My Husb' Fam Wants to Have My Child on Mother's Day

Um, "I want to spend this Mother's Day with the one that gave me the title".. enough said.

I think you're right in wanting to spend the day with your child! But, your SWH really bothered me...you're nervous he's going to get back at you? Spouses shouldn't "get back" at each other...are you safe?

Your husband is just as awful as your mother in law. What on earth is your husband mad about? Just because you stood your ground? Sick.

I hope your mother's day goes well, and I hope your husband gets a clue and stands with his wife instead of letting his mother having him by the balls.
Sorry, this kind of behavior just burns my toast!

Oops! When you said husband's fam and referred to "Her", I just assumed his mother. What ever the relationship your husband has with this person, he needs to get over it and put his wife first. Geesh. You were VERY, VERY, VERY gracious to make a compromise and invite "her" to come with you. I hope your husband learns to appreciate you!

Mother's Day can be celebrated anytime of the year - in my opinion. It doesn't need a special date.

You child is what makes you a "mommy". I can understand you wanting to be with him/her.

If she's trying to give you and your husband alone time - I'd say - thanks!!! However, if this is "just because she wants your child" then - say - how about this date instead?

The only way you will be pushed around is if you allow it to happen. If you don't want to spend Mother's day without your child. So be it.

Stand firm and say that you want your baby with you. Repeat as necessary. Eventually you will have to stand up to this family, so you might as well start now.

Be open to other plans as long as baby is with mom. They sound very manipulative, so be sure when you set your limits you will stick to them. EVERY time. If they find out you will back down, they won't quit.

Enjoy Mothers day with your baby.

Seriously, your husband needs to check himself. He is way out of line.
It's Mother's Day! You spend it how you want. If his mother or sister or auntie or whoever it is that wants to take your child away from his/her mother on Mother's Day then your husband needs to tell them to kick rocks. Sorry, but this is just nuts.
Stand your ground mama. Don't be sad. You grab onto that child and love them and be with them on your day.

I personally would love the offer. If you don't then tell her thanks but no thanks.

Say "no" but invite your aunt out to lunch to celebrate with you. Tell her you would like to have all the ladies in your life, (your daughter as well as his aunt) that make it so great to be a mom.

Well the issue is, she is a bossy overbearing pushy woman, who seems controlling. And... Hubby will not stand up to her.
Thus, you will always be the odd man out.

You should do what you want to do.
It is your choice.
It is your day.

Maybe, does your Husband complain to his "Mommy".... about you?
I would hope not.
Maybe, Hubby is telling her... that he wants to have only you and him, be alone.
But regardless, it is not her business.
Or, maybe she just wants your child, to have that day.
But again, that is not her decision.
Gosh, she really seems like a real pushy woman.

We're only talking a few hours, right? My reaction is to say that she probably feels like she is doing something special, and that it is a treat for her to spend time with the baby. Personally, I LOVE getting a few hours of baby time,and jump at the opportunity, since my "baby" is 10. I think it is sweet of her to offer, and you would still get to spend most of the day with the baby, and your lunch won't be taken up with looking after the baby - it will be easier to relax and have hubby time.

It's your day and you are your baby's mother. Say no. Pull rank. Tell her that you want your child on MOTHER'S day and she can babysit another time.

It's your day. Do what you want. If you don't want to go without your baby, say so firmly. "Thanks, but it's Mother's Day, and I want to spend it with my baby..."

If it were me, I'd jump at the opportunity. A meal out with hubby and no kids. Whoo-hoo! But that's just me...

I've been a mom and now I'm a grandma so if it were me, I'd love a couple of hours with just hubby!

Well of course it should be about what YOU want.
But maybe your husband would like a date with you, without the baby, and this is just a convenient excuse?
Around here I get Mother's Day off, to go and do whatever I want, with or without kids. My husband gets the same thing on Father's Day.
Can't tell you what to do, just sharing our traditions :)

I'm so sorry. It sounds like you are afraid of your husband. I hope that's not really it, but it surely sounds like it.

I can't understand his thinking - did she want to go to lunch?

What a sad story here.

Dawn

Behind your back? Does that mean that you don't like for your child to be left alone with her? That's a different issue.

I don't know how old your baby is, but my husband wanted us to have lunch "just us" for my first mother's day. I still don't understand why and am also still a little mad that he insisted, and she's 5 this year. So if you want your baby there, you should have her there. It's absolutely your day.

she's your baby every day so why not let your mil enjoy a few hours while you reconnect with your husband?
It sounds like you never want her to watch the baby from your SWH saying he'll do it behind your back, if thats the case you're starting a war and unless theres a valid reason maybe you should give in a little

Your day, your baby...nothing to be discussed or considered. It is your day once again and there will be many mothers with their children and families surrounding them...talk about depressing. If it were your choice to have her stay, yes I get that, but in this instance it is unfortunate that you even have to feel badly about this.

Sometimes my father in law had to remind my mother in law that the baby was mine and not hers. She meant well, but over stepped the boundaries a little sometimes. Maybe your mother in law thought you would like a date with your husband for mother's day and wanted to help out? Maybe she knows your husband wants time alone with you and she wants to help make this happen? You did good to tell her that that is not actually what you want. Just because she loves your baby doesn't mean that you are obligated to let her watch the baby at any specific time. She can watch the baby the following week. Remember you are your baby's mommy.

oh my goodness.. well i would tell them that they can have your child the next day or the day before mothers day.
I dont think its fair that your in laws have the child during mothers day.. ide make a compromise..
maybe go out to lunch with everyone and then after lunch they can have your child and u go out for some quiet mommy time and just enjoy the day.

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If it's just lunch why not. Make breakfast or dinner the special time with your child.If your husband's aunt has done alot for him, give him the gift of you doing something for him and let him have his way.If it wasn't for his aunt he might not be who he is today. I know it's mom day and not fathers day, but you will be the "good one".

So.....could you go to lunch with your husband for 2 hours and spend the rest of the day with your baby?