. This is a VERY big deal for him if he is at all close to his parents. I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do but I know I would have to go see him. Can you just take some time off work and go? I too fear that if you let him do this alone, he'll assume you don't care. I know I would want my husband there if I were going through this. If anything, just to keep me grounded and I'm sure he'd like me there for a distraction. Just something to think about...