Hello Moms,
I am a Mother of 3 year old twin boys. They are wonderful and I am very blessed. Lately we have been having a lot of trouble at nap and bed time. One of my sons just says no and will not lay down and go to sleep. The other is doing ok, unless his brother gets out of control, then he starts his fit. I am not sure what is going on, we have had a nap/bedtime routine since they were born (some expeceptions). I am at the end of my rope and do not know what to do.
Hello Moms,
I want to thank everyone for your responses to my bedtime issues. We are trying quiet time. This seemed to be the main suggestion from all of your responses. It is working ok, but I have to admit, their nap time was my quiet time. I think it will take sometime to adjust. Again, I want thank all of you Mothers for your suggestions. They were very helpful. Happy Holidays!
They might be telling you that they are ready to give up that last nap. My son was about that age - I know it's difficult to let go but it might work out better for you. Worth a try...
It is possible that they are outgrowing their nap. Separate rooms will help determine if that is the case. DO NOT give up on naptime as at least a quiet time, but put them to bed earlier if they do not fall asleep for nap.
I was having this trouble with my tw year olds so I started using night light and put them to bed a different times. I put the easier one to bed first then put the older on to bed about a hour later. this has worked out for me because one see the other go to bed and nows it is almost time for bed. try this.
I have 3.5 yr old b/g twins. Thankfully, they are in separate rooms. We started having some of these same issues lately, especially when we go where they share a room. My daughter goes to sleep fairly easily. However, my son doesn't always want to take a nap. I need their nap time more than they do, I think....LOL. I am so blessed, but am a much better mommy if we all have about 1-1.5 hr nap. So, my twins watch a show for quiet time before a nap. They have to stay in the chair and quiet or they go to bed immediately. My son gets a car or book as long as he stays quiet in bed during nap. I don't care if he sleeps or not, just stay in bed and quiet so sister can sleep. This usually works fairly well and on the days he doesn't actually go to sleep, he falls asleep for bedtime much quicker. Sometimes I have to use a little bribery, stay in bed and quiet and we'll play a game, go outside, watch a show, whatever works, but they usually do a very good job about staying in bed, especially when they have the quiet down time before. I hope this helps. Good luck!
Do you think that one of your boys is trying to drop his nap? My daughter is three and a lot of her little friends no longer nap and my daughter is starting to drop hers as well.
My girls are in the same room and we have similar issues even though they are different ages. I find that if we separate them for a little bit, it helps. I usually go through the bedtime routine with both of them at the same time and then let them read books together or something for a few minutes. Then I take the older one back out of the room for a few minutes while the little one settles down. This usually works but sometimes we have to take the little one out if the older one is more tired.
When naptime became an issue for our son, I started setting a timer for 30-45 minutes and told him he could get up when the timer went off. He usually either went to sleep or rested well and got up when the timer went off.
They start changing routines every so often and naps dont always work. perhaps tell them they dont have to sleep at nap time but it is rest time no talking just rest they may fall asleep.
Perhaps tell them if they lay and rest each can pick out a book for you to read to them.
If they comply then reward them if not take away,
I was having trouble with naptime and bedtime with my oldest. She wouldnt take a nap anymore and would throw fits everyday (this started at 3 yrs old). What we started doing was "quiet time", she plays in her room and watches a movie instead of taking a nap. So if you have one of the boys who doesnt want to take a nap then put him in another room so he doesnt disturb his brother(if they are even in the same room), and try quiet time.
Once we stopped doing naps she also stopped her bedtime fits. She was tired from being up so long that she wanted to go to bed when it was time. That is what has worked for us ! Good luck !
