Need Advice on Getting Daughter Out of Our Bed

I had a similar problem when my daughter was little. I kept a pillow and a blanket on the floor for her to use and after a few nights of being uncomfortable on the floor she stayed in her own bed. I also used a reward system that for every night she stayed in her own room she earned a treat...for her it was morning TV as we did not watch tv in the mornings. Hope this helps. S.

Hi S.,

I am in the same situation my son was sick and we had him in and out of our bed that week, then our air went so he had to sleep with us again. Now he falls asleep in our bed and i put him back in his crib. He either wakes up immediately or within a few hours, then he is back in our bed. I tried letting him scream it out like the pediatrician told me to, but he is almost falling out of is crib he goes crazy. Let me know if you find anything that works, I have been told to try getting my 18month old a bed(then what, how do i keep him in there? www.DiscoveryToysLink.com/LisaRyan

L. M

Maybe getting her a night light, or a tape player (CD player) with some favorite bedtime songs sung by you (give these as a gift) would help her. I let my daughter pick out a special night light, and told her it was specially for her room.(that helped) Cuddling before bed, (in her room, of course) and a special story with dad and mom are often helpful too. Reassure her if she really needs you, you will come. Hope at least one of these ideas works for you.

I tried EVERYTHING to get my son out of my bed...the only thing that worked was to let him cry. It killed me but he now sleeps in his bed. Good luck!

When you have a little one that likes sleeping with parents it's not easy to break the habbit. I have seen this with many of my friends. You and your husband need to put her to bed and know it's ok for her to cry a little. I know it's hard but it's best to do it sooner than later. Try reading her a story while she is in her crib, then kiss her good nite and let her know you are right on the other side of the opened door. Also music like the other mom is a good suggestion.
Good Luck!

I know a lot of parents hate to let their kids cry it out, but at 18 months she knows what to do to get her own way.

You need to plan on 3 or 5 really rough nights for both of you and peaceful sleep in your own bed after that!

If you are going to let her cry it out YOU have to stick to your guns. the WORST thing you can do is let her cry for half the night then give in at some point. She still sleeps in a crib so you are best to break this habit before she is ready for a toddler bed or before you are ready for a 2nd child. I am a stay at home mom too and I have 2 children a 7 yr. old boy and a 4 year old girl.

My husband and I had 0ne very tough week with both of them when they were that age, but now we see the fruits of our labor. Both kids can go to bed everynight with out a fuss. Usually our bedtime ritual takes 15 - 20 minutes tops.

I know it is hard to hear them cry, just remember that you know in the long run it is best that she is able to soothe herself and fall asleep alone. No one enjoys hearing their child cry but sometimes as parents we have to do what is best even when we don't like it. Remember you are with her all day so you can heep lots of extra love and attention on her during the day.

Good Luck.

I don't like sleeping alone so why would I think my child does? This is not directed to the OP but I hate CIO and it sucks that so many kids are been ignored daily.

CIO is not good for any child http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp

S., I suggest you do it gradually so your daughter could adapt to the change little by little. Maybe put her bed next your bed and every day or every week move it a little further until it makes it to her room. You can also try lying down w/ her in her room until she falls asleep.

They are only little for such a short time that you might as well enjoy it. When they grow you might miss those nights were you used to cuddle.

Hang in there! I had the same problem. I am not a fan of crying it out much, and you really need to figure out what will work best for your family. My son went back and forth. The minute I got him back in his crib the teeth would come in, or he would get sick, and back he was. When we did get him back, I would sit on the floor next to the crib and sing to him, or read a book. As he would get tired I would inch myself towards the door. Every night I would start out closer and closer to the door. Until finally, it would be a couple minutes of a routine and out the door I was. (Saw that on Super Nanny lol) Sometimes, I would tell him "Mommy has to go the bathroom, I'll be back" and that would be enough to get me outta there. I guess you just have to try several things and figure out what works. I can tell you that now he is 4 and going to bed is as pleasant as saying "Time for bed!". We read a book and it's lights out! Now my 6 month old.... that's another story!!

We kind of had the same thing happening during teething, but with twins. To get them out of our bed, we put up the pack n play up in our room. Then whichever baby woke up we would hold her for a little bit, administer the teething tablets (the holistic teething tablets for us worked best) and put the awake baby in our room in the pack n play. The idea that she was in the same room worked well for us. When she fell asleep, we would try to move her back. At one time we had two pack n plays set up...but now they are both in their room and thankfully in their cribs and the pack n plays are put away. It took about a month or so.
good luck.

I have a 19mo old baby boy, he also had this problem. A doctor suggested let him cry for atleast 15 minutes before picking him up. If the crying continues, you may want to try rocking her in her room. Something my husband and I tried, has been filling up an air bed and sleeping for 1 or 2 days in his room while he sleeps in his crib. All babies go through this transition. And believe me, I've tried everything & this has worked for me. Good Luck!