Need Advice on Making Friends for My Son

This is so hard as a mother to have to watch, My son had the same problem, but after a while he got in the jist of things and now he has friends at school. It is good that he is so young b/c he will have a better chance of finding friends...soon. My son was so shy and when he actually attempted to make friends they shot him down, so to speak.....but after a while his shyness rubbed off (not all the way) enough to make friends.

Good ideas! I would also try to volunteer in the school to get to know other parents and set up playdates for your son. If you invite one child over at a time they have a better chance of developing friendships.

Good luck!

What about having a little party/get-together at your house. Invite the two boys and maybe some others from school. Maybe once they all play together it will encourage more playing at school. Plus, it will be a good way for you to meet some of the parents. If you explain to the parents that you are new and your son wants to meet new friends, they may encourage their children to play and/or invite him back to their house.

I would also talk to the teacher to see if there is anything you can do to help.

Good luck...I'm sure that it is hard.

My daughter is also in the first grade and is very outgoing. What school does your son go to? Maybe if they go to the same school, I could have my daughter show him some friends. She goes to Monegue on Mt Morris Rd.

Hi M.!

We had the same problem with our daughter she was very shy and she never had friends over. We discussed possibly joining a club of some sort with her. We decided to join Girl Scouts (my husband and I became adult members also)and she just thrived! I think it helped her knowing we were a part of her group as well it helped her to venture out a little more. A lot of the girls were in her class and some even from other schools. It was a great experience for her and it helped to bring her out more. This year she joined the junior cheerleading team and she has so much more confidence and friends now. We recently had her banquet and when before she would sit with us and not mingle she was being asked to join other tables with other girls. We told her we were so proud of her. I think it helps her to hear that too.

So maybe try cub scouts or something like that!

Good Luck!

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i have the same problem with my son. what helps alittle bit is the fact that he is in clubscout. he has friends there. but are far as the neighborhood there is no one who wants to play with him. i just have to start getting him involved in some activities.

I would talk to the teacher. There is always group activities and partner activities of which she easily could assign a kid with your son that she knows will become friends. There are always kids that don't want new friends and there are also those that will be friends with anyone. By now the teacher should have figured this out and can help you son out by grouping him with those kids. In turn those kids will then start playing together at recess.
Also have play dates that you set up. Kids will often play with whoever at home and eventually it will roll over to school. If you are friends with any of the moms then set it up with them. Also don't be shyed away from the other 1st grade classes as well.
Good luck!

Hi, we decided to School of Choice 3 years ago and my oldest son was going into 2nd Grade. He knew about 5 people in the whole school and none of them were in his class. He had a really tough year because all the boys new eachother from previous years and he got labeled "the new kid". I worked with his teacher, the lunch recess moms and the counselor to try to help ease his sadness, loneliness and sense that he had no friends. That helped a little but what really helped was time. I also talked to the principal and they made sure he had a couple of people that really liked him and he really liked in his class for 3rd grade. 3rd grade went better and 4th grade (this year) he is positively giddy. Just be patient and try not to push too much. Hope this helps.

Hi M., my name is D.. I have a 7 year old son and a 1 year old daughter. We have moved twice in the last 3 years. I am usually a shy person, but I have learned to put myself out there when it comes to meeting people for my child. First, ask your son which kids he gets along with in his class. Then, you just need to either call the parents or start talking to them at school. Level with them, let them know that you are new in town and your child needs a playdate. Offer to have the other child over your house, or all of you meet at McDonald's playland or the park. It is intimidating at first, but you learn to overcome any feelings of insecurity. Remember, everyone has been the "newby" at some point in their lives. People are usually pretty nice and open to the playdates. It takes a little time and a whole lot of effort on your part, but it is worth it! I hope this helps you!
D.

I would also suggest having a playgroup at your home. Invite the kids in the class and the moms (you probably wont have a ton show) and then your son could make some better friends in his class and you could make friends with some of the other moms. I have made several friends this way and so have my triplets.

M.