I am leaving for 1st time on holiday my son is 13 months old he will be with in-laws for 3 days and then with my parents which he is more familiar he loves going - I want my mom to drop my son at his daycare so he keeps his routine but she wants to do stuff with him isn't better to keep him in a schedule - they keep saying I won't be there so why send him to daycare when they don't work
I don't know what to do - I like to keep him on a schedule but mom says he will be back on his schedule
I am going for a week he knows my mom more than my in-law, that's another thing I am worried I would preferred my mom all week, she does not live far from me so he saw her every week I was off for a year maternity went back to work one month ago when he's sick or when the babysitter is on holidays she is the back up baby sitter, she puts him down for his nap and puts him to bed early. Today she asked me for the schedule which I will write I did say ok for Monday but she asked for Tuesday also because my dad would like more bonding time he works on 12 hours shift.
I will talk to her this week and see - I think I am making a big deal for nothing
A grandparent-grandchild relationship is a very special one. Let them have their special time with him. He is a lucky little boy.
OMG! This is such a no-brainer to me! Let his grandparents enjoy him! Why pay for daycare that you don't need?!
I would just let him stay with them and let them have fun with their grandchild. He will have fun with them
Let him stay with them! They need some grandma and grandpa time I'd bet!!
Let your mother take care of him so he will have a holiday too. Your mom is right.
Let his Grammy enjoy him!
At 13 mos, it's not going to be a big deal either way, right?
Let your mom enjoy bonding and spending quality time with him.
A lot of grandparents would not dare jump at that opportunity.
He's 10 months old, he'll adjust. Why are you so hell bent on a strict schedule at this age?
Loosen the reigns a bit....Let him enjoy his grandparents.... He will not love you any less because he's with them. They love him, they are not trying to steal his affections from you.
You are very fortunate to have parents and in-laws who want to help and who want to spend time with your child.
I think there is nothing more valuable then teaching children it is okay to adapt to changes. So I agree with your mom.
I know it is good that kids know this will happen every day but it is silly to think life is that easily controlled. So why not learn in a pleasant way changes are good than something unexpected later on?
Keeping routines is about nap time, feeding times and diaper changing times. There's no such thing as at 1pm I play peek-a-boo.
The play aspect can be with anyone but just make sure they know his basic needs schedule including what he likes to eat and what he doesn't. Other than that, let him have fun with something out of the ordinary. =)
13 months is too young to get much out of preschool. let grandma have her fun - you can't get that time back. it won't hurt him. i would never keep my child away from his grandparents if i could help it. encourage them to spend all the time together they can. have a great trip - don't give it another thought!
I would let him spend the time with your mom. I pulled DS out of daycare whenever my parents came to visit and whenever we went on vacation. Occasionally if I had a day off from work. Not a big deal.
I would let him have some Grandma-spoiling time.
I would probably be like you, but honestly, he's only 10 months so I think he'll adapt back to his schedule fairly easily when you return.
If your parents want to watch him all day then just let it happen. I think he will enjoy all the attention and they will be thrilled. Just tell them to take lots of pictures so he someday he can "remember" this little vacation with grandma and grandpa.
Just leave it that they can make the decision but encourage them to take him to day care if they are feeling overwhelmed after a day or two. They can always take him to daycare in the morning and pick him up early. You're paying for the days regardless so let them decide.
Leave him with your mom
Let them enjoy the time with their grandson.
When my kids were in daycare, I still had to pay even if they didn't go. Is that the case with you?
Since the inlaws will have him for 3 days and he'll be "off-schedule" with them, it's just a little more that he will be off schedule with your parents. Don't try to make your parents do what you aren't going to make your inlaws do. Your daycare will get your child back on schedule the following week. They are very good at doing that!
Enjoy your vacation!
I'd remind your parents what a physical demand it is to take care of a one year old. Then let them make the decision. Maybe give them a 1/2 day option?
Otherwise, let them all enjoy themselves!
I can understand your schedule concerns, but it sounds like great grandparent bonding time. Is it really that much different from you being home with him on weekends or your days off? Maybe you can give your mom his usual daycare schedule and she can try to stick to his regular naptimes, etc. Have a good vacation.
Mom is always right. And time flies. Let mom enjoy him. People used to tell me that if we waited up for my husband came home at night, then all slept in the day (when they weren't in school) that they would be hopeless losers or something like that. Well one is in a Masters degree program and the other in college. The schedules in life change and the only thing consistent in life is the fact that it changes. Enjoy your holiday!
Let them keep him. They want to enjoy their grandson! Let this be a holiday for him too.
You are making a big deal out of nothing.
Let them enjoy the time with their grandchild. When my parents used to visit us in NY (we all live in FL now), we never sent our kids to daycare. My parents loved having the time with them (without us) and their relationship with my children is much stronger for it.
Well its nice she is looking forward to having him.
But, at 13 months old, what can she "do" with him?
Its not like at that age they can play tag or hide and seek or do puzzles.
At that age, they are just learning to walk. Not yet talking etc. and still need to take naps, and have a rational bed time. Otherwise, he will get out of his bedtime, routine. Or nap routine and timing.
Then, you pay for Daycare. If he does not go on those days, then how does that impact your payments and absence rules at the Daycare? And you'd need to tell the Daycare if he is not coming.
And, sure, "routine" is important for a kid. But he is so young. MAINLY... the "routine" part that would need to be kept to... is his nap times and bedtime. Because, if your in-laws or Mom, does not have him nap or they put him to bed late/later than normal... then, when you return home, his bedtime/nap timing, will be thrown off. And you would need to get him back into... his "normal" bed/nap timing. Which is NOT, easy. At all.
That is the main thing, I would think of.
- getting a baby or child, back into their nap/bedtime timing and routines... is very hard. And sometimes, takes a LONG time... to get them back into, the routine.
AND, then, you may have to, get him used to Daycare again.
If he does not go.
Ultimately, YOU are the Mom. And you... are the top of the totem pole, when it comes to what is done with your baby.
Could they do every other day? Or drop him off mornings and pick him up at lunch time?
How long will you be gone? It is very hard for my son to get back into routine when we have a long weekend. I would suggest maybe doing half days or taking him to daycare two or three days out of the week.
Let them have "their" time with their grandchild. You are going on holiday - why shouldn't your child have a "holiday" as well?
He will expect you to do the same thing and he'll start all over with the separation anxiety stuff. I would tell them that I have to pay for it and he will do better for going.
But if you're willing for them to keep him home then it will be some special time for him. So it's basically up to you. They might not even take him even if you say he needs to go too. I would just let them decide on a day to day basis.
