No Sex Drive - Brandenburg,KY

Oh honey, my kids are 6, 4, and 2 and most days I'm STILL not in the mood (lol!) You JUST had a baby. Give yourself some time to heal. It took you 9 months to grow a baby, expect it to take 9 months to get back to your prebaby self. That is in shape, size, and sex drive.

Also keep in mind, that right now you are focusing a lot of your attention to your newborn. This is normal normal normal for women to feel after having a baby.

It sounds like you are doing fine, ask him to initiate it if you enjoy it once it gets started. Tell him you are tired and expectedly distracted. Tell him when you are having a good day, and plan on making time for each other when you are not so tired.

Good luck,
J.

This is totally normal!
I believe that from a physiological standpoint, women's sex drives are down after having a baby so we don't get pregnant again right away.
We're not rodents and meant to breed constantly.
Three months isn't that long when you think about it. Your body is still recovering from a major event. You're in love with your baby, and again, I think it's instinct to focus more on that than sex.
You'll get your groove back. Give it time. This is when you need a gentle, nurturing and participatory partner when it comes to baby and the rest will come naturally.

Just my opinion.

Best wishes.

This is completely normal after having a baby! Also, if you're breastfeeding, lack of sex drive is a side effect. For me, unfortunately, I didn't fully have my sex drive back until my twins turned one year old, and I think it was due to exclusively breastfeeding for so long. That, and the stress of two babies at once! But, once it was back, it was back. My husband was very happy. :) Hopefully you don't have to wait a year. But, just know that what you're going through is normal.

Perfectly normal. There have been major changes in your life and your
hormones are still out of whack. It will come back.

your body is still going through changes! eventually you should get back in your groove. give your self a couple more months,AT LEAST!! lol if it last a little longer then that then talk to your doc and see what he/she advises. congrats on the new baby.

my baby is now 4 months and i really just am to worn out from our days together to want sex.like u said its not that u dont find him attractive its just the last thing u think about. what i do is tell him if he will watch the baby for a few hours or do something to make my day easer like cook then we will have sex. it sounds kind of funny but just having sometime off really will help u not be so worn out and everyone gets something they want.haha

Well you are totally normal. Not that that makes it better. Biologically we aren't made to have babies very close together so our bodies naturally try to regulate this for us. If you are breastfeeding it can make this problem worse. I actually read an article in a parenting magazine written by a sex therapist who said that until you're last child is 5 ( yes 5 YEARS) it is not considered abnormal to have a low sex drive. Not that anyone wants to go 5 years without sex just that it's normal. My son is 2 and I still don't think about sex. The article said to just do it anyway. I usually get in the mood once we start and you probably will too. Don't be too hard on yourself your baby is so young and your body is still recovering from giving birth. I wouldn't take anything I would just try to go along with your husband and do it when he wants to so he doesn't feel rejected.

I felt the same way. I have to "think" my way into feeling it sometimes. I literally look at my husband all day, think about how handsome he is, talk and chat some sex talk to him during the day and get myself hyped up. We pour a glass of wine, watch a movie, etc We actually plan our nights most times. We talk about it and plan it like a date night. By the time the kids go to bed we are ready to get started. Try just reminiscing about when you met, all the things you love about him, etc Try making yourself feel sexier, that really works for me too. If I am tired or feel unsexy, I can't do it. Start your evening by showering and 'cleaning up' and getting all smelly good. ;o)
it is hard but I would try those things before any meds.

Give it time!!! 3 months is nothing in terms of recovering from delivery and regaining a sex drive. You are still recovering. If you are nursing it will take even longer for your drive to return. Dont worry, it will, esp. if you had good drive before. Be patient. Of course sex isnt on your mind, you are a new mom.

You're probably on hormonal birth control, right? I promise you that is the reason why you have no sex drive. I was taking the pill and lost my sex drive and got off of it and my drive has improved (not completely, but doing better - I've been off the horrible pill for 2 months now). I also rub prescripton testosterone cream on my body daily (my testosterone level was very low). If you are on hormonal birth control, get off it right away! Next - make an appt. w/ your doctor to have hormonal bloodwork.

I have a feeling that a lot of moms are going to tell you that your lack of sex drive is due to your new baby, but I really don’t think that is the case. No sex drive is usually due to the horrible effects of hormonal birth control. Good luck!