Need Advise Regarding Jumping on Couch

Tell her "no" and carry through with consequences if she doesn't stop.

simple... but you MUST carry through, probably time after time until she learns that it isn't safe and that she needs to obey.

Hi D.,
Target has these "Responsibility Charts" in their puzzle section in the toys. I got one for my son, and we use that to help with learning/teaching behavior and responsibilities. He's come a long way with it. We use our chart, and if our son earns all his tokens throughout the week, then on the last day of the week, Saturday, after he acquires his tokens, he gets to have a prize. This reward system really helps. His prizes include little small toys that he wants..bubbles, cars, bouncy balls, etc. I have a prize bag in my closet and he gets to pick one at the end of the week. But if he doesn't earn his tokens, then no prizes, and we've actually had to tell him 'no prize' a few times because of him not earning his token. He gets one warning with an explanation of consequence, and if he doesn't heed my warning, then I will follow through with my consequence that I give him, either time out, or token taken away. Depending on what he did wrong, he can earn that token back at the end of the day, or the day after if he is good. It really works. And of course he still has his moments, but a good reminder of what's to come, and what the consequences are, he straightens up pretty well. :-)

Hope this idea helps you. In the package, there are some blank ones that you can create yourself, and one you can create a "NO JUMPING ON FURNITURE".

Take care and hope this helps. :-)

Well what usually works with my son when he is doing something I do not want him doing is talking to him. Maybe I just have a very good son but I always ask him to come over to me and when he does I make him look me in the eyes and I tell him in a firm but calm voice that he is not to do that. I tell him for example: "No jumping on the couch. Do you understand me? No. I do not want you jumping on the couch. Ok?" and he says say "ok". After he is done I ask him to give me a hug and a kiss and to say sorry. He always does as I ask of him. Now every once in awhile he will try to test the limits but as long as I am consistant he understands. So now when he knows he does something wrong I just look at him and say come here. And of course he does not want to so I have to go to him and get down to his level and explain everything the same. LOL...I think it is so cute when he knows he is trouble. Oh and if he does not listen I ask him once if he wants to go to timeout and he says no so I tell him "ok then no more. you have to stop or you go to timeout" and if he does it again I get him and put him in timeout. Usually just for a few minutes cause he is still very young but before I get him out I ask him if he is ready to behave and he says yes. So I make him give me a hug and a kiss and say sorry. That always works. Well, good luck with us and let us know your outcome.

Anyone that comes to our house, adult or child, just loves our sundancer (mini trampoline). My kids love to jump, and I use it to exercise wile watching TV or bounce while holding my baby to calm him. This was actually my grandmothers so ours is VERY old and still works great. Keep it indoors (you can just set it up against a bedroom wall if you need floor space) and it should last for your grandkids. Sorry I don't know the brand.
btw, I let my kids jump on the couch and Lovesac, and just let them know not to do that at any other place. Seems to work fine.

Ours did the same thing.

We said, "We don't jump on the couch. It's not safe. You can hurt yourself."

Then we watched her constantly and removed her every time she did it. She soon realized we were serious.

M.

When my kids start roughhousing and jumping on the furniture I tell them they are welcome to jump on the trampoline and climb on the slide structure that we put out there especially for them to play on. If they don't go outside or stop, I gently enforce it by immediately guiding them outside by the hand. It's great that they're getting their exercise, but not in the living room!

we actually used to have an old couch, so it wasn't a big deal for our kids to be jumping on them....
if it is a big deal for you, I'd offer an alternative jumping choice (you can jump on the trampoline, you can jump on the floor, you can jump on pillows, you can jump outside)
without an alternative plan, you'll most likely find yourself in power struggles and negative world winds...
good luck.

I agree with a trampoline to help detour her from jumping on the couch. I have a friend that had the same issue with her daughter and what she did is for every jump on the couch (the up and down motion is one jump) she would take a minute and add it to the time she would go to bed. So if she jumped on the couch ten times and her bedtime is normally 8pm, she would go to bed at 7:50. She says it has helped a lot because her daughter does not like going to bed early.

We use a spare mattress on the floor of my daughter's room to satisfy her jumping needs. I suggest finding an alternative to jumping on the couch, then just take her there when she wants to jump on the couch.

Sign her up for gymnastics! This is a great channel for her energy, she will learn safe ways to do things (like fall) and the teachers will help reinforce that you should only do gymnastics at the gym, or wherever you have designated as a safe place. Check out www.SAGAgymnastics.com for a free trial class.