My daughter will turning 4 in May. She was very easily potty trained when she was younger and was wearing regular underwear to daycare when she turned 2. I was feeling pretty good about that and since she was only 2 I didn't really make a big deal out of the night time issue and just kept her in a pull up. Well, we have been working on this on and off for about 6 months now. I really thought to myself "she was so easy to potty train that night time will be just as easy". She will go for a couple of days and stay dry all night...12 hours.. then she will have a week or so where every night she pees herself. This girl has been soaked up to her chest and still sound asleep. She actually asks to wear underwear to bed and says "mommy I try to wake up I really do, I will not pee tonight I promise". I do not want to discourage her but I soometimes do not think she's ready yet. She doesn't pee when she's sleeping during her naps and if she needs to she wakes up from them and goes to the bathroom. I am wondering what advice you all have for this...do I wait a little longer until I feel she's ready or just keep going with it and do laundry every day?
There is no such thing as night time potty training.
Her bladder will be capable when it's capable.
No bladder stretching required! LOL
In the meantime (which might be next month, next year or two years from now) layer a waterproof pad/sheet/waterproof pad/sheet so changes are easy and painless. Or just let her wear a pull up at night.
Night time potty training is not something the child really has control over, believe it or not. The body makes an enzyme that signals the kidneys to stop producing urine at night, and some children begin making this enzyme later than others - no amount of effort on the child's part will change that. You can see this in your case, since your daughter really wants to be dry at night, but has not been able to. It's actually very common for kids not to be able to stay dry at night until they are 7 or 8. Keep her in pull-ups. She will stay dry eventually. Let her know it is not her fault, her body just isn't ready yet.
My older daughter was nearly 5 when she was able to stay dry at night. (My younger daughter was 2, go figure.) Their cousin was 8 by the time he was able to stay dry. My husband remembers being 8 and still wetting the bed. It can be hereditary, sometimes. Try not to worry about it. Everyone gets it, eventually!
Put her in nighttime pullups. She can't control what her body does when she's sleeping. You can do what some moms do and wake her at midnight, then again at 3 am or something to go pee, but that's just seems horrible all around, and won't be a permanent fix!
Put a pull up on this child and let her sleep. She needs her sleep to be uninterrupted and complete to grow and fight off illnesses.
What's sad to me is that she is apologizing to you at this point. She feels guilt for something that is totally normal.
Please just try to let it go and when she stays dry for weeks and weeks, even a month or more then she can wear panties to bed. She may be ready but her brain has not turned off the urine production yet.
Kids are not supposed to wake up to go pee, they are supposed to sleep all night like grownups and as soon as they wake up in the morning they go to the bathroom.
Get a few waterproof bed pads.
Then that way, the sheets will not get soiled.
I got mine from Amazon.
Night time or nap time dryness, is a physiological occurrence.
Not per age.
Night time or nap time dryness is not something that physiologically occurs until even 7 years old and is normal.
It has to do with the brain/bladder/myelin nerve sheath development.
Day time pottying and night time, are two totally different things.
My son is 5 and is still wet at night and at naps. And I use Huggies night time diapers. It holds more than pull-ups.
My daughter even at 7 years old had night time accidents.
Normal.
My kids, NEVER got "confused" about wearing underwear during the day and night diapers at night. Because... I simply explained to them that their body is not ready yet to be dry.
And they understood.
Just have her wear pull-ups to bed. My daughter wet the bed, less and less frequently, until she was 8. She still had a couple of accidents at 9. There is no such thing as "night time potty training". Withholding liquids in the evening will not help. When her body is able to stay dry at night, she will. Until then, you don't want to do laundry every day, and you certainly don't want to make her feel bad or ashamed for something she can't control.
try and limit liquids an hr before bed, and make her go right before bed, we are limiting liquids with our 3 yr old an hour before bed and she is not peeing AS much but is still wettin sometimes, my niece is 6 yrs old and is still wetting the bed nightly
See if you can stretch her bladder out. You know how you are in the store and she says she has to go, and then you rush over to the nearest bathroom? Well, try not to rush too much. Let her hold it for a little while longer (not too long, you don't want UTIs) by taking your time going to the bathroom. Or at home, if she has to go to the bathroom, have her count to 5 and then go. The next day, have her count to 10, and so on.
You can't train for nighttime dryness. She has no control over her bladder when she is sleeping. My suggestion to you is to tell her that she has to wear Pull-ups or Goodnights until she is older. With my kids, when they were dry every night consistently for at least 30 days, I knew they were ready for underwear at night. Don't get yourself upset about it. She is still young for nighttime dryness.
Good Luck!
Her body is not ready yet. I would not press the issue. even if they do great during the day the sleep heavyer at night.
