I often feel the same way. I know lots of ways to keep a pretty darn clean house. But sometimes you just have to decide between the perfect house and quality of life.
So let's break it down. How much time do you watch tv? Do you get tired at the end of the day and veg out for an hour or more? I'm not going to say to stop doing that. But, clean on commercials. I can't tell you how much I can do in 5 minutes if I really put myself into it.
Then there's other ways of helping by never, EVER leaving a room without picking something up. This is just a cardinal rule for me and I try hard to teach it to the kids as well.
Your 6 year old and 3 year old should NOT be allowed to start one activity without putting away the first. If they do, you stop everything they are doing mid way and make them go back and pick up.
If your kids hate picking up you don't feed them until they do. You have to be absolutely consistent about this period. It only takes a few days of waiting a very long time for lunch before they learn to pick up.
How do you do when your cooking? My mother drives me crazy when she'll get out numerous cans, open them up and leave them laying around. She'll leave out the condiments, seasonings, bread and on and on without picking them up while things are boiling, baking etc. I never put a meal on the table without my stove and counters being cleaned before I serve the meal.
I don't mind dishes being unwashed if they are rinsed. So after a meal the dishes are rinsed and table washed and chairs washed down. This is so important. Wash the tables, especially the nasty ridges where kids put their hands all over it, the chairs too and the crevices every day. Otherwise, you end up taking hours and hours to run around and fix that.
The bathrooms.. Do something with every visit. Shine a mirror, sweep a floor, wipe down the handles, wash down the toilet etc. Do this every time you hit the restroom and your bathroom doesn' get too bad.
Vacuuming.. Do this 2-3 times per day. There's no reason what-so-ever to put it off. Once you are in the habit you will simply have clean floors. No carpet? Even better. Sweep several times per day.
It's a lot easier to stay on top of things than it is to get caught back up.
Laundry.. Do you have your own machines? If so, put in a load upon waking up. Fold that load and put another through during nap time. At night, fold that one and put another through and fold some clothes while watching tv. Wash at least one persons bed sheets every 3-5 days and the beds will stay clean without it becoming an all day washing marathon.
Organizing.. This is my WORST area. I try so hard to do something every day. It can be one shelf in the fridge. It could be one drawer anywhere in the house. It could be one shelf in a closet.
Toys.. Absolutely throw out anything broken or potentially dangerous and toys they don't play with the right way. If they are having more fun dragging them around the house than playing with them it's time to reconsider the way they spend their time. This is a constant struggle in my daycare. Lots of people want to see tons of toys. I'd rather kids spend their time learning how to play with the toys. There is room for creativity. But let's keep it real. A clean house is just as important to a child's development and growth as playing is. No one wants to be responsible for raising a slob!
By all means though, on nice days, throw out all I've just said and say forget about it! Enjoy the time outside and if you have done your job the right way, you won't fall too behind.
Suzi