Any Suggestions for Starting Kindergarten

Updated on August 30, 2011
J.P. asks from Holtsville, NY
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I dropped off my daughter at Kindergarten last week and she was just fine. Until Friday, she started crying and didn't want me to leave her. She did the same thing today. She just turned 5 and has never been to pre-k or daycare and now goes all day. Is there anything I can do or try to make her feel better and more secure in the morning?

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I picked her up and the teacher said she will be her helper tomorrow. The teacher handled it really well this morning. My daughter told me that when her classmate saw her crying (they are friends) she started crying for her mom too. I think my daughter felt bad that her friend got upset, but told me she would also be a helper tomorrow. I think that since she sees another classmate in the same situation she will feel better.
Thanks for all the responces, I will stay positive with her.

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L.M.

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Maybe little rewards when she gets home if mornings were good. Notes in her lunchbox. A special snack when she gets off the bus. Talk to her and see what is wrong so maybe you can address that and help make mornings better. It could just be the newness of it all or suddenly being away from you.

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D.P.

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Just be positive, upbeat, ask (don't 'drill') her about her day, any friends she has met or played with, the teacher, etc.
She will feed off of any anxiety that you show her.
Drop off as usual. Repeat. Repeat.

Make sure she knows you are happy she's going to K, how she's growing up, etc.

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L.A.

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We were just encourage to give a hug and a kiss and then tell them,
"I know you will have a great day." No discussions.

Or if you saw one of their friends, ask them to walk in together.

What ever you do the moment she is in the room or with the teacher, leave.. No lingering.

I suggested to someone last week to maybe make a braided bracelet for each of you that matches. That way each time she sees it she will know you have one on too.

Remember, Kinder teachers are used to this and it is amazing how quickly they stop crying once they are in the classroom.

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S.L.

answers from New York on

Absolutely read the Kissing Hand, and maybe First Day Jitters

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A.B.

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My son just started Kindergarten last week too. He had been going to daycare, so he was used to being away from me during the days, but going to Kindergarten was a BIG adjustment for him. He cried the first couple of days and we just made sure to make BIG deals out of the things he did throughout the day. The first day, we took him to eat at his favorite restaurant after school and then on Friday after his first week, we took him to the Dollar Store to have him pick out a little prize because he was so good all week in school and did not get any negative marks in his daily workbook. We read some books about going to school and all the fun things you get to do and learn. That seemed to help our son as well. Good Luck! I know it hard, both on you and your daughter, but his teacher said 5 minutes after we left, he was just fine.

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S.H.

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This happens.
It is common.
The Teachers are used to it. It happens every year.
A child, will adjust.
It is life.

The book "The Kissing Hand" is good. About going to school. Can be found at any bookstore. Real cute.

Ask the Teachers, how they handle the kids who cry.
So that you know, for yourself, how they manage it.
So you can feel better.

It is an adjustment. And since she had never gone to a "class" before.

Keep in mind, that after school, a child is tired or over-tired... they had a full day at school. It is like 'work.' They need to come home and deflate. Unwind. And even nap.

A child will learn, to self-manage.
Concentrate on the positives.
That each child is different. So that she does not feel she is the only one.

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S.S.

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You might have her evaluated for sensory issues. Simple crying can be a sensory processing problem when it interferes with the child's activities of daily life.

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M.J.

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My oldest did the same thing. He had been in preschool, so I was shocked when on day three of kindergarten, he got clingy and cried hysterically. The teacher took over and he was fine eventually.

What I would do is talk to her after school about why she cried. Then, really listen. Is it that she'll miss you? That she is afraid of something in class? Narrow it down so you know what you need to address. Also ask her what she likes best in kindergarten.

Before school, play up her favorite aspects and keep yourself happy and optimistic. The more relaxed you are about things, the more likely it is that all will go smoothly.

ETA: Just remembered something else I did. I put a surprise treat in his snack bag each day for a while. A couple M&Ms, etc. So, he had something to look forward to in class.

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