NEED Help with a Snappy Comback.

Are you talking about facebook? If so, just defriend him!

But also, this is what can happen when people post on facebook, every little thing they do.

Is this all happening on Facebook? You keep saying 'post.'

NOT a good idea to put so much other there because SOMEONE has the need to give their two cents.

ignor him.
block him from seeing your post.
stop talking about work.
stop talking to him.
stop reading what he posts.
dont worry about what he says.

pick one.

Ignore him, ignore him, ignore him. His comments make him look like an a$$ and *trust me* everyone who's reading his comments are ALL rolling their eyes at him. You don't need a snappy comeback - he's making a fool of himself much more than anything you say back would. Don't stoop to his level, just ignore him and join all your other FB friends in rolling your eyes. And maybe feeling a little sorry for him for needing to validate his choices SO MUCH - he must be extremely insecure. Poor loser.

What Kristin C said. Ignore him. By engaging him, you just fan the flames. By engaging him, you make yourself look bad. What kind of jerk wants to slam a guy who's recovering from surgery?

Be the bigger person here. You can do it. I believe in you.

Why don't you take him off of your post?

Are you talking Face book drama here??

Defriend the guy or block him so he doesn't know your business, especially if he isn't even at work right now, hubby as well as yourself should be having a great break from this dude.

Usually when people fixate on one holier than thou thing it's because part of them is conflicted about their own situation and by putting hubby down it reaffirms that "dan" is doing the "right" thing even though he might see a glimmer of reason for doing over time.

I assume you are talking about facebook? If so, delete him...simple. Good luck!

In my experience, it's not worth it. It causes more problems. By posted, do you mean Facebook? Are we in high-school again? Unfriend him and let it go. No sense bringing yourselves down to his pathetic level and making yourselves look like fools.

Sorry, I am sure that there are many more examples that you could have use rather than "Dan" making a comment about "don't forget what your family looks like". Sorry that just really doesn't sound like a "holier than thou" comment to me. Just sounds like a comment.

Really, if you don't like what the guy is saying then just ignore it. I really can't think of any "snappy come back" that isn't going to make you sound like a fool.

Like many other people said, if this is a facebook thing then just either unfriend him or block him and be done with it, any response from you is going to come off as defensive and/or argumentative. Not sure why you even feel the need to defend the fact that your hubby is taking advantage of ot that is being offered.

Either block or unfriend the guy or both you and your husband need to get a little thicker skin and figure out how to let the non essential things go.

JMO

I'd reply
Not everyone sees or believes in the things you do. Glad that it works for you!

That way your pointing it out but not being confrontational at that same time:)
Hope it helps

Ignoring unwanted comments is generally effective, but it does take time for some folks to get the hint. A snappy comeback is often satisfying in the short run, but might simply be the beginning of an escalating feud. It's somewhat less-than-mature, and unlikely to ultimately bring about the perception you want others to have of you.

A technique I've used successfully is to appear to agree wholeheartedly with a comment, without arguing or apologizing in any way. "Oh, of course that's right! Thanks for setting me straight!"

Now, in print, that can look just plain sarcastic, and start that escalating feud. But face to face, if you say it in the most sincere possible voice with NO sarcasm, the other guy will eventually become puzzled, not find your feedback satisfying (although it sounds like it should be profoundly rewarding), and he'll eventually start bugging some other lucky person to get whatever emotional rewards he's after.

Seriously, if you are confident that you're doing what needs to be done in the most responsible way, you DO NOT have to feel defensive. Others who count will see you as the confident, responsible person you are. The defensiveness I think I hear in your request suggests to me that you're not quite sure you couldn't be doing something better. It might be a good idea to think the situation over and make sure you're really making the best choices. You simply don't have to accept this guy's judgment. (I was really surprised when I learned that myself.) You'll be fine!

Tell him he must be an awful weak individual for having to take off 6 weeks for gallbladder surgery. I had laser surgery and was off for 2 weeks and I asked the doc for 2 more weeks which he gave me. I wasnt hurting I just wanted more time off work. (Unlike this guy at work at least I will admit it). A friend of mine was cut and her recovery time was 4 weeks. He's just a loud mouth and likes to push your husbands buttons.

sounds like an a$$, I would probably let it go but I can imagine I would want to comment too. I would not comment at all until the right post comes along, you will know. you can always block his posts, I did that to a friend that posts every little thing she does from cooking to going to bed to waking up...ridiculous and it took my entire page! I blocked her and she never knew it. tell your husband to block him too. Is this guy bored? Insecure? a bullie?? What does your husband say? Really, it is his fight and if it doesn't bother him, just block so you don't know what is being said. If he remarkds about family time again, just post something sweet like, "we like family time and we like money, thank goodness we have the opportunity for both".

My husbands boss recently told him you need to decide which is more important your job or your family....I dont think my husband said anything to his boss but he was not happy. 3days later his bosses wife had a serious medical event and he had to leave...guess what the big boss told him, which is more important your wife or job.... Just goes to show that Karma catches up with people when they are nasty to others.

I think the best advice is to just ignore him, but I know this type of person can just grate on you. It sounds to me like he likes to get people's goat and he knows it works. So ignoring him is probably the thing he would hate the most.

You might just try some humor.... "hard to spend quality time with the family if you cannot afford a house for them" or "I tried the whole quality time thing and they asked me to take a break" (Say with a big smile)
Or maybe show him that the OT is for your family. " Daughter's bday is soon and I want to get her something special"

Hmmm-as far as I know it does NOT take six weeks to convalesce from this surgery. All I know who have it were up and about in a couple days. Sounds like your buddy Dan is milking the system.

Have your husband say something like "Really? I'll be sure to let the bosses know you said that.".

I would not engage in any of this. It's ridiculous. Maybe the guy is a jerk. So what? Why are you even discussing what your family does or how much OT your husband is getting? Your husband should be celebrating having him gone for 6 weeks and not having to deal with him and you should just stay out of it.
I don't mean to be mean or too blunt, but that guy apparently has too much time on his hands and you don't have to feed into any of it.
Where is all this "posting" taking place? Why does anybody need to know your business?
You want to make a snappy comeback. He'll think of something to say in response. The saga will continue. Why?
Keep your business to yourself and who cares what the idiot says or thinks?

Again, just my opinion.

Say, "Please mind your own business... you manage your family, and we'll manage ours- thank you!"

And don't say anything more...

Who knows WHY this guy is fixated on your "issues" - but engaging him or allowing him to get to you is giving him exactly what he wants. Also, your husband may be better off saying these things himself. (not a criticism... but you fixing the problem by stepping in might backfire on your husband).

It sounds like this guy is just an "adult bully"... he is picking on others.. just like a little kid so that he can build up his ego (because of low self esteem). His insecurity is the source of his issue- not anything your or your husband have done or have control over. If he doesn't get the response he wants from you (a feud)... then he will move on to pick a fight with someone else until he runs out of people... don't waste your family's time with him!

Even if he eggs you on, delete any messages from him or just don't respond to them... he will give up when he realizes you aren't any "fun" to pick on or belittle!

Good Luck!
-M.

If this is thru facebook then I would block him and not speak with him. If its at work then I would tell hubby to just smile and say: Have a great day. Who care if hubby takes ot once in awhile. A little extra money is awesome sometimes. Does this Dan person put in a ton of ot? Then he must have no life because hes a work aholic. By the way, my friend is getting gall bladder surgery and she only needs 2 weeks off so why is dan getting 6. You don't need people like Dan in your life. They just bring you down.