Need Advice ,4Yr Old Cries When Dropped off at Preschool, How Would You Handle ?

My son started preschool last year when he turned three. He had a very difficult time at first. The first week he cried a lot and didn't want to go. I drove him every day, so we started a little routine and that helped. His teacher said he started crying less and less over the first couple of weeks, and then it got to the point where he would cry when I dropped him off, but they said by the time he got to the classroom he was fine. After about a month it came to the point where he would whine a little bit when I dropped him off and as soon as he started down the hall with his aide he was fine. We would talk about how much fun he has in school and about not crying. He did fine except on days when they changed the routine (went on the bookmobile, field trip, fire truck). We had a little rough patch again after Christmas break, but he did really well the second half of the year and started off this year with no tears! We did A LOT of talking about his day at school every day (What did you have for snack, what stories did you read, did you play outside, who was at school today...). It was very hard for me to watch him cry those first few weeks, but he just needed to adjust. I'm sure your nephew will be fine too.

my daughter did this last year when she was in preschool. it boke my heart every time. and like your sister i was strong in front of her but once out of her sight i was crying just as much. it made me feel like i was a bad mom or something. well, here is how i dealt with it. in the morning she would get little reponsiblities(brush teeth, bring backpack) little things like that. she liked helping out and doing things on her own. when she would get upset at school i would just hug and kiss her and tell her that i will be back soon. there were times thaat she was removed from my leg. she was set down ina chair with the teacher and they would talk to her and seee if she wanted to help them out. most of the time she would just sit but it did help....my mommy lets me help out at home...
how does he do once she is gone? does he eventually calm? if he does than there is nothing else to do. if not than maybe she can sit in the classroom for a day or two. i also would make 'deals' with her. like if you are good all week i will take you out for lunch on friday. no toys or candy ever worked. the promise of spending time with her made her feel better like i wasn't abandoning her. if you need anything else just ask

The poor little guy...he must really be missing his mommy. I recommend her sitting in the classroom with him and then slowly easing herself out of it...sitting closer and closer to the door, telling him she has to go to the bathroom and leave for 5, 10, and 15 minutes...progressively wean herself out of the room. Make excuses to leave the room once he gets involved in something (always coming back within a short amount of time). It would be important that she doesn't become a playmate with him in the room to the extent that he is not venturing away from her at all. He needs gentle encouragement to participate in the classroom. I can't imagine being 4 and being so scared of something and desperately, desperately not wanting to be somewhere and then the people that love me the most making me go there anyway and then leaving me when it is clear that I am heartbroken. Emotional intelligence is important too and she has a key opportunity to work on this with her child. I recommend telling her child something like this, "I know that you are missing your mommy when you go to preschool. I remember when I was in preschool, I missed my mommy too and sometimes I cried. It is not always easy doing new things or being away from each other. It is okay to be sad. I wonder what we could do to make you happy. Let's think about what would make you happy. Do you have any ideas?"

If she wants preschool for him I would start reading books especially "The Kissing Hand" and then give kissing hands, I am sure it will stop in a week or 2
Good Luck
B.

Has she asked the teachers how he does after she leaves? If she hasn't she needs to. Some anxiety is normal. She needs to comfort him before he goes in, tell him to take a deep breath and have FUN TODAY! Leave as quickly as possible. Give him a big hug when he is done for the day, ask him what he did and tell him it is ok to miss you but think of the FUN he is having at school! See how he does after a week, sit in the classes, if this continues consider another school...