Need Advice on Finding Tranquility

I think you need to go back to when this trend started and try to mend from there. Something is either bugging him or he's got medical reasons.
And I guess some men just arent into sex, rare but true.
You did mention using sex as a trump card, you didn't use that on him and have it backfire maybe?
Mine hasnt been into it lately since I've gained a little weight, he's very visual... at least he's using that as his excuse for not attacking me on a regular basis.
Which, right now, is not bothering me in the least ;)

There are as many factors effecting sex drive as there are women on this site. Work, diet, kids, life, finances...
See if one of those can be pin pointed. If so, work on it, address it. And sit down with him and TALK. Your dismissiveness of the situation could only make it drift further into disrepair. There are times when guys and girls think "we can have sex anytime, so no big deal" And while that is true to some degree, we have to be aware of each others needs. Let him know how you truly feel, not jokingly, lay it all on the table how important this is to you.
And understand that taking one for the team is o.k every now and then.
I wish you luck, but know there is something more and he may need help getting through it. Be it help from you or a professional.

damn.
no clue, hon.
i'm assuming you've got toys?
i can't think of a good answer.
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khairete
S.

LOL

I tell me husband ALL of the time, "I need a boyfriend" and that I'm going to "trade (him) in for a newer model."

All joking aside. He's 8 years older than I am and his sexual prime is OVER, while mine is just beginning.

Is it emotional or physiological? My friends swear by taking Maca for their sex drive and their husband's. Might want to try that with him?

1- I would urge him to get seriously checked out by his GP and ALSO an endocrinologist. If you cannot find one that will run LOTS and LOTS of tests, find one specializing in integrative medicine. Many who women go to for hormone stuff also do men. Low libido can indicate so many medical conditions from diabetes or heart disease, to endocrine deficiencies or even prostate issues.

2- Get lots of exercise - do Zumba, dance...

3- and visit a sex-toy store.

Maybe if you back off a little bit, the balance will change?

I usually just tell my husband how I feel. I felt like this last weekend. I'm pregnant and horny all the dang time right now, which is not usual for me. He's got a particularly high sex drive but he also has a one-track mind. So, if he's over-involved at work or is tired, he's not interested. He's been quite involved with his job lately so we hadn't had sex in a while. This past weekend I finally told him I was feeling unwanted and I needed to feel desired by him. He felt terrible for making me feel that way and we had so much sex last weekend.... so I'd say that worked, LOL.

Have you tried talking to him about this? Figuring out what might be bugging him? If nothing else, get him checked out at the doctor. My Dad had low testosterone and that really affected his sex drive (lol, we have a very open family). He got a prescription and he was back to his normal horny self.

Good luck to you, I know how you are feeling, it sucks as a woman to feel un-desired. One of life's great pleasures, for me, is knowing that my man wants to rip my clothes off of me at any given moment. :)

I have no advice for you, but I feel like I'm in the same boat, so I can't wait to see the responses to this. Who would have ever thought women could be in this position? I thought all men were sex maniacs before I met my husband. It's a lonely, weird feeling to feel like he doesn't desire you. But honestly...I think he just doesn't have much of a sex drive - end of story.

I wish I knew how to change that!!