Hi everyone,
Long story short, I do not like my mom's long term boyfriend. I do not approve of their relationship because I think he uses her....but that is a whole different issue! My mom wants my son to grow up calling him "grandpa Dale" which I refuse because he acts nothing like a grandpa. My son's father is not in the picture so he has a few men on my side of the family that he sees but since I live with my mom, my son sees her bf the most. She wants me to come up with a nickname for her bf since I do not agree with Grandpa Dale. I wanted to tell her that she would not approve any nickname that I came up with but decided to turn to you guys for suggestions instead.....
Thanks in advance!
If your son calling your moms boyfriend by his name is a problem, why not have your son call him Mr. Dale?
In the South most children address adults (friends of the family) in this manner. Then if anything should happen between your mom and her boyfriend your son will not be addressing the guy with an inappropriate name.
Very interesting topic, J.. I like the other posts about 'Mr. Dale'... until and unless your DS begins to refer to BF with a name from his own heart/mind/spirit. : )
p.s. It may be that your ma wants her bf to feel respected (?) with 'a title.' Whatever the reason(s), what are boyfriend's thoughts about how he would like to be addressed by your little boy (temporary or long-term)? You may get some insight into his intententions through his response. just a thought.
I agree with Kim his first name should be fine or Mr last name.
Hi, J. --
How about using a name from another culture... like Tio Dale (which I believe would mean Uncle Dale in Spanish)? Lots of cultures use the words "Auntie" and "Uncle" to refer to people of an older generation who aren't necessarily blood relatives.
I 1000% agree with you to reserve the word Grandpa for the right person, who this guy apparently is not. I hope your son gets to have a real grandpa some day -- whether by affiliation with your Mom or just some wonderful older person he meets along the way in life!
:)
H.
At daycare, the adults are Miss _______ and Mr. _____ etc. so how about Mr. Dale or Poppy Dale or Pappa Dale or Poppo Dale? Does something fit with what he calls Grandma that is not Grandpa?
My mil's long term boyfriend gets called by his firstname (his choice over Mr. lastname) by my kids. I certainly agree that he shouldn't be a 'Grandpa anything' until he's permanent. It'd be tough to explain the disappearance of a grandpa if he were to leave.
I would suggest that until the boyfriend is more permanent - ie: married to your mom - that your son call him Dale or Mr. Smith (of course,you'd use his real last name! : )
If they do get married, I think the first name would still be acceptable.
