How Ironic I Seem to Not Be Able to Sleep at All

I would suggest parenting classes and/or counseling to guide you on being parents and raising a child.

How old are you and hubby? Is he the bio dad?

Something is way off base because most dads have a special relationship with their daughters, spoil them and the daughters usually want to marry their dad! It's usually a mom complaining that daughter is getting spoiled by dad!!

A 3 year old should not be telling anyone off and by that statement it sounds like you are both modeling behavior that you need to change before she gets older and has no respect for either of you.

Does your high school offer counseling or classes for teen parents? I would start there for help.

This would be a deal-breaker for me. Either he goes to parenting classes and starts to act like a parent, or you leave him. If you don't stop this, your daughter will be ruined for life.

He's her father.
Why isn't HE the one spoiling his little girl?
He's an adult and a parent and he needs to act like it.
Family counseling might help him mature a bit.

Can you elaborate a little by adding to your question? Has this just started, or has he been this way since she was born? Is she in one of those phases now where she prefers you over him? Kids do that a lot, sometimes switching their "loyalties" from one parent to the other over the years.

Does he not know how to play with her, and so he resorts to teasing? Does he do anything right with her, such that you can praise him in front of her? ("Daddy is so funny, isn't he? See how much he loves you?" That sort of thing.)

Is she his primary "target" or do you think he's trying to get more attention from you? Does he feel you are too focused on her, or perhaps more skilled with her?

Is he competitive with you in other areas? Does he try to "one-up" you in other aspects of your life?

Do you feel you can leave him with her while you are out for a good chunk of time? Sometimes kids bond with the parent who is there, because they have to. On the other hand, if you don't trust him alone with her because he will be cruel, then don't leave.

Can you mix up your routine a bit? If both parents are equally skilled at making dinner, driving her to preschool/daycare, giving her a bath, taking her outside on her tricycle, reading her a story, building with blocks....and so on....kids can bond with the other one.

Otherwise, perhaps he needs some parenting classes - and the best way to accomplish that is to say that you BOTH need them and then attend together. Maybe he just needs to practice some positive techniques.

I'd also consider counseling - what was his childhood like? How was he treated by both his mother and father? Who are his male role models?

Those are all things to consider.

You haven't mentioned one positive thing about your husband in your entire post. It's all negative and makes him out to sound nasty, messed up, and abusive.

So why are you with this man? I think that's the bigger question I would be asking myself.

i'm sorry you created a child with this loser. i'm even sorrier that you're subjecting a toddler to someone this useless.
what will he have to do to get through to you that he's a terrible father?
why do you hope it's going to get better when he's apparently been crystal clear from the gitgo that he's a loser?
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khairete
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And you are with him, why?

He dropped her and hit her head on the ceiling fan? He disappeared the day she was born?

I realize that he is your daughter's biological father, but from everything you described he isn't a father in any way other than the technical sense.

Are you committed to this man in some way? It doesn't seem to me that this is healthy for anyone...especially your child.

Sounds like you need to sit down and plan a date night every single week with your husband and then to do a family night every week. He and you need alone time.

Hire a babysitter and go out with him. Don't come home until she is in bed asleep.